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Topic: Porn
Posted By: pepsi
Subject: Porn
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:02pm
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Over the years that I have worked in IT, and in general conversations with guy mates it's pretty clear a lot of guys still hide their porn secrets from their significant others. Whether they are obtained via internet sites, sent via e-mail from friends, mags or DVDs.. whatever form they can get.
Some say that their DW/DP would never allow it and would be horrified, and others don't know what the reaction will be so they hide it anyway. Also a lot of my girlfriends that I have spoken to about it have talked of being very upset at discovering the secret and others say they would go ballistic. Personally I have to say I'm pretty much ok with it and DH doesn't hide anything. I have warned DH though that when the kids are older I don't want them finding daddy's special folder on the PC.. I suppose I also wonder if men ever grow out of it? How do you feel about it in terms of your DH/DP indulging in it, really? |
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:05pm
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This is going to be wierd but I would not be happy if he was indulging in it secretly and hiding it from me.
However we have enjoyed it together on several occasions. 
Everyone now know far more about me than you ever wanted to???  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:09pm
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Ha Ha funny subject.I used to be all paraniod about it but really doesnt worry me now.Somtimes puts a bit of spice into life if ya watch somthing together. ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:16pm
Haha, yeah I can never look at you the same now 
I guess I'm not really talking about the "together" porn, but the times he's looking when you're not around... |
Posted By: shaz
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:22pm
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I don't have a problem with it but now the girls are older I'm more aware of how these things are easy to find on the internet and it doesn't look good when you start typing in certain web site addresses and ***erotica.com etc pop's up I have told DH he really should delete them.
Funiest thing happened when I was about 17,Mum ask my sister to show her what a "blue movie" was so embarrassing seeing something like that with your mum
And if you knew my mum you'd be soooo shocked (she looks like Queen Elizabeth  )------------- Mum to Natasha Aroha 9/12/1995, Alexandra Makareta Waimarie 22/4/1998 and....Alyssa Frances Hopaea 18/03/2007 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:37pm
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It doesn't really do it for me, and I don't think Willie is a great fan either, but he occasionally brings home dirty mags from work. I think he does it more coz everyone else at work does it than coz he particularly gets off on it, but even if he does, I have no issues. It's not a big secret or anything.
If he *was* hiding it I guess I'd be wondering WHY he felt the need to hide it rather than worrying about what he's actually looking at. Exception of course is kiddie porn etc! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:43pm
| Doesn't bother me at all. We have a few dvds that we have watched together and sometimes I notice one has been watched recently. Really doesn't bother me. |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:48pm
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I hate it with a passion!!!
Especially when the sky bill is in MY name and I go ringing sky up asking what channel 242 or whatever it was is!!!!!!! Hahaha I just changed all the passwords 
I may seem really evil but I just cant stand it ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: AliaDawn
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:52pm
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My DF likes to joke he's not even a male sometimes He wouldn't touch porn with a 10 foot barge pole... finds it distateful. -------------  
 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 7:59pm
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I have no problem what so ever with it. With him being in IT it is unavoidable and I really dont care if he enjoyes it or not. Healthy part of being a male. I would be worried if he was keeping it from me ect. No problem with fantasies or that either. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:18pm
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I would be bothered if he was hiding it from me but am not bothered about him watching it or reading a dirty mag etc.
I'm used to working in a male environment so I've become pretty immune to it, porn is just part of the scenery in your average workshop. Where I worked in England one guy kept changing the library computer (the one that everyone in the workshop had to use to retrieve e-mails) screen saver to some pretty gross hard core bondage stuff and funnily enough it wasn't me who complained about it it was one of the other guys, so not all men are interested in it and some are repulsed by it. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:22pm
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I arrived home from a half hour walk this afternoon,...and a plastic bag containing 3 porn dvds was in our letterbox,....very random,..it freaked me out a little. Goodness knows who they were intended for!
Dh isnt into it, but has watched some in the past. I would have a prob if he was into it behind my back. |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:23pm
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I have no problem with it and DH certainly doesn't hide it from me, infact I think he likes me to know just incase it encourages me to randomly "jump him" LMAO, he wishes!!!
I would have a problem if he hid it from me though!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:29pm
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I hate it and I would be quite offended if DH did it behind my back. To me, it would be as though I wasn't good enough or something. ------------- |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:31pm
WHAT THE HECK????? Random!!! Yep I didnt mind in the old days when I would find them under his bed at his house and he never cared that I knew, and I read the stories lol but the last couple of times hes done it when I have been out then tried to cover it up. and it p****s me OFF!! I told him if he wants to do that sorta thing tell me, preferably before I go ringing sky up accusing them of charging me for something incorrectly lol like im pretty understanding with those sort of things (which he knows all to well) Maybe im just a cow but I hate secrets in our relationship or coverups. Maybe im just being anal about it No pun intended!------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Kellz wrote:Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:37pm
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I don't care. He doesn't hide it from me and we've watched it together occasionally. Doesn't do much for me though!
Like others, I just don't want the kids finding it accidentally! Edited for bad grammar. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:48pm
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I don't care, we have a collection ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: marielb
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 8:59pm
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Hehe, I'm a bit scared to comment since I know some of you IRL
I find it interesting that so many couples do enjoy watching together though!! ------------- Isaac is 6, Ethan is 4, Rico is 2 and Hunter is almost 1! |
Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:19pm
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Hahaha i wish wish dp had a collection and well took matters into his own hands at times rather than try it on with me every night - the day he pushes a house through a letterbox i might get my "groove" back.
To be honest im the one with the dirty mag collection and he is welcome to go through it anytime he likes. Will have to either find a good hiding place or turf it in a few years though as i remember my mate ad i finding videos when we were searching her parents closet for old clothes she though it was childhood videos but we discovered otherwise. At least it was the tame crappy storyline porn certainly couldnt have handled find out her parents watch some hardcore hahaha  -------------   
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Posted By: Shorty
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:41pm
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I know DH has a stash, I have watched some of it with him.
He has no reason to hide it, but has also been known to....it feels wrong when he hides it. I would rather it be done openly. |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 9:44pm
| I wouldn't give a rats, but in all honesty, im more likely to watch it than he is |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 13 June 2008 at 10:33pm
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Doesn't worry me at all. Sometimes I've come across bits that hes tried to hide and I just laugh and tease him (hence why he probably tries to hide them!). He doesn't have mags or anything though- I would be mad if he had anything around that the girls could find, but only because I don't want them seeing it. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 2:23am
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I found some porn on our flatmates computer, haha "cream pie orgy" , i watched the start of it, i was P*SSING myself laughing, it was so FAST!!!! the girls were like the energizer bunny , sped up
And then the girl and guy were "doing it " and she was slapping her OWN behind "oh yeah ! naughty me , im gonna slap your butt again " so tasteless and degrading , but twas entertaining. |
Posted By: MissCandice
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 7:51am
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i dont mind the movies or the mags, but if i find that the wallpaper on a significant others cellphone is some hot chick that i could never compare with, rather than the wife/fiance/gf or family, that would really upset me.
If they are searching it on the internet and hiding it, or lying about it. That wold upset me that hes trying to hide it as if he actually has something to hide. ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 7:58am
| My DF has a screensaver of some hot chick I could never compare with, but it doesn't bother me, cos she's just an image and I'm real and we're happy. He doesn't watch porn at all (not comfortable with it) so yeah. Hiding it would be an issue for me - it'd make me wonder why he felt the need to hide it. |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 11:08am
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Hiding it would definantly be an issue for me, but that said, I really hate porn anyway! DH isn't into it but he won't avert his eyes in a hurry should he pass a dodgy poster or whatever! I get that men are 'visual' so that doesn't bother me. I don't care that some friends of ours enjoy porn, but they all know that if it comes out at a party (more for a laugh than anything orgy-like, and back when we were young - our friends really are just your run-ot-the-mill folk, honest!) I'll be leaving them to it, as I won't watch a minute of it. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 11:14am
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Well we did both go to the erotica show together, I found it all a bit of a giggle. Especially as Palmy is rather small and bumping into people I know at a porn show.
I did get upset at finding it hidden on his computer, mostly cause I didn't know about it and the content. Was just wrong. I get the idea all men look at porn. Wish they'd say so thou. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 11:57am
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Exactly... you only hide what you know is wrong ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 1:05pm
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Interestingly enough I did hear about a study that found that a lot of women (more that you would expect but can't remember the numbers) do enjoy porn as well. I guess it is just seen as a male thing though. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mama2two
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 1:45pm
I think my DH lives in the same fantasy land as yours 
I have no problem with him looking at it though. It's really no different from me 'appreciating' a sexy man on the street 
I also would have a big issue with it if he hid it from me though!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 1:51pm
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Goodness a porn convo LOL Nice1!
I refuse to put my views about it into black and white as this place sticks around forever But it is interesting to see women who demand 100% faithfulness from their partners and are extremely anti-pornography, their partners can be the grubbiest offenders.
Each to their own though! ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 1:55pm
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The issue isn't with the porn its with the hiding it.
------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 2:11pm
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You know I actually thought about this for a while now and I think quite honestly if he was hiding it from me I wouldnt be angry about the porn itself but worried about the fact that he felt the need to hide it. It would be something to work on and to actually talk about.
(we dont have this problem at all anyway we are quite open to each other about stuff like this.) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 2:52pm
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I guess its the same with anything in our relationship - if he was hiding something from me I would be p*ssed off. We are extremely open with each other and would like to thing we have NO secrets. Personally I have no issue with him looking at porn - if he wanted to, so long as it wasnt gross and he wasnt hiding it from me.
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 4:47pm
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I am the same..I wont care if he watched it and I knew but I would hate it if he was hiding it from me....would give me evil thoughts that he is hiding other things from me. I am big on trust and would hate to catch him.
Yes I have watched it with him...but some porn just make me sick..... 
when we were clearing his room prior to us getting married he was frantically trying to trash all his mags before I got to it.....he said he didnt want me to think that he was a sicko...LOL I also thing it is very natural for men to watch/like porn. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 8:13pm
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I don't have an issue with porn as a whole at all. In fact I used to work for a magazine distribution company and used to bring mags home for DP all the time. We've rented movies together and that sort of thing, but don't own any.
Actually, now I think about it, my old company had a stand at Erotica a few years ago, and I did the Saturday morning shift with DP. So yeah, no issues with porn at all. I don't even mind DP perusing sites on his own, and him not telling me about it would not make me think he was hiding anything, more that he was just looking in his own time. Weird stuff would be a no-no though. |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 8:40pm
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We have what DH calls girl porn and guy porn.
The girl porn is what couples watch together, boy porn is what a guy watches on his own (not lesbian/gay porn.. thats a whole other kind). We have both. I have absolutely no problem with it, DH doesnt hide it from me. I would be upset if he did, because I believe we have a very open relationship and can talk to each other about anything. Definately wouldnt want it lying around for kids to find (when we have them). I actually bought some for his birthday a few years ago. I got it in amsterdam... they have some scarey, weird and illegal stuff over there -------------   
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 8:48pm
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Hmmm I think I am the same......I am generally pretty open and relaxed about most things................
Think I would prefer to watch with Dh than let him sit in the room with it on himself????? I would have major issues with any secrets or hiding it........more than the actual porn! But then Im like that with most things. -------------  
 
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 9:17pm
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To be different.....Neither DH nor I believe that porn is healthy. We believe it to be appealing but harmful in the long term. I do think that most, if not all men, and many women have a desire to watch it and my DH is no exception but we aim to make our home porn free. We both agree on this and support each other in this decision. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 9:39pm
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HD was real open about it qhen we got together and told me when he watched it and stuff but i was his first when we got married and he hasnt touched it since because he doesnt think it is fair that there maybe something else in his head when he is with me or thinking about any woman other than me at any time. its pretty sweet really. but its totally a personal thing and i think it easier for us because we know a few people who were strippers etc. and it really really damaged their lives so when we see people in movies and stuff we see a lot of the baggage and decisions they have had to make, often not because they want to because of certain situtions or self-perceptions/estem/abuse situations. ------------- 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 9:52pm
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meh, as with the rest of life I feel you can look in the shop but don't be buying anything.
I don't mind it. Rod has a thing for russian girls, lol. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: LuluBelle85
Date Posted: 14 June 2008 at 10:46pm
Lol. This totally reminds me of something my boss used to say about watching porn, or even at just looking at someone other than your partner. "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home" Used to crack me up whenever she said it. Lol. I use it frequently when discussions like this come up.
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 12:07pm
| DH and I have DVDs that we either watch together or he watches them and i have no prob with it at all except if hes hiding it and for some reason - i have a big prob with internet porn - BIG NO NO! probably bcos its easier to link up to someone (unlike watching a DVD)....i totally agree with "you can look in the shop but don't be buying anything".... |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 1:10pm
Hell yes!
I was brought up in a traditional, strongly religious family and I have very strong objections to it. DH on the other hand, doesn't see the problem. So, we have a rule - he can have it (although he's far less interested as he gets older) but I don't want to come across it. I know he has it, and he doesn't hide it from me, but the rule is that if I find it eg. he inadvertantly (sp?) left a mag out or something, I can dispose of what I find. It doesn't matter if he's careless (eg. shoved a DVD under the couch and the dog has hooked it out) - out it goes. Regardless of cost. I did stop short of biffing the computer though when I clicked off the screen saver and he'd forgotten to close a page ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 1:29pm
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Those of you with boys, how do you think you will react when you come across it when they're teenagers.
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 1:29pm
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I found my exs porn stash and it was such a crack up. I dont care that he hid it from me cause we both knew he had it. haha.
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 2:23pm
See that's how I tend feel, that's why it's only every been in the house a couple of times (literally) when we've watched it together. Otherwise we don't have a collection or anything. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MumsyMoo
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 3:54pm
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I agree with Kelpa.
DF has always been open about it, and like nearly everyone here has said, we've often watched it together. What I really don't like though is when, if he gets all randy and revved up and I'm not in the mood, he'll often say "Oh, well I'm gonna have to go watch some porn now." It just makes me uncomfortable... I would feel much better about it if, in that situation, he just went off and did his thang. I don't want to know. I don't know, it's like... 'Oh, well you're not gonna do it for me, so may as well get my jollies in front of the TV' and it makes me feel both mean (for not givin' him any) and awkward, 'cause I know what he's doing... Does that make any sense? Haha ------------- My wee girl is the love and light of my life!
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 15 June 2008 at 7:14pm
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