Needing motivation!
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Topic: Needing motivation!
Posted By: Kellz
Subject: Needing motivation!
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 12:08pm
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Now that I have pretty much come out the other side after have PND, I feel like I have arrived back from being on holiday from my life.
I have let loads of good friendships slide which is one thing that really bothers me, but I dont know how to fix it really. I have started to sort out other parts of my life a bit,...went on a date with dh last night, finally did out 2006-2007 tax return, rang up to see if I can re-apply for my nursing registration so I can maybe get a job,... So, does anyone have any pointers on how I can start to feel on top of things again? I feel overwhelemd by all the things I think I should do,..a major spring clean, sell things on TM, decorate Isla's room etc etc ,...so put of starting anything, or only get things half done 
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Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 12:41pm
*BOOT* There's your kick up the backside
Jokes aside, maybe setting dates to complete the things you "should" do? Sounds like your slowly getting there anyway, baby steps remember  ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 1:17pm
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Just choose 1 thing at a time to complete and start with the easy things. Once you get started on your mental list of things to do it will become less daunting once you get some out of the way
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Posted By: HippyMama
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 1:41pm
I agree with Glow, baby steps! Make a list with timeframes for all the things you have done, and decide which things have top priority, and which things you could leave for a little while longer. Glad to hear you are feeling better too!  ------------- Mama to two earth walkers & two angels. Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being. ~ Kittie Franz Next Slingbabies! Meet - Friday 4th May !! |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 3:21pm
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yay, you!! No advice from me here but just wanted to say you go, girl Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:31pm
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Yay good on you
I'm going to agree with everyone else and say make a list, that always helps me when I'm feeling overwhelmed. That way when I'm feeling motivated i look at my list and do whatever I feel I could do. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 7:51pm
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Yay for coming out the other side, what a great feeling that must be for you! You rock!
I like Glow and Pearls list/timeframe ideas. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:10pm
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Thanks guys. The trouble with lists is I feel even worse when I dont achieve the goals ,..but then Ive always been a chronic procrastinator,..leaving things til the last min,...so maybe I do need Glows foot!
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:12pm
| So how should I start t re-build the friendships? These are mostly people that I dont live anywhere near..including my best friend. She emailed me a while back and tho I did reply,..I wasnt up to dealing with all the emotional stuff,..so didnt sort it out like I should have. |
Posted By: HippyMama
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 8:19pm
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Before I get to thinking about the rebuilding friendships stuff, say if you did get back in touch with some of these people, would you be OK with trying to stay in touch but not seeing them face to face all that often seeing as they aren't close by?
It's a tricky one really, I will ponder it a little more and get back to you if I come up with something useful  ------------- Mama to two earth walkers & two angels. Remember, you are not managing an inconvenience; You are raising a human being. ~ Kittie Franz Next Slingbabies! Meet - Friday 4th May !! |
Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 24 May 2008 at 9:18pm
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I agree with the lists idea. You could have two, one with small tasks that are easy to complete and done when you only have a short time to get something done and a list of bigger jobs. You could also put at the top of the list "make a list" so that once the list is done you can mark off your first task, may make you feel like you are getting somewhere.
Regarding the friendships I suppose you need to decide which ones you want to save. Also how honest do you want to be? For some people it may just need a good heart to heart phone call, others it may be best to send a letter explaining what has been going on, why and where you want to go from here - I always think a letter is more personal than an email. Although I don't really know what has gone on (or not) between you and your friends I would hope that if they truely were good friends they would understand what you have been through and help you rebuild the relationship. ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 11:32am
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Nothing bad has happened,..its more like I havent kept in contact at all, and they have given up on me. I havent had the emotional strength to deal with much more than survivng everyday live, so Ive been selfish and not the kind of 'giving/caring' friend I usually try to be.
I like the 2 list idea, and making 'make a list' an item on the list to cross off! Thanks! |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 1:15pm
| I would just be honest with them. If they are the kind of friends you want then they will totally understand. |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 6:14pm
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If they are truely your friends they will understand with what happened and would want to work with you in making things work again. If you be honest with them and tell them the truth then you can only hope they will make the effort too. If you email them, make sure you email each person by themselves not a group email so that each one is personal to the person. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:56pm
glad you are getting back on track kellz
i can't help with motivation....i don't have any myself! charli's cot has been sitting in the lounge for the last week waiting for me to put it on TM, not to mention the 2bxs of clothes that are also sitting there wanting to be on TM.....
my one and only thing would be....if you start something on the list, don't start a new thing before you've finished the first one! i'm such a shocker for that! hence why the kids rooms are only half decorated once you know which friends you'd like to keep in touch with, i'd flick them an email each, perhaps include a few recent pics of isla and let them know what she's up too and how she's doing. you don't need to go into too much detail if you don't want too about what you've been going through, but if they are true friends, then they will be completely understanding. well done hun ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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