I cannot believe...
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Topic: I cannot believe...
Posted By: Maya
Subject: I cannot believe...
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:33pm
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The argument I just had with Willie!
I get out of the bath and Miss Fifteen announces she is going out for a smoke. I said "umm, hold on, I don't think so! If you're living in my house, you're not smoking!" Then I went off to get dressed and I hear Willie telling her to go for a walk and I won't know. Excuse me! Since when are we allowing 15 year olds to smoke?! I like to think I'm pretty liberal when it comes to parenting, and I must confess that I was smoking long before 15 so I have no illusions that if I stop her doing it at home she won't go and do it somewhere else, but I was certainly never "allowed" to smoke at home when I was 15! So Willie and I ended up having a screaming row. I told him if I catch her smoking she can find somewhere else to live. He told her she doesn't have to help out around the house anymore if I am going to be like that. I told him if that's his attitude HE can go too. I do NOT want smoking around my kids, especially not around Maya coz the next thing I know it'll be her smoking, she is far too impressionable. So now she's gone up the road "for a walk". I have no idea what I'll do when she gets back, but at the moment I am so very tempted to kick the pair of them out. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:38pm
 I can't believe Willie would allow his 15 yo daughter to smoke - that's CRAZY!
I would have been kicked out of home if I even thought of bringing a packet home at that age. Good on you for sticking to your guns Emma, you definitely don't want smoking around your children. 2nd hand smoke can do a lot of irreversible damage, sometimes more so than being the smoker yourself. Gee kids these days ...they start off rebelling so young!!! ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:41pm
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Family Meeting! It's against the law for her to even buy cigarettes, so is he supplying them too? If that's the case, give them the hard word!
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:43pm
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Good for you Emma!!! Why would Willie want his girl smoking?????
I know she will go off somewhere else, I did but there is no way my parents would have let me smoke at home. I cant believe he told her she didnt have to help out around the house because you told her she cant smoke in your home!!!!!! I am hopping mad for you hun! I would have told my DH where he could go... -------------   
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:43pm
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Yep I would go Family Meeting way too, will show him how much trouble he can get into if he is buying them for her. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:44pm
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He's hiding in the spare room coz after she left I went in and told him that I am not going to scream in front of the kids but that is my bottom line, non-negotiable and that if she thinks she is going to disrespect me in front of my kids then she's got another thing coming. End of story. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:48pm
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Drag her arse in to the spare room when she gets home and tell the pair of them off! Oh I'm hopping mad for you too!
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:52pm
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Oh I am soooo not dealing with her! She is HIS daughter! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:54pm
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Whatever you decide to do, make sure that he knows hes farked up big time! ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:57pm
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Even now at 26 I still don't smoke around my parents He does need one hell of a kick up the arse to sort that one out. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 5:57pm
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Stick to your guns Emma! There is no way a 15 year smoking is cool, especially around the girls and an impressionable 5 year old! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:02pm
| Errrrm...how is she getting the smokes??!!?? Even I get ID'd at 24 nowadays!!! Seriously, that's not good. Mum and Dad knew I smoked but I never smoked at home until it was legal for me to buy them....and even then it felt seriously strange (I wasn't living at home)...and I didn't before then because I wasn't allowed. That's seriously disrespectful, and Willie really shouldn't be taking the course he is re. the chores etc either because that's basically undermining your authority. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:09pm
From him!  ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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minik8e wrote:Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:13pm
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argh Emma ! im so mad for you !!!!! (*)*)(&E$*(W&*(W&*(W&*(&EWE*(&E(WE&(WE& that was lots of angry swear words , to convey how angry i am,how unfair of both of them .
Bet she thinks she looks real cool too. 
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Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:17pm
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Hmmmm tough one. I know shes not your daughter, but even if you dont let her smoke there shes still going to smoke anyway.
My mum let me smoke at 15 because i was going to do it behind her back if she said no anyway. She would rather me do it at home than walk the streets to do it without her knowing.. Not saying that you have to let her, i think you should stand your ground, my mum was FAR to soft on us kids.. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:17pm
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Man I cannot begin to imagine the stress of living in your situation right now while trying to "take it easy" before the baby arrives..
And yeah, encouraging smoking is so not cool.. 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:18pm
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WTF?? How can he argue that it is ok for him to be supplying cigarettes for her?
I would be just as mad Emma, good on you for sticking to your guns. There is no way that would be happening in my house, around my kids either. (And I'm an ex-teen-smoker too, lol, how things change eh?) ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:19pm
See if I looked THAT cool smoking, I might never have given up  ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:20pm
Yup, I totally get that, but I am certainly not going to encourage it coz then what right will I have to tell Maya not to smoke, and at what age? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Tiff
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:33pm
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I'm with you Emma - and as far as I'm concerned, Willie is helping his daughter to ruin her health (and her looks - smoking is way bad for your skin and teeth - esp if you start that young)!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:35pm
| Wow, there's NO WAY my parents would have supplied me with smokes (knowingly anyway...*sigh* I loved those days when you could buy cartons....). I completely agree with you on this, and that is speaking as a smoker (DF and I have agreed we will give up when we get our BFP). Especially with other young children around. |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 6:53pm
| Hope Kelly(caitlynsmygirl) will give up when she has a BFP one day soon too |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 7:10pm
| Woah, that is so bad. Why doesn't he give her a 6-pack to take on her "walk" as well? |
Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:30pm
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Emma - that totally sucks, you are trying to help her not have a disgusting addiction and Willie does that!! I guess its just his way of not having to 'deal' with it - but man, he SHOULDN'T be supplying her with cigarettes!!
Make sure you make your point really clear - cos who knows, maybe he'll start letting Maya smoke too, which is totally unacceptable!! *hugs* hope you sort this out soon! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:32pm
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Well she didn't have a smoke on her walk coz Willie took them off her after I screamed at him. He's spent the rest of the night in the spare room sulking but i suspect he's more annoyed that he knows he's wrong rather than anything else.
As for Mona, well she must know not to push her luck coz she is in the kitchen cleaning up... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:33pm
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Id be pissed as well he should have told u he was supplying her smokes as well but since she is his daughter its up to him. He should at least make her work her ass off around the house for the smokes and even then she can only smoke outside and NEVER let the other children see her as part of the conditions. At 15 i woulda quit after 1 day of chores i woulda been too lazy to keep it up if i had to work for it. -------------   
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 8:49pm
Aww Emma  Thats a horrible situation to be in. But totally agree with you, so stick to your guns. I was smoking at 15 too but didnt smoke around my parents until I was about 19 because I felt disgusted about it (both my parents are non-smokers)
On another note, last Tuesday Dh and I had hypnosis to stop the dirty habit and we've been smoke free since 
All the best Emma, I hope she realises the terrible effects it will eventually have on her and her loved ones. ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 08 June 2008 at 10:21pm
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Yeah I would stick to my guns, I pay the goddam rent so my fricken house! It is basically illegal for her to smoke as well so him feeding her ciggy's is a million times worse. Oh Willy, you silly male. ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 09 June 2008 at 10:35am
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Yay...Good on you for sticking to your guns. I cant believe that Willie would do this to his daughter, his 3 other daughters and his very beautiful pregnant wife.
You dont need this stress hun. So hope you can relax now that they both know where they stand. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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