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Topic: baby shower
Posted By: first
Subject: baby shower
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 10:08am
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Are you having one? If you are what are you planning?
Have you had one? What did you do? Did you enjoy it? At what stage of you pregnancy did/are you have/ing your baby shower? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 10:29am
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i was about 26 weeks because he was due feb so Christmas fell when i wanted it..I'm not big on embarrassment so we just had a few games(count the jellybeans, flavours of baby food etc) and just about 10 women and food and drinks,..was nice.. :) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: M.i.s.s.y
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 11:49am
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I would love to have 1, asked a couple of my good friends when there uni holidays were closer to sept, & they say start of july, so thats when il be planning on having one, i think il b around 31weeks. -------------    
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Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 12:04pm
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With my first pregnancy I was around 31 weeks - reason why I had one at that stage of pregnancy was because my sister was going overseas for a few weeks and she wanted to organise it and it would have been a bit late if we had one when she got back. I won't be having one with this second pregnancy. ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: Henna79
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 12:15pm
| for those of you who have had one or are planning are you/have you organised it yourself? |
Posted By: SarahP08
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 1:09pm
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I'm having one at the end of June, I'll be 33 weeks by then.
I've got two friends organising it for me, we'll be playing games and having food and presents!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 1:43pm
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My SIL and Mum organised mine. I can't remember how far along I was but it was towards the end, maybe 34+ weeks. My brother and SIL got married mid-Feb and Jack was due 2 May so it was arranged for after their honeymoon. There was manily family and some friends. We did guess the birth date, weight and gender, guess my tummy measurement (there were some VERY unflattering guesses!!), fastest to fold an old style nappy and put it on the cabbage patch doll. We just had food and drink. It was a lovely afternoon.
I would like to arrange my own if/when #2 comes along but I am thinking something not so 'baby shower-ish' like High Tea at the Langham with no pressies. ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 3:20pm
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I just had mine at 28 weeks, would have left it later but really wanted my aunty to come who is almost due so if I had it any later she couldnt come
I wrote the invite list, did the invite, chose the date etc and mum handled the RSVPS and put on the food and drink I had about 30 people which was quite tiring and embarassing getting all those gifts  but it was nice
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Posted By: Zebra7
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 3:34pm
I actually feel kind of cheeky ... like it's just an excuse to get given presents. Is that crazy???  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: first
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 5:12pm
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No that is exactly how I feel Zebra which is why I started this thread just to see what other people did for theirs and whether or not it was a big thing here in NZ. I don't think I would have one if it weren't for my friends all asking for one to happen. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 5:15pm
| Remember you can say no presents on the invite! Thats what I was going to do :) |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 5:50pm
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On an American forum I sometimes visit there is a lady who started a thread about her "Baby Shower from HELL". She is complaing about the gifts she recieved!! She is moaning cos she got heaps of onsies, and that she got a bottle of wine(GOSH she doesnt have to drink it now could be for afterwards!!). She goes on to say that she didnt need any of that stuff and nothing she wanted etc!!!
This is her post I got 32 onsies. I didn't need ANY onsies. I also got one pack of burp cloths and one pack of receiving blankets. I didn't need either. I also got a bottle of wine. WTF? And that was it. NOTHING came from my registry. The shower lasted 20 minutes. There were NO decorations. It was so ghetto. The worst part is that all that crap came from Target. And they have a terrible return policy. I may be stuck with this crap. OH! And one of the "5-packs" of onsies had been opened, the top onsie removed and then crammed back in. In another "5-pack," the top onsie had been removed and not replaced. So it was now a 4-pack. I can't return that one at all. This just hacks me right off!! There are some people who have hardly anything for their babies and this selfish women is moaning about the "crap" she did get!!! ------------- |
Posted By: M.i.s.s.y
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 6:09pm
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OMG, wot a B***H!!! -------------
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 6:38pm
I agree!! Jesh! I had one around 36 weeks I think it was...maybe a little earlier...can't remember now. It was more an excuse for us girls to get together for afternoon tea, my friend organised a couple of games and got everyone to contribute towards a notebook of tips which has been a wonderful keepsake! My cousin orgnaised nibbles which was really great! It was just a nice relaxed afternoon. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Missy77 wrote:Posted By: bub
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 6:42pm
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well she is an ungreatful women isnt she.
my sister organised my baby shower for me think i was bout 30 or so weeks jsut had picky food drinks and pressies was a good excuse to have a chat and giggle with my friends and family. So what do you think? you should have a baby shower with all your pregnancies or just for the first i think just for the first but maybe different circumstances you could have more than 1. ------------- mother to Brianna, Amelia & Mathew. http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: gypsynita
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 7:02pm
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This is my first - but my sister is organising mine for me. Gifts-wise she's buying us a tree to plant for bubs and told people if they want to contribute to buy a baby-store voucher to pin on the tree. I thought that was quite a cool idea, and not so embarressing!! She's just organising afternoon tea at a local cafe, so pretty low-key and in public so no shameful games lol!
------------- Anita Mum to Cian (Aug 08), Josh (Jun 10) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:13pm
No. I did feel a little cheeky with all the wonderful gifts we received but also enjoyed celebrating such a big event in my life. I just liked the fact that people came to help celebrate with me. I would like to have a baby shower of sorts when (if we are lucky enough) we have more children. I would definately say no presents, but I would like to just get together with my friends and family to celebrate the birth of our baby. ETA: Oh, and the American woman - that is so disgusting and ungrateful. If she is that type of person she is lucky anyone showed up at all, maybe she won't be seeing many of them again! ------------- Lindsey
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:14pm
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I had mine at 7 months - AN E (June 07 mum) organised it and it was great. Cake, fudge, other yummy food. I was spoiled rotten with gifts.
I loved it because it was a chance to catch up with all my female friends which is a bit hard when you're pregnant because you're often too tired to go visiting. Plus we could do girly talk with no men around to complain
We didn't do games because truthfully they make me uncomfortable but if you want to do that kind of thing there are great websites with ideas - just google for them. -------------  
 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:21pm
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Yeah I couldnt believe it when I read it and the thing is all the other women on the forum agreed with her! I told her I thought it was un greatful lol.
I had a small baby shower with nibbles and games. I got gifts but I didnt ask for anything But I love what I got  ------------- |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:23pm
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Yeah I meant to say register???? I didn't know you could have a baby shower register. They sure do take these things seriously in the States.
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:31pm
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yeah Im not even going to go back to that site anymore I think, Ive had enough of reading all the crap they talk about. Like most of the women have bitched about their baby showers for various reasons and a lot of them have has 2 or 3 baby showers!!! They just seem to expect SO much....its weird.
Thats why I love OhBaby, good ol' New Zealand women with realistic views etc ------------- |
Posted By: Zebra7
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:37pm
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I agree Sheza
Here's another question ... do you invite only women to the baby shower (traditional) or guys as well?? I know most would probably not be interested but maybe male family members? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 08 May 2008 at 8:55pm
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I just invited girls ------------- |
Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:07am
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The Brits are not that keen on Baby Showers for the most part so it must be an American tradition. I understand the basic ettiquette is that you dont organise it yourself, its females only, food and drink and games are laid on and I think its normally for first babies but I could be wrong.
Then again we kiwi's are pretty good at putting our own stamp on things so I wouldnt be overly worried about most of those 'traditions'. If you did organise it yourself I'd probably go with Your Presence is the only Present I need type of invite and just secretly hope everyone ignores you hee hee You could always call it a Pre Baby Gathering and do a BBQ or something so the Boys can come along and be comfortable too knowing its not just a girly thing.
As for that American forum person well seems to me she got way more than she deserved, I would bet money on her being a bitter person in life in general and that's why no one was bothered to spoil her. ------------- 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 8:15am
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I've been to one with guys there and it was still just as much fun, again, it was more just friends getting together which was really nice! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 9:35am
Registers seem to be more popular now days here, I think Baby Factory do them and there are websites as well. I think the people that attended mine just asked my SIL if there was anything that I needed. I don't have a large extended family so quite a few of my SIL's family came, her aunts and Grandmother which was lovely. One of the best presnts I got was a cardy, hat and blanket SIL's grandmother had knitted 
We only had girls. DH, Dad and my brother's went to SIL's parents to watch the Warriors and ended up having a shower of sorts! Dad when to KMart and put together a "Man Baby Kit" for DH. It was a yellow bucket and in it he put things like pegs and wrote on it "Sh*t really stinks", kitchen tongs labelled "No 1s" and No 2s" etc etc. They all had a good laugh! DH and I have been invited to a baby shower with both males and females. Unfortunately we couldn't attend but I think that it is more common now ------------- Lindsey
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 11:54am
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I had mine at 34 weeks and some of my friends organised it for me so it was really good.
They did all the decor, organised all the foods (oh my GOD ...so much food) and they bought me sooooooo many pressies that I was spoilt rotten!! My DH's family believe it is bad luck to by for baby before it is born so I had nothing at all for her....so it was really good to have baby shower this way I got given loads of baby practical stuff and cloths. I dont know what will happen with this one tho?? I dont know who will organise this time around. Might have to do it myself!! LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 12:41pm
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When i was pregnant i was the first of my friends to have a baby so none of us really knew what a baby shower involved, I just had some close friends over and we basically had a get together, main baby related thing i did was get them all to write a message to Caitlyn in a book I bought
Since then i've gone to other baby showers and there are heaps of baby games you can play , and heaps of ways of doing it,eg a lunchtime type affair with the girls, or if you want your DP/DF/DH to be involved in the shower you could have it more as a bbq thing in the evening. Oh yeah and since i didnt show till i was about 30 weeks I had it at 32 i think , otherwise my friends would have probably accused me of just getting chubby and not being pregnant at all
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Posted By: Helen21
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 12:50pm
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In the OhBaby! mag there is a really good story about having a 'new family' shower. With men involved too they also suggest it could be an elegant dessert evening! yummy! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: first
Date Posted: 09 May 2008 at 1:32pm
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Sounds like baby showers are pretty open to interpretation here in NZ so that is good. I just want a really laid back girls evening I think. My flatmate is more excited than I but she is keen to run with that idea.
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