OMG you MIL sounds just like my friends MIL, she does the exact same things (including the cries of "i'll just go and kill myself then") and she does and they don't have children yet.

Big Hugs to you, hopefully you can get her sorted.

I think that its un-ethical, and that if a register physcologist or physcotherapist truly has done this then you could well have a discussion with the registration people. I think that you would find this would go against there principals etc.

I feel for you and your DH. I have a close family member that I havent spoken to for 8 years as they too were manipulative, drama-queeney and add zero value to our lives.  Its pretty tough sometimes, but in the end I know it was the best decision for me and my family (DH and Oli).

Your priority needs to be Joy, you are a fantastic mummy and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. No one is going to take her away - and threats from your MIL are just plain nasty. I would call her bluff and ask for a family meeting with the physcologist.

Yeah I agree with Stacey there. 

OK so I've had dealings with a fair few Psychologists through work, and I hate to say it but as stupid a thing as that is to do (if that is in fact what her shrink did), I can think of one Psychologist who has acted very unethically and unprofessionally (royally screwing up the case too).  So it's possible, but not likely.  Reeeally not likely. 

Ah, and about your worries that she may try to have Joy taken from you - I used to investigate CYF cases - all I can advise is that if she does contact them, they are obliged to investigate so a social worker will contact you.  This is good news - you'll know someone's called them, you're not kept in the dark about it.  They mightn't be able to say who it was who rang them, but I'm guessing you'd be able to figure that out anyway!  I can advise you not to avoid their calls or visits - they're only people after all, many with their own families, and they've got a job to do - the sooner it's done, the sooner you're left in peace.  Give as many details as you can, including contacts of other people who know you, knowing that they'll be kept confidential in your file.  The more you tell them, the more obvious it'll be to them what the notification was really all about.  Their job isn't to pluck children away from loving homes - and they do get malicious notifications so they know how to deal with them really well.  Here's hoping that it doesn't come to that, but still, should it happen, it's not the end of the world, and you'll be OK.