OMG SUICIDE
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Topic: OMG SUICIDE
Posted By: fattartsrock
Subject: OMG SUICIDE
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:19pm
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my sister in law committed suicide this evening im in shock I am shaking i can't think straight im trying to finish jobs i need to get done and im looking for sympathy i just can't beleive it they just got engageds and were so happy and he went to her place tonite they live int he same block of flats and she wouldnt answer and he had to break in and he found her and omg im so worried for him hes a fragile soul im scared he will do the same thing.
FLUCK. Christchurch ladies who i met up with its the girl i brought with me, so happy and nice and a beautiful little girl, i was gonna give you her ph no kandice she really liked you. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
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Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:26pm
Hi I havent been on here for ages and just read your post.Im so sorry for you.what a sad sad situation that is.is it your brothers partner?thats so awful.I feel like having a cry for her that she felt that was the only option for her.she is going to leave behind many confused and hurt people.Far out.thinking of you....... ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:28pm
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OMG, I'm so sorry for your loss!! It's such a shame when people think suicide is the only way out -------------  
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Posted By: LuluBelle85
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:32pm
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I'm so sorry hun! Can't say much other than that I'm thinking about you and your family. I have been through the same (a friend of mine aged 20 years at the time) so I know how horrible and tragic it is. BIG 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:32pm
Big hugs. I wish there was something I could. I am so sorry for your loss. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:34pm
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Hey, If you need anything please PM me, I've been there done that, pretty much the exact situation as what you and your family are now going thru.
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:35pm
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OMG Annie big hugs to you and your family. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:38pm
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:38pm
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Annie, first of all *big hugs* been there done that etc , horrible horrible situation
second of all, sit down , get yourself a glass of wine or something and allow yourself to let it out-the jobs can wait, you've had a big shock , your allowed to feel out of it
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:42pm
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she had a wee girl, almost 18 months old. Cahrlotte has alot of her stuff. she did it in her room baby was at her grandmothers omg i cna't beleive it my poor brother he found her and i feel desperate for her, she was so nice and so good fo rhim he will never get over it i can't get how you can leave your baby behind liek that but omg omg ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:47pm
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thats so sad, i dont understand how anyone can do it when they have kids, she must have reached a really desperate point...
do they have any idea at all what her reasons may have been? Where is your poor brother? (is it your brother?) i hope hes got somewhere with a lot of support he can go?? |
Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 10:54pm
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OMG Annie I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, I don't know what to say ...as I've never dealt with this kind of thing before
Big HUGS I don't understand how people can take their own lives, like you said - especially when they have children.
Will be thinking of you & your family, stay strong for your brother - hopefully you both have a lot of support at a time like this
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Posted By: Freesia
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 11:05pm
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What a truely sad situation especially for her wee little girl. You do wonder what it was that made her feel helpless enough to resort to suicide, especially when it sounds like there were so many people that cared about her.
Hugs to you all -------------  
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 19 May 2008 at 11:28pm
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I wish I could think of something comforting to say Annie, words seem so useless in situations like this.
My heart goes out to you and everyone affected by it, I'm crying just thinking about how what you all must be going through. Sending you all lots of love and prayers xxx ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 5:46am
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Annie - first of you HUGE HUG - I am so sorry to hear you are having to cope with this.
Suicide is such a thoughtless thing to do - I have had several people around me do it, including an exes ex wife, and a friends husband - one had tried so many times before succeeding, and the other did it to punish a cheatng partner --which backfired cause it left her a widow and free to remarry straight away which the heartless wench did. Sorry! There will be reasons you may never even know about and this may not be the first time she has tried. It is just so sad that she succeeded - esp leaving a child behind who deserved to have its mother in its life. Noone understands that. Be there for your brother....make sure he knows that this is a huge loss BUT life goes on and the effect of this loss is minimal in the scheme of things...you need to make sure that if he is contemplating doing similar that he understands it wont affect the world etc and also try and get him some help too so he can be helped to stay here. is it his baby? the poor bubba....that is so sad. Again BIG HUGS |
Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 6:08am
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 6:50am
| hugs annie. can't relaly think of anything of meaning to say other than we are thinking of you over here and your poor bro. |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:21am
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:28am
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Hugest hugs to you.
I sat talking to her for quite a while at that meet up she was lovely. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:34am
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Oh Annie, that's just awful. Really sad. I'm thinking of ya ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:38am
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Havent got the words to express what i am wanting to say, so just know that i am thinking of you and your family during this time, and that we are all here for you
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:38am
Unfortunatly sometimes it is - no matter how hard you try and help them or how hard they help themselves. Annie, I really feel for you and for your family. I recently lost my best friend to suicide - he was only 18 years old. I lost a cousin to it who had 2 small children and my friends uncle who we were all close to as kids. Your SIL will have her reasons for doing what she's done, which will need to be respected. This is gonna be a REAL hard time for you guys, if you need a chat or whatever, please PM me - I'm happy to share my experiences if they'll help you :) Just try and be there for your brother - if he wants to talk about it, let him, and if he doesnt, then dont force him to :) ------------- Alex, Thomas and Lily http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Neeks wrote:Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:44am
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holy crap...she was so nice...how awful....thinking of you fattartsrock:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 8:01am
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I'm so sorry to read this. I'm thinking of you and your family. -------------  
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 8:04am
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hugs thinking of you ------------- 
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Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 8:07am
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Annie!! She was really lovely! OMG, thats such a shock. I hope your ok. Wow.. Its really hard when that happens. I had a close friend who was the last person on the whole of earth that i thought would do that and he did. Pm me if you want to chat! ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 8:18am
| Big hugs from me too Annie and be there for your brother |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 9:04am
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Oh Annie, I am so sorry. Not really sure what to say cos its a little too close to home for me at the mo... Big hugs. ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 9:19am
| Oh Annie that seriously sucks!! I hope you and your family get through this OK xoxoxoxoxoxox |
Posted By: Bumble
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 9:25am
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:( so sad. ------------- formerly known as "Bee" Ethan ~ March 2003 Big 6 year old school boy! Micah ~ Aug 2008 ~ Smiley pants who loves telephones! |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 9:31am
OMG annie!!!!
i remember her from the meet up and thought she was a lovely lady
i'm so sorry hun! i hope your brother has family and friends around him for support....you are all really going to need that from each other in the times to come. my cousin did this too a few years back, left behind a doting husband and 2yr old girl....always such a shock to those left behind asking the question 'why' ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 9:46am
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So sorry sweetheart. It's an awful thing to have to deal with. Much love to you guys. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 9:56am
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I'm so sorry, lots of hugs to you, your brother and her wee girl ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 10:00am
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OMFG.
For once, I'm speechless. Big hugs to you and your family Annie, especially your brother in what must truly be his darkest hour. I will be thinking of you guys. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: almostthere
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 10:33am
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Oh wow... Your poor family! Her poor child. OMG.. so selfish
I can empathise with the child.. and the family as well, but mostly the chld.
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 11:05am
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Thinking of you all. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 11:15am
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I am so sorry to hear this Annie. I hope your family are able to pull together at this very sad time and support each other.
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 6:00pm
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Awww I'm sorry
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Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:24pm
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OMG Annie, thats awful She was so nice, I sat talking to her for awhile...and her little girl...how sad...obviously noone had an inkling something was going on...??
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 20 May 2008 at 7:26pm
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 2:52pm
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I am not really sure what to say Annie, but thinking of you at this time. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 3:35pm
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Oh god, how awful. I'm so so sorry for your brother, and for her little one, how horrific for them.
As someone who's worked around youth suicide a fair bit, I suppose the only understanding I can pass on would be that sometimes depression affects people so much that they literally cannot see that they have other options, and honestly believe that loved ones would be better off without them. I really hope your brother is ok, I'd honestly suggest he gets some counselling. I witnessed a suicide attempt a few years ago, and didn't take it well, and ended up in therapy for a couple of months. Therapy was incredibly helpful for processing the experience, because honestly, it's not one we're automatically equipped to deal with. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 7:37pm
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 22 May 2008 at 10:11pm
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Yeah definitely sort out some counselling for your brother. I too have witnessed attempts on many occassions(with the person I mentioned in the other thread) thank goodness that they've come out the other end and now they are like a totally different person. Sometimes we never know why some people choose to take their own lives..depression can be such a deceptive thing. On the outside they put on such a brave front yet inside they feel nothing but darkness and see no end to it. Be strong, you're family will come through this. ------------- 
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