When you want to tell someone to jump!
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Topic: When you want to tell someone to jump!
Posted By: Paws
Subject: When you want to tell someone to jump!
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:28pm
Who else has someone who tries to makes them feel totally incompetent? 
There is this one woman in my office who has a 2 year old and seems to think this means she knows everything and only her way is right. I’ve been frowned upon for eating McDonalds, shocked that my doctor is not sending me for further testing for Down’s Syndrome (bearing in mind my results said a risk of 1 in 8 000 and 1 in 11 000 or trisomy 13), castigated for putting on weight (she stayed stick thin and in fact lost weight – partially illness related granted and never showed until 6 months), believes the whole metallic taste in mouth thing is people just talking themselves into it, aghast that I'm using public health care instead of paying for private care so baby has the best like hers…the list goes on. I was really quite hurt because I was commenting about how having seen my god-daughter born I felt like I was somewhat mentally prepared for what could happen. I was told this was also wrong because all births are different. I know that but I still feel somewhat prepared knowing it isn't going to look like a Hollywood movie and there will be blood and it could take ages and the baby is not going to look perfect and clean when it comes out! I’m sure she means well but ohhhhhhh I want to tell her to shove it sometimes. It’s so hard sometime to nod and smile sweetly. I appreciate some of her advice but her opinion that only she can be right and I apparently know nothing is grating on me. 
Does anyone else have one of these people in their life? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:30pm
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Tell her to feck off!
I think you are slightly prepared having seen a birth (that's why they show videos in antenatal classes right?!?!) atleast you have an idea about the amount of effort it takes to push a babe out! Eat whatever you want Paws. Being stressed about food is bad for the babe too - probably more so than a Big Mac 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:33pm
ohhh ill join ur bad group for eating maccas  if that was me i would have told her to go jump! i was such an angry stressed person at work lol
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:47pm
| maybe next time she starts look at your watch and go sorry gotta go...and dash off, or say 'oops natures calling ... just dont give her the chance to say anything if it annoys you. |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:50pm
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Yep id tell her to go jump. How Rude of her. Id like to know what she thinks so wrong about going puplic for maternity care. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 3:50pm
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Tell her to shove her opinion where the sun dont shine....Arrrggggg I hate people like her!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 4:35pm
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That would make me sooo angry!!! Tell her please to keep her opinion to herself!!! Everyone is different!! You can say it in a nice way!! Ive always been told you can listen to peoples advice but you only know whats right and wrong for you and bubs. good luck!! ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 4:45pm
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I went 'public' with Maya and it didn't do her any harm...am even *shock horror* going public again this time!
Tell her where to go! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 4:54pm
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Urgh, I despise those kind of know it alls. Tell her to naff off. ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 6:35pm
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i got so annoyed when i was preggy with my daughter. i was working in retail and some days it felt like every secomd customer was telling me "you've got no idea what you're in for" i was like, i know isn't that what makes it so exciting?! man, some people are annoying and the woman in your office sounds like the worst paws! if i were you i'd want to throttle her. tell her politely or impolitely if you're brave enough that you are doing what is right for your family and her opinion has no bearing on the decisions you make. good luck! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 6:36pm
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i ,m witheeveryone here tell her to naff off ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 6:58pm
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there is always someone who thinks they know best. I have a friend like that and she doesnt even have kids just always goes on about how when such and such was pregnant or so and sos boy was doing this at that age. Drives me crazy. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 7:08pm
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I'm glad it's not just me!
I'm trying to just smile simply because we are generally a close office (only 7 of us work there) so I don't want to cause a huge scene and I can't even just walk away most of the time. I'm thinking maybe I could try just using the "I appreciate your advice but this is what is working for me" approach. And remembering to breathe! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 7:17pm
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I admire your patience, Paws! People like that who believe they are the ONLY ones who know how to live are so annoying! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: tabs
Date Posted: 15 March 2006 at 9:48pm
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Ahh Paws, I guess some people think they know better, I personally would go for the "whats working for me approach" I am sure she may mean well but it doesn't sit well with everyone. Hugs Hope it gets easier for you.
------------- Mum to 4 lovely girls and 2 loved angels http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 7:54am
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Let me at em!!! I will tell them what for! ------------- "> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 9:45am
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lolol, say to her - "well, if it sooo hard, then i don't know how you ever got through it!" lololol.. no that's mean. but well, if she knows "best" then she should also know about how hard it is to be a first time mum. telll her that, and then ask why, instead of being supportive, she insists on making you feel stupid - maybe she had someone do the same to her when she was preggers so feels that's the only way to go.
by the way, having said all that above, i'm not making any excuses for her at all cos she sounds pretty uppity and nasty to me. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 11:26am
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Ok now I think I'm going to shoot her...
We had the sushi guy come in selling sushi and I mentioned how I'm looking foward to having salmon again in sushi. She starts bleating on about how she thought raw fish was fine...I said I was told by my doctor it must all be well cooked and I understood that was the general rule. Her eyebrows shot up and she said very snootily...."oh but she thinks it's ok for you to have rolls from the cafe?" I pointed out that I get the vegetarian rolls fresh made in the morning so the are NOT sitting around and she just walked off saying..."they are still sitting around so that is just weird". Sorry for the rant but I've had it. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 11:46am
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god, she doesn't know what she's talking about! i'm sure i wouldn't be able to hold my tongue around her ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 12:39pm
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No I certainly wouldn't be able to hold my tongue either!!!
Paws, just a little OTT question, I was just updating the Due Date list as mine has changed and it is saying your due date is the 20th Sept? Is that correct? Becasue if it is, you would be 13w1d but your ticker says 13w3d??? Would be cool to have someone due the same day as me ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 12:46pm
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Sorry yes my date is 18th September now not the the 20th so we are due on the same day! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 1:21pm
Yay we can compare notes  ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 5:03pm
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Sorry about the whole "rolls" comment... If you made your lunch at home in the morning it would be sitting around all day so are you expected to go to the supermarket and buy your bun's , fillings etc and make it at your desk at Lunchtime when the food you are making it with has been sitting in the supermarket all day?!
Sorry she bugs me and I don't even know her!!! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 5:38pm
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ohhhhh she getting to me and i dont even no her ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 16 March 2006 at 8:21pm
i just want to punch her lights out  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 March 2006 at 8:09am
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ok, you have every right to fully go feral on her!! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 17 March 2006 at 8:14am
I already sent Paws an email about this... but my offer *definitely* still stands about coming over to your office for lunch with the biggest, fattest ham sandwich I can find and a giant cup of coffee from Starbucks or something. Then, when I'm finished that, I'll whip out the sushi !! Muahahahahahahahaa...  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |