do i want twins or dont i?
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Topic: do i want twins or dont i?
Posted By: TysMummy
Subject: do i want twins or dont i?
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 2:38pm
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i already have a very active 11 mnth old boy who thinks hes rambo.......and im suppose to have twins......we are suppose to get pregs this year..(due to an opp next year) i kinda want twins but not .....basically im scared of getting pregs again as i almost didnt make it the first time, and im so exahausted from my boy who only sleeps 1 hour a day and still wakes at night. i see peoples pics of twins and how much fun it would be and how much hard work .......... i dont really know what i would do/how i would feel if the scan showed up 2 heads. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Katherine
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 2:48pm
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Whoa, hold on a minute here. You're not even pregnant yet, and you're questioning whether you want twins or not? Talk about jumping the gun! What makes you think you're going to get pregnant with twins? It sounds to me like your real question is when is the best time for your family to welcome another baby, not whether you want twins or not. |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:01pm
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we were suppose to have twins the first time ....and it falls on my in the pool to have them....we 'have' to get pregs this year as i get my ovaries removed next year and you kinda need them to get pregs. so this is why the question...........of course ill be happy with what ever but would like to hear from mums with twins as to how they cope ............. do they have family support or do it on there own.........is it easier with twins then a little rambo? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:04pm
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There is no guarantee that you'll have twins. What are your reasons for thinking that you're 'supposed' to have twins?
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:08pm
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as explained above,,,,,,,,,,and moving on from that bit..........just need to know how mums cope how they find it compared with 1 baby please ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:09pm
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Are you mad? I love my girls to bits but I wouldn't wish them on my worst enemy! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:11pm
That doesn't explain to me why you think you're supposed to have twins. Anyway , I'm blissfully ignorant as to how much more work it is to have twins as they were my first pregnancy. 
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TysMummy wrote:Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:15pm
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To answer your question about how I cope, I don't, I just get up every morning and get thru the day. I am looking forward to how much easier my next baby is going to be coz there is only ONE of her, with twins you get so caught up in the logistics of sleeping, feeding etc.
But of course there are good things - I love watching my girls play together (when they're not trying to kill each other!) and they interact so well, it's really cute. But yeah, hard, hard work! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:21pm
thanks maya that was really helpful.....:) looking at my boy now i wonder wat it would be like if the other one had made it and there was 2........i think i would go very mad :) luv him to the moon but luv him more when he is asleep  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 3:54pm
I'm confused about why you have to have twins? 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 4:09pm
Ha thats exactly how I feel with ONE baby and ONE toddler it amazes me how people manage with twins (but I guess you have no choice really) |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 5:25pm
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Mee too because as far as im aware you cant dial up twins unless Tysmum has some magical powers we dont know about!! Twins I think when you have then you just cope end of story. LIke Rach said no different than having a baby and a toddlers or in my case 3 kids all different ages. Best of luck for these future twins on order! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 5:41pm
Me too...
You cant just "choose" to have twins....its either happens or it doesnt... But good luck  ------------- |
Posted By: Redbedrock
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 5:55pm
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I am a strong beleiver in you being dealt the things you have the capacity to cope with. If you are having twins you adapt to that because there is no other option that I know of. As flissty said she knows no different to having twins as that is all she knows. If you have a single or multiple pregnancy you just cope with it and get through the day as what other choice is there? ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 6:00pm
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I know what you're saying - that you want to get pregnant but are worried that twins are a possibility for you. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rackhell
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 6:01pm
| I looked after my sisters baby and mine (3 weeks difference in age so twin-ish) for only two DAYS while invalid sister rested up. Can't really speak about your situation, but just to say lotsa hard, hard work, ended each day knackered but watched them play together, and you know what, at nine-ish months, they weren't half bad. I certainly coped better with two at this age than i did with one aged 0-6 months. |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 7:02pm
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ahhhhhhhhhhh guys i didnt actually say that i 'have' to have twins i said i have to have to get pregs this year. i said that im suppose to have twins due to the gene pool in life ...in our family and hubbys twins is on the cards......i said i have to get pregs now cause i wont be able to due to surgery next year.
Kels yes hun im well aware you cant order twins.....or any thing........but obviously everyone has got my coments all wrong or maybe i dont know how to type......i wanted mother or twins to give me there feedback on wat there opionions are if i do have them....Ty was suppose to be a twin hence my question ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 7:07pm
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meow-legend!!! thank you........but its not so much worried about them more how do you do things like feed....attend to bf......or nap time you know......?! last birth i was in hospital for over a month so nothing about Ty is 'normal' but we do ok so i missed the going home enjoying a new born so still have no idea wat to expect.........
thanks rackhel.....i know every kid is different but watching them grow up together must be so amazing to watch...watching ty just blows me away:) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:00pm
| I think it was the way it was worded that it caused confusion. |
Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:09pm
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I think what she's trying to say is that Ty *was* a twin when conceived, but the other one was an angel baby, and they have twins in the family history as well, so very high chances of having twins, but she only has one year before having surgery to get her ovaries removed next year, so she has to decide now. -------------  
 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:11pm
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AliaDawn.........very beautifully said ...thank you very much ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:15pm
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Yup I read Tysmummy's comments exactly the same as Alia explained above!
No advice here as I only have the one, but good luck with whatever decision you make in regards to having more children. Everything happens for a reason in life, if you're meant to have twins you will in the end. And I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Take Care ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:25pm
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thank you mum2lucas :) ps how cute is your little man with that grin............he is sooo gonna make some girl very jealous :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:32pm
Ahhhh gottacha now I think it was how ya worded it that caused confusion lol.
I guess if its in your family then there is the possiblitly of it happening, but then, you would be shocked to see two bubbas at first but then you would get used to it
Lots of ladies on here had twins for their first pregnancy, that would be so hard, having two wee babys to look after when your learning. I think you would be fine Just think of it like this way, some ladies cant have kids at all so to have twins is such a blessing.------------- |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 8:35pm
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i know where you are coming from too....my cousin in line next to me in gene pool is a twin, as are her other brother and sister...yep two sets!!! and mum (same lineage) also has twins and triplets (poss twin plus one) in her line...
so when i talk about twins people think i am nuts too...but there is a definate high chance for us...however with my uterus I will never be able to carry twins so if there is ever two to start with there wont be at end...and i cannot change that either....  I hear where you are at....on the twin thing!
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 9:48pm
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LIke everyone else has said, you cope just coz you have to. I didn't get a choice, I got twins (and mine are random, there are none in the family) and I just have to get on with it.
I do think that people overestimate the genetic connection with twins tho. Fraternal twins are carried down the maternal line so if your mother has twins or your sister has twins you are at increased risk, and of course if you are a twin yourself, but it doesn't "skip generations", that's just an old wives tale, and if there are twins in your partners family you don't have an increased chance of having twins as *you* need to have the gene to release two eggs. Or you could end up with identical twins like mine which are a complete freak of nature! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: thunderwolves
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 10:11pm
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I think the Gremlins are the two cutest freaks of nature I have ever seen... ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 10:13pm
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Like others have said if you are blessed with twins you will cope because you don't have any choice really.
Althought my 2 aren't twins I had a good 5 months of being woken 1-2 hourly and looking back I'm amazed I made it out sane (well half sane lol) but at the time it wasn't that bad and it was one day at a time stuff. Now they play so well together and one sleeps through so its really starting to pay off. I remember someone saying (maybe Tishy?) that one baby takes up 100% of your time so how can 2 take up any more. |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 18 April 2008 at 10:34pm
can someone please tell my MIL....she's obsessed with one of us 'wives' having twins  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: floss
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 6:39am
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I agree with everything Maya said! they are bloody hard work esp when I had 3 kiddies under 2 but I wouldn't change it for anything! ------------- My beautiful big girl Sienna 15.04.06 Double the trouble double the fun Noah & Lola 10/11/07 |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 8:30am
That was me and I still believe it. The house is a mess but the babies are happy most of the time
With 3 under 3 you get 240(?) hours home help. There is always the support of the Multiple birth club to fall back on too. |