Does anyone feel like this is wrong?
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Topic: Does anyone feel like this is wrong?
Posted By: CuriousG
Subject: Does anyone feel like this is wrong?
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:16pm
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This may be an insane thought but does anyone else feel 'guilty' when you touch your child - and what I mean is like when they are in the bath and you clean their bum/bits or when they are running around naked and you playfully slap their bottom?
I was talking to DH the other day about how I feel weird - in a society where touching children is such a no-no. I am her Mum - but yet I feel funny about it like I am doing something wrong? Am I the only one who feels like this? My mum reckons I am bonkers and that I shouldn't feel this way. She is probably right but I do! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:20pm
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No why should I feel guilty, I know I'm not doing anything wrong. I'm cleaning my child. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:22pm
| Er no I wouldn't, its part of being a mother? |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:25pm
Ummmmm nope. It's just being a mum. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:29pm
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I think I kind of know what you mean.. I often tickle my kids bottoms when they're running around nudie. There is nothing untoward in it, its just because they are such cute little heinies! But then sometimes I wonder if someone outside the family might think its a bit off.
Never really sticks with me though, its just playing and its not like I'll continue to do it when they're older. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:33pm
Exactly! It was what my parents used to do to me when I was young but these days, it feels like its unacceptable. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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caraMel wrote:Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 1:44pm
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I would probably feel a little weird doing it in front of people who don't have kids, because of society's reaction to those things these days, but otherwise nope. -------------  
 
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 2:01pm
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I don't feel weird at all but I know what you mean as DH didn't like going out with Michaela at the start because he was embarrassed about changing her nappy in the parents rooms and worried that people might think he was some sort of pervert.
He was also anti using cream which had to be rubbed in. -------------  
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 2:31pm
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CuriousG
funny that this is what the new legislation(?) has done to good parents..........my boy was being cheeky up town the other day and we were both laughing a tapped him on the bum and said smart arse..........this lady turned around and said 'well i never' you bloody lucky i dont call the cops on you young lady' wat the h"&^ .....and really thinking about your question...i dont as such fell quality but then when im in public after i do something im concerned if someone is going to phone the cops and with them over reacting.........we take foster kids in and for some it was left and no one called for help so its a catch 22. My hubby at the start refused to bath my boy...he said when he was changing baby nappy up town (no rooms) in the back of the car this lady stood ther and watched him. Prob didnt help that my hubby is brown :( ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 4:25pm
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I get what you mean CuriousG I sometimes feel like that when I have to give their bits a really good clean. I wouldn't say wrong more just that someone else might think it was.
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 4:42pm
Funnily enough I dont feel wierd at all and I totally overthink most things. I am lucky (I think) that I have a boy as I wouldnt want to be cleaning"in there" when they have the big poo explosions. I guess with everything external it doesnt seem wrong. And when you are cleaning up sh*t....it would hardly be enjoyable
But I do wonder about the fact that sometimes I blow (from a distance) when he has a wet bum as it tickles him and makes him giggle....now THAT sounds dodge.......did it at first to dry a very wet wash (without thinking of what I was doing)....he giggles so much. 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 4:56pm
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Willie used to use it as a convenient excuse not to change nappies, til I pointed out that if I even so much as *suspected* he was in any way that way inclined I wouldn't be letting him near my kids full stop so he needed to get over it.
It was sad tho when my sister came over to stay after I had the gremlins and Maya wanted to have a bath with her (she often baths with me) and my sister asked me if I thought it was "inappropriate"? I was really saddened by it, our society has so conditioned us that we think even the most innocent of activities could be misconstrued. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 6:14pm
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OMG Emma last night we had 3 boys and a girl in the bath together last night and we had no problems with that. Its like when you came down here and we had 5 of them in the bath together But I can see how you feel that way G, I do the same things with Andrew and Josh and I can see how someone looking in on it would thing its strange, but people these days are becoming some damn PC. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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