Leaving child for first time
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Topic: Leaving child for first time
Posted By: kellverona
Subject: Leaving child for first time
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:02pm
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Okay this might sound really silly but my son is almost 21 mths and I have never been away from him for a night yet... I am just dreading it.. I am soooo attached to him its not funny.. I just dont want to be apart from him.. Is there anyone else out there like me or am I the only one??
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I am with him 24/7. I do enjoy it as he is such an angel. We have so much fun together..
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:03pm
| If u are dreading it, then why are u doing it?! You are soo not the only one! I seem to moan about isla a lot, but I hate being away from her! |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:06pm
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Hiya Kelly, Hubby and friends feel I need a girls night away and there is one that has been organised next month... Would like to go but yeh dreading leaving my lil man.. He will be in good hands with his Daddy but I will miss him sooo much... ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/">
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:06pm
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OMG I must be a hard Biarch! I can quite happily leave my kids. They quite happily go and stay where they are directed too. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:07pm
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I didn't leave Charlotte overnight until our wedding night! She was 23 months. I have only left her over night on 2 other occasions since then- every time it isn't as bad as I think its going to be and I wind up having a good time, but I still miss her terribly and worry the whole time! ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:08pm
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haha we ended up taking Jaxon with us on our wedding night when he was 6 mths old... ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:11pm
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I'm like Mel. I can quite happily leave my children, but I do like to know they are safe, so they usually go to the inlaws. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:16pm
| There is no way I could go out of town for the night without Isla! |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:18pm
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Aboslutely nothing wrong with feeling like that. The first night I was away from Jack was when Caprece was born.
Maybe have a special day with Jaxon before you go? You could plan to ring just before he goes to bed and then concentrate on having a good time? |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:23pm
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i too am a hard biatch ,C has stayed over night at her fathers since she was 2 or 3 months old.
She has gone down to wellington (with her nana , but still , away from me ) since she was 2 and a half and has gone 3 times to australia for a week , also without me. Hasn't done her any harm, hasnt done me any either, just makes seeing her again more exciting. |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:24pm
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I think i would cry if I spoke to him on the phone, lol.. but yeh I will be happy once I know he is in bed sound asleep for the night so I would prob just give DH a quick txt or a call... ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:27pm
Of course, it was different for me, her father and i werent together and i wanted him to be as involved as possible ,so didnt have much choice. Just remember he'll be fine with his dad, and you can always take your phone and organise a time DH HAS to call you . And hate to say it , but Jaxon will probably just fall asleep and wont even miss you :-P, wont do him any long term damage or anything . Annnnd if you really miss him , you can always cut the night short, your friends might be miffed but if they are your real friends , they will at least try to understand . |
caitlynsmygirl wrote:Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:28pm
weird , i just quoted myself, what a dumb as* 
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Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 9:35pm
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lol... Im going to be about 3 hrs drive away.. and all going in the one vehicle but yeh Im sure he wont even miss me at all..and probably wont even notice me coming home. hehe.. I think once I have done it once it will just get easier... I just know wen he gets really upset he always wants me... and thats all I can think about... but I guess if Im not there he wont want me. if you know what I mean... Im such a sook!! lol. ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/">
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:10pm
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Michaela's nearly 26 months old and I've never spent a night away from her either.
I've been out for 3 girls nights since she was born but I've always made sure I've organised transport home and never stayed out past 1am. I can count the number of times in her life that she's been babysat on one hand (2 x weddings, 2 x when we moved house then went back to clean our old house the next day & 1 x when we moved my MIL). She's never been babysat for more than a few hours at a time. DH & I are very clingy parents. -------------  
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:31pm
awww 3 hours is different, they should go easy on you ...ease you into it :-P, does it HAVE to be 3 hours away? my friend was the same , she was always worried about her daughter waking up and crying for her, so she didnt go out until her daughter was 3 (and then the night she does go out ,she witnessed her sisters boyfriend get killed  )
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 10:52pm
I'm hard, in fact last night I went out with friends as DH is away and shipped the little tike off to my Mums for the night 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 May 2008 at 11:49pm
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my "baby" is going to australia for 8 days in July ...im more jealous than anything else
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 8:34am
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No you are definately not alone. I had left McKayla however. Two nights for about two hours while we attended a course. I leave her a lot with her Daddy when it is exams or want to pop out to shops. Then left her when I went on the mommy's evening out and I think everyone remembered me having a hard time with that. It is easier these days as I leave her quite a lot with Playcentre stuff ect but that is easy as she is with her Daddy. I find it more difficult when it isnt with him and someone else. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 12:02pm
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I've left Joshua with my inlaws maybe about 5 times overnight. The first time was horrendous - I had a work christmas do which started at 12pm so he was there from mid-morning til the following morning. I phoned about 10 times to make sure he was ok, and was at my inlaws by 10am, absolutely beside myself!
Now, I'm ok leaving him over night, but I by the next day I am getting twitchy wanting to see him. We've had people babysit him while we've gone out to dinner, and I don't mind that at all. And it's always family who babysit, so they love it, he loves it - win/win situation! |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 12:07pm
| I just stress way too much, it wouldnt be worth going- Isla misses me too much too. We went out to dinner on fri night for first time in about a year, but we didnt leave til she was asleep and were gone 1 1/2 hrs only. |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 12:27pm
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I don't have a problem leaving Michaela with DH, I do it every weekday, although the first couple of times I left him to do her bedtime routine I was really nervous and I still prefer to stay at home and spend time with her and Dh than go out.
However DH and I have been given movie tickets by my sis who has also offered to baby sit while we're at the movies so we've decided to make a night of it and go out to dinner first then stay in a hotel for the night. It'll be our first night away from Michaela and our first night out together. The weddings don't count as DH was MC at both and really busy and I ended up missing the reception of the second because Michaela was screaming the motel down and the babysitters weren't able to settle her at all - she screamed for over an hour and had herself worked up to an awful state by the time I got back, she continued sobbing for another 10 mins while she calmed down again and then wouldn't let me go for about 60 mins. I acknowledge that was different since she hadn't spent much time with the babysitters before and she was in a motel in a different city so unsettled anyway - it was actually the trip from hell and I was so pleased to leave chch I was almost in tears at the airport. This time we'll only be 20 mins drive away in case something goes wrong, it'll be my sis who she sees every week babysitting (plus MIL lives downstairs), she's 5 months older now and it'll be in her own home so I'm pretty confident everything will be fine (do I sound convincing? I'm really working hard on convincing myself). Since I work days and DH works nights we hardly see each other so I'm looking forward to having a night alone with him for the first time in 26 months. -------------
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 12:56pm
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I had no issues leaving Maya, but leaving her overnight was a different story, the first time I ever left her overnight was when I hurt my back and ended up in hospital so I literally had no choice. Luckily my Dad happened to be here from Oz and he stayed with her coz Willie and I weren't together at the time. I remember crying my eyes out on a stretcher in the ED and a nurse coming in and feeling sorry for me and trying to arrange more pain relief and I was like "it's not the pain, I want my baby!"
Now tho I have no issues with leaving the whole bloody lot of them! Maya has had a few sleepovers with friends, and of course when I went to hospital to have the gremlins, and on the numerous occasions the gremlins have been in hospital I've been away from her for up to a week. The only time I've ever been away from the gremlins overnight tho was when I was in hospital with hyperemesis so again, had no choice. I do feel bad about leaving them, but more co they are such hard work for anyone else to cope with than that I'm worried about them lol. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 1:14pm
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I love getting rid of her. lol. Just kidding. But i do love having a night off sometimes, i always leave her with someone i trust so i never have to worry. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 26 May 2008 at 3:51pm
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haha emma , caitlyn is dying to have sleep overs , but all her friends parents feel their kids are too young.
I need my breaks from Caitlyn, i love her more than anything , but i like to just be Kelly (or The kelly ) once in awhile, and not "mum" all the time
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