Dating Advice
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Topic: Dating Advice
Posted By: mummy_becks
Subject: Dating Advice
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 7:55pm
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***This is not for me - for a male friend*** I have a good male friend who I have been there and done that with about 7 years ago and now we are really good friends. He had a really nice GF who all of the sudden broke it off with him a few weeks ago, he has only given me his side of the story so I don't actually know what happened. He is finally over her and went out last night to have some fun. He met this girl and she gave him her phone number and said call me. So this morning he sent me a txt telling me what happened and that he got a number and was going to call her today. I told him that if he did that he would be seen as overkeen and he might scare her off. What do you think he should do?? and what does your DP think as well?? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 7:58pm
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I think you should let him decide, he was the one that met her so should have a "feeling" about whether or not he'd want to take it further.
Craig said he should go for it. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:04pm
DH says "It depends how hot she is"
He then went on to say "It depends on the individual. If he really felt he had a connection, he should call, what's he got to lose?" I say go for it... You never know unless you give it a go 
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http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:04pm
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depends when he got her phone number ... I say for him to ring her - it doesn't have to be a life long committment maybe a bit of fun or someone to hang with - get him back in the dating game.
I have met a guy saturday night and he rung me sunday afternoon - keen yup - but still with him  and married------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:09pm
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I think most girls prefer a phone call sooner rather than later don't they? I know I would have anyway.
If he likes her, then he should call her. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:10pm
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Nooo Way don't ring until at least Weds. Even if she is keen this will get her even more keen. Trust me
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:15pm
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This is what I thought as well ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
RachandJack wrote:Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 8:47pm
Ditto  -------------  My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 18 May 2008 at 9:25pm
ok i know this is a rule of thumb rule of dating - But really if a guy waited till a wednesday to ring me - I wouldn;t be keen i would of begun to think of the next one LOL.... ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 12:12pm
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Yep same as Ann,...If I met a guy in the wekend,..and didnt hear from him til Wed, and I liked him,...I would have spent all that time thinking that I had got it all wrong/what was wrong with me/ etc etc,...and would be over it by Wed!
I would want a ph call by Mon night! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 12:19pm
Same here! I would not be impressed about hearing from him until Wed |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 1:27pm
Ditto, I would have lost interest and definetly not be interested in playing what I see as games! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Red
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 2:42pm
| Same here, if you are interested let them know, don't play games. |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 3:25pm
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Yeah I agree, if he's interested he should let her know.
What's the point of waiting and risking her losing interest? ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 3:45pm
| Man if I guy ever rung me before wednesday I wouldn't make a date, no thanks too clingy. I suupose it depends what hes after, if he wants to get married next week then ring her, if he wants something casual/slow I'd wait til weds. |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 4:06pm
| I use to do the (very) casual thing and even if that was what I was looking for I would still get annoyed that they waited that long to call |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 7:09pm
| I hate clingy guys, but I dont think ringing Mon is being too keen! Lol! I guess its a personal thing,..maybe he should ph on tues then,..not too clingy and not too keen! |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 7:57pm
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I'd go with Monday night - but is it too late for that? LOL! But from there why doesn't he go ahead and invite her to some kind of group thing next weekend so it's not a pressure-full date to start with. (They don't know each other at all, right?) So maybe a few friends are going out for drinks or... I dunno, whatever he does for fun! ------------- |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 7:59pm
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I *think* he is going to send her a txt tonight to see what she wants to do this weekend. I am going out with him on Saturday night after I have been at my friends 40th, he wants me there to scare away the *psycho's* as he put it. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 8:05pm
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What a Text???? sorry but a personal phone call is what is in order... texts can get ignored - not delivered - miss inturperated (sp??)
------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 8:06pm
hehe have you had a few clingy guys ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 8:42pm
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Yeah it was by txt, and he has a date with her on Thursday for coffee, desert and then maybe a movie. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 9:29pm
oh cool  ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |