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Topic: james has
Posted By: james
Subject: james has
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 1:49pm
had his appoinment at vera haywood center today which involves him being whacthed by a physio,occupational and speech therapy they played with him and my baby has verbal dyspraxia and fine motor probs which mean he will need inteance therapy to help him talk and to help his fine moter skills this is from brith and i,m soo upset my poor baby has to work twice as hard to learn how to talk and i feel its my fault which i know its not and atleast i know now (sorry a big ramble but i have to keep wipeing my tears for my baby to see what i,m writing) ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 1:52pm
Oh Hun.......
You are a great mum and it is not your fault. I know James will have to work twice as hard but he has an amazing mum who will be there to give him hugs and praises and this will make it so much easier on him. Keep your chin up ....and give James a huge hug from Zaara and I!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 1:56pm
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Well said Roksana. I will just add more Just curious how did you know he had to be tested and how early did his speech difficulties become apparent? -------------  
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Roksana wrote:Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 1:57pm
| Big hugs from me too |
Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 2:00pm
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Big Hugs Lu, definitely not your fault. You're a wonderful mother.
All the best with James and his therapy, he will get there! My brother didn't really speak until after he started school, he had to go through intense speech therapy also. He got there in the end, he's now 15 and you can't even tell he was a late starter! Take Care ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 2:01pm
i have always had a feling something was going on but my doc wasnt worried it was his carers at childcare asked me i they could refer him at about 2 years old to a speech therpist we had two appointments and she refered him to vera haywood at dph so its been over a year now. and to answer your questions james has a very repenitive langune and only says part of words and he mumbles alot and just compairing him to ourter kids his age ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 2:37pm
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Big big hugs Lu
You are an amazing mum, and never forget that. There are lots of resources out there to assist you and James with these difficulties. And we will all be here to listen when you need us 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 3:06pm
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Aww chick! That must be so hard to hear about your wee guy
As everyone else has said though, you are such a great, dedicated mum, he couldn't be in better hands to help get him there with his speech and motor skills. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: ShellandBella
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 3:12pm
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Big hugs. My sister's oldest was diagnosed with dyspraxia (must be verbal and motor, I think) about 3 years ago (she is 5 now and has just started school). She got into a really good programme through the Champion Centre at Burwood hospital here in Christchurch and improved out of sight. I don't know where you are, but its likely other cities have similar programmes, and with the right input from physios, speech and language therapists, play specialists etc. you will see a dramatic improve. Let me know if theres anything you want me to ask my sister. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 3:22pm
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Big Hugs Lu, you have done a wonderful job so far with James and this will help him out heaps ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 4:14pm
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What everyone else said.
James is a strong kid and he'll do really well with you supporting him. It'll be tough but I have no doubt he'll come out the other side fine and dandy. Much love xoxox |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 6:01pm
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Oh chicka! ((hugs))
If it's any help, I know that a lot of teacher aides at primary schools have been doing Professional Development on Dyspraxia over the last few years and are getting really clued up on how to deal with it. I have taught a girl with Dyspraxia (motor and slight verbal) and while it was hard for her, she was making excellent progress. Lucky James has got a great caring mummy like you!  I wish you all the best
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 6:01pm
| (Obviously that is for when he's old enough to go to school (duh me)) |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 6:08pm
awww thanks guys its all starting to sink in now i had a look at a web seit and james has all the sympotys i wish i had seen it sooner and am getting up the corage to tell people whats going on with him i just dont want people calling him a handicap or anything like that i feel so bad but i,m trying to think postivey about it  ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 8:27pm
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Oh hun its a natural thing to blame yourself but honestly its not your fault. And at least they are on to this relatively earlier on rather than when he began school etc....
I know when Josh was diagnosed with aspergers I so blamed myself thinking I did something to cause it... like I was drinking and smoking till I was 6 weeks pregnant unaware that I was pregnant....it didn't matter that but you still wonder and blame yourself. ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 June 2008 at 9:28pm
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hun, this is not your fault at all, your a great mum don't let yourself think otherwise .
And anyone that makes derogatory remarks and calls him a "handicap " or anything , can take a hike, you dont need negativity like that around you.' It means that your boy will work twice as hard , and you will have even more reason to be twice as proud of him |
Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 07 June 2008 at 7:40am
My thoughts exactly! Big hugs to you, lovely! It's great that you caught on so early. Best of luck. With a Mummy like you he'll be just fine ------------- 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 June 2008 at 9:20am
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Everyone else has said it all Lu. You are doing an awesome job and are a great mum. He is lucky to have you.. Big hugs to you |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 07 June 2008 at 10:00am
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thanks ladys it relly does mean alot thank you ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 07 June 2008 at 3:21pm
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And like everyone else has said you are doing a fantastic job and it is definitely not you fault take care hun. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |