Going back to work.....
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Topic: Going back to work.....
Posted By: arohanui
Subject: Going back to work.....
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 2:14pm
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I'm starting work (teaching) on Monday for 2 1/2 days a week. I have mixed feelings about it all... I went in to the school this morning to meet with the teacher I'm taking over and talk about the lessons etc. The kids seem great and the school is supportive of me being a working mum (Harry will be brought in at lunchtime so I can breastfeed). And my boy is being looked after DH one day, my mum the next and our friend the half day. This morning my sis looked after him and he was happy as larry.
But now I'm sitting here in tears  
Please tell me I'm not mad and I can manage this  ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 2:23pm
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You CAN manage this hun!
Boy, but its tough the first wee while though. When I went back to work I would sit in the loo bawling my eyes out, for at leat 10 mins a day. But just think - your boy is having special time with three other people who absolutely adore him, and you are getting time to be someone outside of Harry's mummy. Which is a positive thing. And when you get to them at the end of the day its the most fantastic feeling! You just wanna cuddle and squish them for hours! I still get soooooo excited driving up the daycare driveway, and when he runs and jumps into my arms.... well, it's mummy heaven 
It'll all be ok - trust me 
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Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 2:24pm
Oh Liz 
You're not mad at all! I think it's completely natural to feel that way. It's a wrench leaving your wee one, I'm sure. But once you're in the groove you'll be fine. You'll probably be so busy you won't have time to miss him, but at least you know if you do miss him you'll see him soon 
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 2:50pm
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Thanks guys. You sure know what to say to make a girl bawl. You know I don't know why I'm so upset about it today. I started working part-time a couple on months ago (twice a week for 2-4 hours at once) and I didn't miss Harry too much cos you're right, I was too busy to miss him!! And this morning I was fine when I was at work, just focused on school stuff.
Maybe it's just cos I realised how much work teaching is and how it's a job that I'll have to take home with me. And maybe I just realised that I can't really afford to breakdown at work cos I'll be teaching a classroom of 31 kids and have to be on the top of my game all the time. Or maybe I just realised how much responsibility I'm gonna have everywhere, trying to keep the house stuff going as well as getting used to a new school, new kids, new topics. I think I'm just overwhelmed with it all. I just really hope I can handle it cos I don't like letting people down. ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 3:36pm
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I dont know what I am going to do, but I am going to try for a year off work. Hopefully if I need to go back to work that my employer will let me come back part time.
You are being very strong and very proud of you, it must be really hard. When it comes to my time ill be a mess I think. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 4:09pm
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You are so not mad at all. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 4:11pm
| Good on you Liz, Harry will be fine, what school are you going too and what ages are you teaching |
Posted By: mandz
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 4:12pm
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I am going to be in your position soon. I am going back to work full time on the 12th August. I want to go back, but I know it will be really hard to not spend all day everyday with my gorgeous boy! I don't need to financially, but mentally I think I do! However have decided that if it isn't working, then I can always resign.... No job is worth more than my family. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Zack Robert Henton - 29th December 2009 |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 4:27pm
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You can manage it and you'll be great! It is hard to begin with but it makes the time that you are with Harry even more special.
I'll be heading back to work full-time at the end of August and even though I've done it before and know that it benefits our whole family, its still hard. ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 26 June 2008 at 4:35pm
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Awww Liz ... I promise it gets easier .... I dont cry all the time now, but look forward to coming home! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 27 June 2008 at 2:27pm
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All you Mums are good working and you can always get a Nanny if you dont like childcare centres,
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Posted By: mandz
Date Posted: 27 June 2008 at 2:41pm
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Hi Susieq
Out of curiosity, about how much do Nanny's cost? Cheers Amanda ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Zack Robert Henton - 29th December 2009 |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 27 June 2008 at 3:10pm
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Ive got 3 weeks until i have to go to work too I am dreading it!!!!
Wish the childcare centre had cameras so i can watch him from my computer at work ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: SarahP08
Date Posted: 27 June 2008 at 3:43pm
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Our baby isn't even born yet and already I'm dreading having to come back to work. Baby will be 5 months (ish) when I come back full time in January and SIL is looking after him/her for two months so at least I don't have to put Baby straight into full time day care.
I'm already jealous of the time someone else will be spending with Baby, and I want to cry too. Maybe we'll win the lotto.... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 June 2008 at 3:48pm
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Awwww Liz, good luck! Harry will be a legend as always, and your kids will be so glad to see you back, I bet they missed you.
Mandz - my nanny costs me $16 an hour which is average for Akl (going rate is between $14-$18 according to the agency). Homebased care (in someone else's home) is much cheaper, I think around $6-$7 per hour. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 30 June 2008 at 6:41am
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Well today is the day!! I had a bit of a grey day yesterday but feeling great today... got up nice and early and put some washing on and stuff on the crockpot.... and Harry had a fab sleep! He either didn't wake at all, or he woke and I didn't hear him cos DH got up to him (that's the bonus of me working and DH being at home, yay).
So glad I had a good sleep and feeling good this morning ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 30 June 2008 at 7:52am
Have a great day Liz  . Hope it goes well (& quickly!).-------------    
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Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 30 June 2008 at 9:10am
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Hope you have a great day, Liz!
GOOD LUCK
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