Does it go away?
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Topic: Does it go away?
Posted By: caraMel
Subject: Does it go away?
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 4:50pm
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The urge to keep having babies I mean?
I really do not want a third child at this stage of my life, possibly ever, but I am plagued by this biological want to have another baby! Thankfully I anticipated my rampant cluckiness and contraception is well sorted, its just the crazy longing that I get anytime I see birth scenes in movies or tv that are driving me nuts! So does it go away? Please say yes! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 4:59pm
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NO.
sorry, it doesn't Even after all the guff of the last year or so, after all the talks with mike, the reasoning with myself, it's still there... that wanting, that feelingyou get in your arms that says they need another baby to cuddle. nope. we were made to have kids, i assume that this is naturees way of making us continue the human race regardless of what we tell ourselves.   ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 5:02pm
In short YES . BUT I have to say for me personally after No2 I had the same urges but insisted I didn't want another child. 3.5 years later along came No 3. After we had her all urges were gone, she is now 3.5 years old and the clock has stopped and I know feel my family is complete. I can now look at babies and although they still look cute I also see a big neon sign over them screaming out "no sleep, hard work". ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 5:04pm
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hmmm :( I feel this way too an although i want another child i would be stupid to try again so early after the complications of last time etc and Ethan being so young.. but all i seem to focus on is the good bits and i really *want* another baby..i wasnt even this lucky before i had him! so I've got a lifetime of this?:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 5:04pm
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LOL janine I didn't see your post.
So maybe the answer is there is a 50/50 chance it will go away. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 6:51pm
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I worry about the same thing Mel, when I was preg with the gremlins I was adamant that they would be my last but as soon as they were born I started having anxiety attacks at the thought of NOT having another baby. Now this time round I feel the same way - I'm determined this baby IS our last for real, the end, but at the same time I worry that once she is born I won't be able to let go of that longing to have another one, and let's face it, four kids is plenty, I can't go on having them indefinitely, especially given how sick I get during pregnancy.
But I have a friend who had her fourth baby a month after the gremlins and she gives me hope coz like Nuttymama, she says the urge is gone. Her third was going to be her last but she got accidentally pregnant with number four. She said that after number three she still felt clucky but that's gone now, so hopefully I will be the same once this wee bub arrives. Otherwise I am just going to have to grit my teeth and deal with it coz like it or not, no more babies for me! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 8:24pm
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I had to have another child after Nyah, I just didn't know when, but before Nyah I NEVER thought that I would be a mother to three children.
So now that I have Cooper I feel fulfilled. Sorry I guess that was no help to you at all. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 8:38pm
| Carmel thats exactly how i feel. Ive never wanted 3 kids, always planned two, a boy first and then a girl which is exactly what i got but I want a baby, I feel like Im not done and I need another baby yet I dont want 3 kids! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 8:44pm
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I want another baby.... ------------- |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 9:03pm
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befroe ty was born i always said that i would have 2 no matter wat .....after the 'very emotional' birth i decided that i was too terrified of having another one so would wait......at the beginning of the year found out that this year is my last chance to have anymore kids so we have to get pregs now.......i still arnt ready and have never been so scared ........... i keep thinking that things will go wrong like last time but this time we might not be so lucky :) maybe if things happened differently i would be clucky i dont know...mind you before i got pregs i wasnt clucky either ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 9:27pm
That's it! That's how I try to explain it to DH too, I just want to have the baby, I don't actually want 3 kids. What we have now is manageable, financially and in every other way. If we added a third to the mix it would impact our lives in so many ways, making it harder.. and I really feel like I'd be stretched beyond my capabilities. They're all really strong reasons not to have another. But then there's that awful hormonal ache that creeps up on me and I just feel like I need to do it again. Emotionally I hate the idea of never having another baby, I hate the finality of it. It make me so sad and I start thinking, of course we would cope, of course we could make it work and of course we would love another baby just as much as we love our two now! Logically I don't want it. Hubby doesn't either. Emotionally I do, and DH wouldn't be sorry if it happened. But then I know if I were to get preggers again I'd be a wreck wondering what on earth I'd done and how the hell were we going to cope with it. Thank God for the Mirena, I just really wish I could turn that emotional voice off! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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my2angels wrote:Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 10:23pm
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yeah i think had we had that #3, my urges would have been gone, i had the same probs, just that feeling that i'm not finished. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 10:45pm
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Get a kitten? -------------  
 
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Posted By: lucky3rdtime
Date Posted: 19 April 2008 at 11:52pm
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I know I want at least one more, not sure when though since Gabs is only 7 weeks old, but since i had a good pregnancy and birth I have not been put off by either of them, not sure how I would cope with two close together in age, but as I am now 36 I can't wait too long anyway. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 9:15am
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I think that's what I'll save grandkids for. And god help Ella if she's living overseas when she becomes a mummy!!!!! I want to spoil her kids rotten! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 9:30am
lol! DHs parents came from Ireland for 10 days at easter and are coming back in July for 6 weeks
I've always wanted 4 kids, I know I wouldn't be happy with 3 , so that's why I'm hoping for twins again next time so that we don't end up blessed with 5 kids 
I had a pretty easy pregnancy however, it's the thought of going through these initial few months again that scares me! |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 10:05am
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robyn & mel - i feel the same way! i don't want 3 kids but i'd LOVE another baby. everytime i see one i just want to cuddle it. everytime i hear one crying i just want to pick it up
it's so hard going to malls during the day, all the young bubs are out and about 
DH is allowing me a puppy for xmas so that's my new baby  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 1:19pm
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Vanessa, Robyn and Mel - you can borrow mine if you want, she will put you off wanting a baby!
------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 1:21pm
| I guess it only goes away once you become a grandparent - and then you want them to keep having more so you get to play with the little babes!! |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 1:40pm
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And you can give them back when they start screaming! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: marielb
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 1:42pm
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Not for me - but I know I want 4 so am only half way there. I hope that feeling goes away when I've had that many though
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 2:03pm
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I feel the same, it hurts to think I'll never have another baby but then I don't want to have to have all that no sleep and try and stretch our budget even further.
I'm like you Mel, thank god for that Mirena
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 20 April 2008 at 9:25pm
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*tick tock tick tock tick tock*
My biological alarm clock keeps going off no matter how many times the bank manager puts it on snooze 
Before I met DH I never wanted kids - wasn't the mummy type at all. Then before Caitlin was concieved, I said I'd have two at the very most. Then after she arrived (with the nasty labour and emerg CS) we were adamant 1 was plenty! But now.... My heart NEEDS another baby! I just don't feel complete - even though I love my daughter with all my heart and soul, I still feel I need that second child for our family to be entirely complete. DH says he feels the same but not at the same level. He'd love another child, but would be happy with us just having Caitlin. PLEASE don't let #2 be a "buy one get one free"!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: marielb
Date Posted: 21 April 2008 at 8:00am
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Hehe, I often think thats what will happen to us, Two Blondinis!!! The buy one get one free scenario
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 21 April 2008 at 8:33am
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Cats can be wonderful surrogate babies. I would specifically look for a female who has been abandoned and is extra friendly and super grateful for any love and attention. -------------  
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 21 April 2008 at 10:30am
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I want another baby!
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 21 April 2008 at 6:37pm
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two problems with the cat thing - I'm allergic and I don't know what it is about cats, but I just don't like 'em ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 21 April 2008 at 10:37pm
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awwww i love my cat. she's curled up on my lap at the moment and when i go to bed, she'll curl up with me there.
but i'm surrogating another baby for a puppy at xmas, so i guess it's the same thing mrsmojo ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 21 April 2008 at 11:09pm
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wow so glad i found this thread!!
i sooooooo want 1 more! dh secretly does but not yet, but its in my head ALL the time ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |