I’m miserable........
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Topic: I’m miserable........
Posted By: naki_noodle
Subject: I’m miserable........
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 10:42am
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Beware before you read any further this is a total feel sorry for myself rant.............
I'm at home with three kids under 5 all by myself for the next 3 days my darling man is away at work till wednesday. I have an 18 day old baby and hyper active 3 and 4 year old, I have wicked toothache, no car cos my partners got it at work. Its wet and yucky outside so the kids are stuck inside trashing the house. Theres dirty dishes in the sink the floor needs a vacum. And to top it off I feel like a totally crap mother cos im sitting on the computer in between moderating toddlers and feeding baby.... rant over back to sorting out the kids....................... |
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 10:53am
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Go easy on yourself. So what if the house is a mess, who's going to know? I'd leave the housework till wednesday and try and relax and enjoy your time (I know easier said than done). A few years ago when there were major floods in the north island I was stuck at home in my teeny tiny 2 bedroom townhouse with 2 toddlers. I didn't have a car either and couldn't have gone far anyway because of all the blocked roads in the region. What initially seemed a pretty daunting task (entertaining 2 kids with cabin fever) actually turned out to be heaps of fun. We used the dining chairs to make a train and went on pretend trips. We made play huts with the chairs, boxes and sheets. At morning and afternoon tea time I'd prepare fruit and set up a shop and the kids had to come and 'buy' food from me. The minute the rain stopped (even briefly) we'd wrap up warmly, pop our gumboots and parkas on and go for a quick trip around the block before the rain started again. We read heaps of stories and the kids did lots of colouring in. You could also do some baking with the kids (or just get them to ice some plain biscuits). I don't envy you, you must be very tired with your nb too but forget the housework, sleep when you can and when the older two want to play have fun too. -------------  
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 11:14am
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I think its this weather - Us women need our VIt B12 - or else we get a wee bit down... well I know I do!
Chin up and as someone said - who cares baout the house work - its going nowhere - I knowt thats the problem - do the bare min and enjoy the kids - make some playdoh or finger paints go in the kitchen sit on the floor (nothing in the carpet then) and enjoy :-)  ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 12:27pm
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awww big hugs!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 12:33pm
Thanks ladies. Bubs is pretty much feeding and sleeping so shes not too bad. Its trying to stop the other 2 trashing everything while im feeding her thats driving me nuts now...... that and this damn toothache arghhhh back for some more pain killers me thinks................. misery guts out
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 12:36pm
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for the toothache the best thing, if you have it , is nurofen
but as for the housework , do what i do ...pretend you cant see it , dishes in the sink ? pah , theres only one cup !  etc
and your entitled to a few moments to yourself, so dont feel bad This weather is horrible isnt it? really dampens the spirits , bring back summer i say ! |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:03pm
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lol I wish I had that attitude to the dishes..... I must admit I did do some of the dishes while bubs was asleep before, I have this queer thing where i feel more in control if things are clean - go figure.
I have got nurofen but didn't think you could take it when your breastfeeding, must go suss it out anything to make the pain go away. Weather is crap but some sun at moment so gonna go get kids outside. Thanks for the comments guys, making my day not feel so lonely, adult interaction even thru computer is a good thing. |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:04pm
| Wow naki_noodle, I feel for you....That almost put me off TTC! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:35pm
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where abouts in taranaki are you? (see no sun so must be no where near me LOL )
Perhaps after the school holidays join a play group - baby gym or manily music - parent centre playcentre..that sor t of thing - gets you out of the house and with adults and your kids can burn some energy off. Have you taken advantage of the 20 free hours on offer for 3 and 4 year olds - just so you have time for you and your baby. don't feel guilty (a mother summed up with just that word 'guilty') to be a great mother you need to look after number 1 too ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:23pm
| deleted ramble lol |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 6:32pm
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ok children and me fed and apart from the occassional tantrum the sky hasn't fallen on my head yet. Heres hoping for a settled night with all the kids............... wish me luck
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 7:48pm
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good luck !
and i forgot about nurofen and bf, did you check ? what did it say ? |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 8:58pm
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I think nurofen and bf is ok, it's ok with TTC. Voltaren is not. Codeine (in nurofen plus) is also not ok.
I hear you on this one, noodle! This time last year my DH went to Chch for work for 5 days straight. I really pined for him. I also found the evenings the hardest because he wasn't there to help me when I ran out of steam. Best advice? Get out of the house! Go visit someone with kids, or a park, so that the tension can subside a bit. Leave the dishes for another day and you can do them little by little. Who knows, maybe in a helpful moment some of the kids could help? Big hugs - it'll be over soon! ------------- |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 9:43pm
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Yeah nurofen is ok in breastfeeding apparently which was good when it was working. Yeah nights are bad I stopped myself from crying all day, only to spend most of the phone call I just had with my partner in tears..... now hes worried about how im coping. I told him I was coping but it didn't mean I was enjoying the coping lol. The kids are being great had my four year old ask me if she could dry the dishes for me today .... made me smile.
Anyway bubs is asleep for the time being so off to bed for me, wishing for a better day tomorrow. Night ladies, thanks for the support
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 9:50pm
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*hugs* chick
wednesdays not too far away , it'll be here before you know it
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Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 10:59pm
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What part of Taranaki are you in Noodle? ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 11:24am
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Hey ladies. I'm in Hawera peace, which is depressing in itself lol, been here 2 years and dying to move back to np again.
Yeah wednesday only tomorrow and looks like this is the only week he's gonna be away so thats good. I wasnt very impressed tho he ended up spending most of the day drinking coffee cos weather to crappy to do most of the work they had planned. Just what u want to hear when u've had a crappy day...... |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 4:19pm
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Well so far so good, bubs has had another good day and the kids are being mostly well behaved. But god im tired and my darling is still not home till tomorrow evening..... its only one more night but then hes only home tomorrow night and then away again thursday............... sorry I know i'm whinging again just feeling down in the dumps
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 7:32pm
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its ok, everyone is allowed to feel down in the dumps sometimes
How come he goes again on Thursday ? |
Posted By: Peace
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 9:48pm
I wish I had a license, I could come and visit and help. There is nothing worse than being in that rut  If you are ever coming in town and not in a hurry, flick me a PM and come for coffee ------------- DD1 May 2006 DD2 March 2011 DD3 August 2012 |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 09 July 2008 at 12:47pm
Well what a night, I got woken up every hour and a half by little miss bubba too feed and then took her an hour to get her back to sleep I'm thinking growth spurt. Which means i've had stuff all sleep and am trying not to be a grumpy sow with my kids............. on the upside my darling should be home in a few hours  .
Caitlynsmygirl its a new job and he dosn't get a company vehicle till hes finished training and with the cost of petrol being so high it was gonna cost us to much for him to travel backwards and forwards every day so the compromise was he stayed away and we only paid for two trips back and forth instead of 5. Peace that was such a nice offer, the bugger is tho I hardly ever get to np and when i do the expectation is there that i have to go visit my family and his family or people get there noses well and truly out of joint. So I always run out of time.... might have to say bugger them all one day and call in for a drink tho
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 09 July 2008 at 9:36pm
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Hey stuff the family and don't tell them you visited NP til later ------------- |
Posted By: naki_noodle
Date Posted: 10 July 2008 at 6:13pm
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Hey ladies I tis a happy woman my darling is home for the rest of the week (yeah yeah I know its only one day, but makes it a 3 day weekend) and my mum is coming to stay on monday for a week YAY I'm on a total sleep deprived hyperactive woman high.
Busymum............ tempting oh so tempting lol
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