worst mother award goes to...
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Topic: worst mother award goes to...
Posted By: lizzle
Subject: worst mother award goes to...
Date Posted: 04 March 2006 at 8:42pm
| Me! Had a horror day today. Every saturday morning, jake and i go to swim clas. Usually mum takes us. Today Dad rang and wanted to take Jake and I. So I said yes. He also brought my nephew Sam, who's five. We got to the Lido and of course Sam wanted to swim, so I said that Jake could get in too, but to go to the toddler pool. Jake and Sam got in. Anway, after about five minutes Jake slipped and started doggy paddling. His head was going under and he was in trouble....and I froze! I knew that he was potentially drowning, and I stood there. Dad ended up running in, in his clothes and getting him. i feel like the worst mum ever. Standing there while my child drowns. I nearly burst into tears as we went over to the swim school (where incidentally Jake had a great lesson and enjoyed it all). I can see him even now, struggling in the pool and it makes me sick with guilt that I didn't do anything. |
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 04 March 2006 at 8:45pm
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oooh Liz, you poor chicky! You must have been rooted tot he spot in fear. Don't beat yourself up too much, you poor thing. Big hugs. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Gracielou
Date Posted: 04 March 2006 at 8:53pm
Lizzle you poor thing, that must have been the scariest moment ever! Don't beat yourself up over it, I'm not sure how I would have reacted, would have probably frozen too. My sister went through a similar thing when her youngst was only 1, he had a seisure and turned blue and she just stood there, didn't know what to do so hubby sorted it out and bubs was fine, so you are not alone there. So no, I don't think you're the worst mother (that award belongs to me at times) your simply human, sending big hugs your way.
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 March 2006 at 9:06pm
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fear does wired thing to people hope u feel better soon a friend of mine little girl didced she would jump back into the bath while she dressed her oldest lucky she went looking for her please dontfeel too bad big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 04 March 2006 at 9:43pm
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Freaky Liz cos after Marlenes post and janines mishaps I was gonna start a topic on the "blonde moment' mum of the year where we all tell each other about our "blonde" moments and vote on who is the "blondest" of them all.I no Janines mishaps werent really funny at the time(more scary) but may well be something she will look back on and laugh about ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 04 March 2006 at 10:14pm
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As Lu said, fear does strange things to ppl and everyone reacts differently, I would of froze as well. I remember when Xanda was only 3wks old and on antibiotics, I squirted it in his mouth too fast and he was choking and couldn't breath, I just stood there holding him and not knowing what to do. My aunty grabed him off me and managed to rescue him from chocking to death. I felt so terrible that I just birst into tears and couldn't stop. Please don't beat yourself up over it, It will just make you feel worse. I hope you feel better soon. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 1:54am
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totally, we are only human afterall.
On xmas day last year caitlyn was in the pool with my cousins and brother i turned around for A SECOND literally just a second and she was in the deep end struggling and i couldnt move-it was like i was stuck, luckily i yelled to my bro and he grabbed her And another time caitlyn totted at the top of the stairs and i went to grab her and before i got to her she fell, head over feet and i could just watch helplessly...and does anyone find u have nightmares afterwards where for instance the stairs (for eg) are not carpeted but stone? Hey also when my bro and sis were babies my mum got out of the car and left the handbrake off and the car went rolling down the drive with the kids in it 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 7:16am
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big hugs Liz. I agree with what the others said. And stop beating yourself up about it. He's fine and thats all that matters. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 9:35am
Aww Liz, thats scary stuff, no wonder you freaked and froze. None of us can know what we would do in a situation like that and you cant prepare yourself for it. Dont beat yourself up about it. We all do stuff like that and they are fine.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 9:47am
| liz i bet you if anything like that happened again you would be first in the pool... its done now, but i know what you mean about reliving it and feeling sick. gabriel ran onto a main road the day of my grandmothers funeral and hours later i was talking to my mum about it and just burst into tears at the thought of what might have been. |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 10:25am
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Liz You're not the worst mum in the world! We've all had a time where we panic and don't respond how we'd like to. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nuttymama
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 2:34pm
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Big Big hugs. Don't feel bad, no one else ever knows how they would react unless they are in the same situation. I would probably freeze to. ------------- Abigail 06/01/2005 Jayden 21/11/2001 Micheal 03/04/1997 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 6:47pm
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I've done the exact same thing - Maya was walking waist deep in water and slipped forward and couldn't find her footing. I did pull her out, but only after the lifeguard screamed at me to grab her. Very humiliated! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 6:51pm
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Oh liz thats aweful but i know the feeling. We were at a friends house and Keegs started choking really badly on an orange and I couldnt move. In the end my friend was the one who stuck her fingers down his throat to pull it out.
Im ok if something happens and its just me and the boys but if we are at friends/family and something like that happens I sometimes freeze. Weird huh So hey dont beat yourself up even thou you can still see his face he wont even remembver a thing. And the great thing was he had a great swim lesson so he left with a positve feeling about the pool. ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 7:27pm
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I agree with the others. DOn't beat yourself up and don't think you are a bad mum, fear can make people freeze. I remember when someone I used to be close with got hit in the face by a firework back firing....all I could was collapse and scream luckily as someone else grabbed him and shoved his head under cold water...when it's someone we care about it's so easy to panic and be rooted to the spot. You're only human sweetie so please don't feel guilty. *big hug* ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: netballgirl4
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 8:14pm
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ur not a bad mother ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 8:46pm
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My mum did the same thing when I nearly drowned and my swim instructor had to haul me out of the water (silly me thought I could float without flotation aides, called out to mum to watch and just lept on in!). You are not a bad mother at all and I think you would find, that if there had been no one else there your reaction would have been different ------------- "> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 9:41pm
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james was chocking on a pice of a wine bics and i just stood there and yelled at my sister to help him was so scared dont feel bad we all do it at one time or nothr ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 9:46pm
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Liz you are a FANTASTIC mum. Who knows how we would react in the same situation??? The main thinkg is he is absolutely fine. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 9:47pm
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I find that when it's just me and Arna I am ok and can do what I need to do to "save" her (wether its choking, drowning, dog jumpin on her etc) but if my partner's home or anyone is around I tell them to do it!!
Like a few weeks ago we were driving home from town and Arna had a biscuit or something and started choking and I told david to stop the car before I jumped in the back seat... I don't know why cause I could reach her from where I was, but as soon as he stopped she was ok.. Must've been his driving ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 05 March 2006 at 10:58pm
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Big hugs Liz - can't say much cos i'm just as 'blonde' but please don't beat yourself up about it, fear and panic hit you at times like these, and theres nothing you can do - after Ayja fell at 6 days old, i grabbed her pretty much as she hit the floor i think - but then sat on our bed, staring into space, just cuddling and holding her, in a state of shock for at least 2 - 3 minutes before i thought "oh crap!!!!' and started shaking and sobbing uncontrollably, and woke everyone up. It is a normal thing to freeze.
And the flashbacks possibly never completely go away - but get less frequent - every time i closed my eyes for a while i would get them, see Ayja on the ground, and after last week i got them again, and still get them. It is something that stays with you i think, just another scar of motherhood. hang in there. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 06 March 2006 at 9:57am
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Oh Liz.....I can only imagine what that was like...in all honesty I dont know how I would have reacted....I dont think any of us will know untill we are put in that situation....But just remember you are not a bad mum. You have two beautiful, healthy and loved boys.
These things happen!!! and our kids will be stronger for it!!! Big ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 March 2006 at 9:27pm
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Aw Liz, you are a fantastic Mum! Even I wouldn't mind you as my own! (If I were say 20 years younger).
I had a similar moment when Hannah choked on a bit of persimmon as we were in the supermarket aisle and she was in her buggy. I didn't notice and it wasn't until a guy ran over from the next aisle that I realised. Felt soooo terrible. Lucky he saw or she might have choked seriously. Good to hear Jake is fine. It's all a bit of preparation for the many time he'll get himself into those type of situations over the next year or two! I'm sure next time you'll know exactly how to react. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 07 March 2006 at 9:05am
LOLOL, sorry but that sounds soooooooooo "classy" (Hannah choked on a bit of persimmon) LOLOL helooooo persimmon, what happened to good old apple, ROFRL    ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 07 March 2006 at 11:30am
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Hey, you shoosh... she loves it!!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 07 March 2006 at 10:08pm
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lmao Ana!
although, I should admit that Ella loves pesto, feta, camenbert etc ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 March 2006 at 7:45am
| jake pallette is limited to nectarines at the moment...although mum reckons he's "off" nectarines and onto peaches |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 08 March 2006 at 9:55pm
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very rich tastes james loves god old banana ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |