Consequences of actions…
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Topic: Consequences of actions…
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Subject: Consequences of actions…
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 8:12pm
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So every now and then we all make mistakes, and we say things that are just plain wrong. Its called being human and speaking (or in this case typing) before engaging ones brain. And the consequences of this – in a public online forum – is that you risk being criticised, slated and judged. I do however believe that people are entitled to their opinions – obviously in this case it was wrong to voice them, and I along with the other people involved have apologised for this. It is fine to be “called” out – directly - for your comments, but I don’t think its okay for people to discuss or judge you in another thread, especially not in a b*tchy or catty way. As mentioned before in controversial threads, if you have a problem with someone or something that they have said – take it up with them, don’t trash them in other threads. It also appears to often be the same people passing judgement that sometimes make controversial statements themselves. Seems a bit hypocritical to me. I have spent the afternoon stewing on this, trying to decide whether or not to post this, but have decided to risk the backlash and voice my opinion regardless of the consequences. I have been around Maybe I take some things too seriously, and other things I don’t take seriously enough so again I apologise to anyone that I have offended. I would go and edit the post, but feel that if people want to respond then they have that right.
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 8:18pm
OK, so I've missed something here obviously  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 8:20pm
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OK I think I know what's going on... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 8:24pm
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SimSam I can vouch that you are definately not a nasty person!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 8:30pm
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Yeah I think this kind of thing comes up every now and again, and for me personally - I think people should be able to say what they want within the guidelines of whatever forum they are part of.
Only thing I might point out about your statement is that it's a little contradictory. I mean, if someone is going to say something in a thread that offends other people - then surely if others want to talk about it somewhere else then that's their right also. Not everyone is confrontational and prepared to speak out directly to someone who has upset them in some way. For example, if someone wants to talk about how ugly someone else's child is, then they themselves have opened themselves up for critisism. They can't then be upset about others talking about them, even if it's in a bitchy way, just as they didn't care originally if they themselves had upset the mother of said ugly child. For the record, I don't think you're nasty from what I read. There are certain people who probably take a few too many bitch pills though. Me, I'm trying to cut down 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 8:51pm
| huh? im totally missing something here? can someone fill me in |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:04pm
| I'm not 100% sure but I think it started with the Woman's Day thread? |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:09pm
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Yeah it did.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:11pm
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I wouldn't worry about it. I actually wish people would speak up more and good on you for doing so. However I don't think that you and others should have to apologise for having an opinion. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:20pm
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Good on ya Sim Sam.
I've been shot down before for things I've posted, in the end I just hit delete, its not worth the aggravation. In relation to the WD thread, I think some of it is a bit of an over reaction. It's only Womens Day after all. Its supposed to be trashy, and make us all feel better that the celebs have troubles same as the rest of us. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:23pm
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It amazes me that cat fights can happen over the internet.
It seems to me that people are simply just voicing their own opinion (whatever it may be) which I think is one of the best things about OhBaby. We live in a free country after all... -------------    
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:26pm
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Trust me there have been bigger cat fights in the past. I thought that one was quite tame. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:28pm
I didn't even know it WAS a catfight! I must be sheltered  ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:29pm
Hehehe same! Mah, we're (mainly) all girls here...bickerings will happen...or even handbags at 20 paces as B would say!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Maya wrote:Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:30pm
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Well I thought it wasn't one either, but I was just saying there have been biggers ones. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:31pm
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Definelty have been bigger ones! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BellaBoo
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:32pm
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I read it, thought it was a bit off, and then moved on. No real biggie and no malice intended I think.
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:32pm
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Well perhaps cat fight is too strong but I couldn't think of anything else! -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:34pm
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disagreement??? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:36pm
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Definitely not a cat fight, people voicing (or in this case typing ) different opinions. No harm intended. As someone mentioned above its a free country - why hold your tongue? ...and when I put in my 2c worth I definitely wasn't singling any of you out.
And I agree with Mel above, you shouldn't feel the need to apologize....what's said is said. Is there really any need for it to carry on in this thread? ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:37pm
Why not, where ever you get a bunch of gossipy women together, there is bound to be a few claws out. OB is RL isn't it!? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:45pm
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*I think this calls for a song*
Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens Bright copper kettles and warm woolen mittens Brown paper packages tied up with string These are a few of my favourite things Girls in white dresses with blue satin sashes Snowflakes that stay on your nose and eyelashes Silver white winters that melt into spring These are a few of my favourite things When the dog bites When the bee stings When I'm feeling sad I simply remember my favourite things And then I don't feel....... soooo badddddd.......  ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:49pm
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LOL aww Liz -Thank you for that ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 9:57pm
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hehehe just having a wee giggle remembering some of the 'disagreements' we have had on here.
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 10:02pm
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Hehe so did I ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 10:06pm
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I beg to differ - I did feel like there was a need to make this post. For my own reasons, but mainly as I needed to get it off my chest. I didnt intend for the controversy to carry on in this thread (and I dont think it is). It wasnt about finger pointing either - but more about my feelings on the matter. Hehehe Liz - thanks for the song...poor Oli gets to hear it all the time, its one of Mummies standard car songs! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 10:20pm
Well i think it's good that you are opening up about how you feel ...and as for the word 'controversy' - I wouldn't go so far as using that word - Heated discussion maybe  .
Just don't get too cut up about it all, people are bound to butt heads on here ...the world would be a boring place if we were all to have the same opinions. ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 10:31pm
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*and altogether now*
When the dog bites When the bee stings When I'm feeling sad I simply remember my favourite things And then I don't feel....... sooooooooo badddddddddd.......
yes I am going to bed... honest... ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 10:38pm
 yes it's past your bedtime missy...
Bless you ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 10:48pm
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I didn't even think it was that bad???? sheesh, its not like you said you were looking at my pictures and typed that you thought Jake looked like he had downs or whatever... That might be a bit different ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 28 April 2008 at 11:30pm
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WTH? I've been lurking here on and off all day and I missed all the excitement! *passes round the choccie bickies* ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 9:41am
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Ok, here's my two cents worth.....
If you put yourself in the public eye then you are going to be commented on. And unfortunately, because her kids are what she writes about, and she is always photographed with them for the magazine she is therefore putting them out there for the same kind of public comment. Personally, the only difference I see in commenting on her and her kids, and say Angelina Jolie and her kids, is that there is a possibility that Greer may read this. Ok - edited to say, just seen the comments in the WD thread saying exactly what I've just said. Sorry! |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 9:53am
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It doesnt matter what anyone says anywhere, because at the end of the day, someone wont like it. Big hugs SimSam. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 12:11pm
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Good on ya SimSam
And Liz, now I have that damn song in my head. Poor Hannah ------------- 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 1:01pm
too true - whats that saying - you cant please all of the people all of the time...
i think you'd go dolally if you even tried... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 1:02pm
surely not, not on this board!!! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 1:03pm
so what is the differenc between saying it about greer and you? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 1:12pm
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Hehe bizzy, I was thinking the same thing! Surely that was the point!!
I think it comes down to treating others the way that you would like to be treated... nicely hopefully - or at least thoughtfully... ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 8:35pm
Cos you know for sure that I'll read it and whip your ass, Biz! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 29 April 2008 at 8:46pm
HAHAHAHA ... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 30 April 2008 at 2:30pm
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Oh right, finally got this thread up
Haven't bothered to read the posts after OP
As someone who constantly lives with their foot in their mouth I can only offer commiserations, for most people a "woopsy daisy sorry" will cover it but a small amount of people will tar you with the "meany pants" brush. You can be as sensitive or as insensitive as you like people but the reality is that if you string someone out (on public thread) for an indisgressive post, then the likely hood is pretty high that they might return the favour when you say something not so pretty. I think that think before you speak goes both ways. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: Chovynz
Date Posted: 30 April 2008 at 4:16pm
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I say good on your for posting. I reckon
too many people bottle things up. Not good for your health. Simsam. I have no idea what this is about. But good on you for posting. I think you have posted how you felt in a respectful and truthful way and people have responded instead of reacting. And if someone does get their knickers in a twist... What does it affect you? Does it contribute to your wellbeing? Does it matter what another person thinks or says in a judgemental way about something personal? Does it change your paycheck? No. You have support from this forum. Everyone has supporters and critics. Don't let them get you down. Listen to the supporters. Hugs - I guess. ------------- Defending the male species since 1980
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