Do you think it’s wrong?
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Topic: Do you think it’s wrong?
Posted By: MumsyMoo
Subject: Do you think it’s wrong?
Date Posted: 04 July 2008 at 12:37pm
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I've just been watching all the videos of Britain's Got Talent & America's Got Talent on YouTube, and I'm stunned at the amount of YOUNG children who audition.
I'm not talking about the 13yrs+, but kids about 3-4 years old!? Take these two for example: David Militello, a 9yr old Autistic boy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mJnjPnk9ASc&feature=user - Ben Kaitlyn Maher, 4yrs old: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N2vNM5jyuD4&feature=related - Somewhere out there Yeah, ok - So they're cute, no doubt about it... But do you really think it's appropriate? I can't seem to get outta my head that it's the parents who are putting their children out there for their OWN glory. Honestly, what kinda of satisfaction can a FOUR year old get out of it? I doubt she even understands what is really going on! I don't know... I just don't feel comfortable with it, kinda reminds me of those 'Painted Baies' ie: Childrens pageants. What are your thoughts? -------------  My wee girl is the love and light of my life!
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 04 July 2008 at 12:41pm
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yeah wouldnt really be my cup of tea, kinda like those stage moms you see on dr phil lol. I guess if the children are older and enjoy it? ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 04 July 2008 at 1:33pm
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I think it's so wrong to push children into these national competitions. If the kids show a natural talent that's great, nurture it, but there's no need to shove them into the spotlight so young. That's why people like Britney Spears and Lindsay Lohan end up so stuffed up. -------------  
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 04 July 2008 at 2:46pm
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Grrr this really gets my back up. Whle growing up with my grandmother she had this thing about me singing and dancing for other people, she would enter me in stupid competitions and tell everybody that I LOVED doing it. I would cry and cry before having to go on stage and was still pushed out there. They were only small talent quests but I hated it, i sang songs I didn't even know let alone like and wore these terrible outfits! I really just ended up a nervous shy person who couldn't even speak in front of people. I remember this from about 4ish right up until 8 when I flatly refused to do anymore. In the long run I would get in trouble for speaking my mind about it so pretty much just stopped talking to my family about anything.
I don't know if its the same situation for other kids but I mean with me nobody else had a clue how scared and upset I was they thought I did it because I wanted to NOT because I would get the vacuum cleaner hose round my legs and have a week of being told how useless I was if I didn't do it. IDK I have full intention of getting Neosha into dancing and stuff but because she loves music and I want her to try stuff but I will never push her out onto a stage EVER unless of course she asks. ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 04 July 2008 at 2:52pm
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Wow, that sucks Neoshasmummy. I started doing speech and drama when I was 10 and went on to do competitions, plays and musicals because I loved it. I was lucky to be never pushed into anything but always given the opportunity to try different things if I wanted to. I'll do the same for Michaela. She goes to dance every week but she's not forced to dance in performances or anything like that and if she feels like sitting on my lap instead of dancing during a song (or like last week sitting out the entire class) that's fine too (although admittedly I was annoyed with her last week, not because she didn't want to join in the class but because she did want to run around and do her own thing distrubing the other dancers, we ended up leaving 1/2 way through). -------------
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 04 July 2008 at 3:38pm
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I just think that letting your kids try everything and encouraging them to go for things they love to do is different to pushing your child into something they are uncomfortable with.
In saying all of this there are times I KNOW that Neosha may need a push in the right direction and instead of just giving up I will want her to give it a go but only if it will benefit her in some way, not just because I think its good. Hmmm as for child stars like in the original post I think its alot of stress and pressure for a four year old to go through, shouldn't they be more focused on kidergarten plays and things rather than $1000000 National Contests, I think its a young age to be told sorry you just arent good enough. ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow"> Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |