Newborn - own room or your room?
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Topic: Newborn - own room or your room?
Posted By: denny25
Subject: Newborn - own room or your room?
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:29pm
| I'm 31 weeks pregnant and im not sure wether to have the baby sleep in our room or her own room. If she is in her own room it is just across the hall and it is the driest room in the house (damp house). If she is in our room, it is quite a cold damp room. Is it bad to have a newborn sleep in their own room (with the door shut) straight away? |
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:38pm
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Totally up to you and how you feel about having to get up and out to another room to get your baby to feed it. If the doors were closed will you be able to hear her?? You may have to get a monitor. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:44pm
| Like Becks said totally up to you. We put our wee boy straight into his own room but had both doors open. We really liked doing that and it was no problem getting up to feed him. Possibly this time I will put the baby in our room for the first six weeks but mostly just because I don't want to wake up my toddler. |
Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:56pm
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We had Jack in our room until he was 5mths, partly because I was worried about him being in his room and partly for convenience as I fed him in our bed at night as it was winter and warmer.
If your room is cold and damp though it may be better for baby to be in his own room. Can you put a heater and/or dehumidifier in your room? ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: kabe
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:58pm
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We had Eva in her own room from the start. I never had a problem hearing her when she woke in the night for feeds. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: denny25
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 1:59pm
| We constantly have a dehumidifer in our room, but it is seriously freezing and mould grows on the walls. Probably not the best environment for a baby?!! We are on a fixed term rental until February next year. |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:02pm
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It sounds like putting the baby in it's own room might be the best option. Do you have a spare bed in there too that you can kip on if the baby's is unwell, or if you just want to be close? -------------  
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:04pm
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If your room is that bad I would be inclined to put bubba in the better room.
We had Spencer in our room but it was the room that was kept warmest over night. If you did want to be in with baby could you sleep in the babies room? ------------- 
 
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Posted By: denny25
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:06pm
| No spare bed in the room, but a very very comfy chair :) |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:15pm
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Ah, I had a few nights of sleeping in my nursing chair.... I was totally useless at staying awake for the night feeds. In the end I didn't even bother trying. -------------
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:23pm
Denny - that is stink! Can your landlord do anything to help?? Some houses are just damp though aren't they. Perhaps you could talk to them and see if you could move earlier without penalty. We had DS in our room for 2 weeks then into his own room. I don't close his door completely and we have a monitor. I can hear everything so made me feel better. My husband does shift work so it was better for DS to get use to his own room. You may find it easier to make this decision once baby is here. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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denny25 wrote:Posted By: Lulu
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 2:24pm
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Jaymie was in her own room straight away. I had both doors partially open however. This worked well for us, and there was no transition necessary at a later date. There was the odd time in the first few weeks where I brought her into bed with us for a few hours at a time. I did not have a monitor, but had no trouble hearing her when she woke. ------------- Lou http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: mandz
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 3:41pm
Oliver was in our room for 2 nights and that was all I could take! Seriously, I never realised how much noise a baby can make whilst asleep
But then we had him sleep outside our bedroom - in our lounge - for the next 5 to 6 weeks - before moving him into his own room. But this was only because his room is downstairs and ours is upstairs and I didn't fancy running up and down the stairs in the middle of the night so many times  Now that I only have to get up 1 to 2 times a night it is nowhere near as bad. Also we have an Angelcare Monitor, so I never had to worry about whether he was breathing or not and having to constantly check to see
In your situation, I would put baby in the good room. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 3:49pm
TBH, it's probably not the best environment for any person. We had similar conditions in the last house we rented, along with unlawful access. We went to tenancy tribunal and got out of the lease. |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 3:55pm
| I haven't had the others responses.. Daniel was in his own room from the day he came home. Wouldn't have it any other way. Our bedroom wouldn't fit him and we liked being able to sleep constantly listening to the little noises they make. |
Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 4:28pm
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we had jett in our room up until a month ago , as it was convienient, and we had a border taking up our spare room.
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 4:32pm
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I think Plunket guidelines are to keep them in your room until 6 months-ish, but Chloe was in her own room by week 2! I just couldn't get any sleep with her in ours. But she was right through the wall and I could hear her no problem. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 4:42pm
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mine have all been in their own rooms, never had any problems hearing them, a hungry baby is pretty loud lol!! have always had a spare bed in there though as MrsMojo said for those times when they were unwell or unsettled ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: Snickerdoodle
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 4:44pm
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Hannah has been in her own room for 10 nights now.
a) for convenience b) cos I'm clingy c) I wanted to wait until she was sleeping through the night before putting her in her own room (cos I"m too lazy to walk between rooms at 2am hehe) We had the monitor for the first night, but it was getting interference from the neighbours so we just keep our bedroom foor open and we can hear her just fine when she wakes 
As LittleBug said, Plunket suggests 6 months, but I'm all for personal choice. Hannah isn't a noisly sleeper, but I know of plenty of babies that are. Play it by ear - you might find she's too noisy, or not at all. Whatever works best for you at the end of the day
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 8:51pm
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Usually rooming together is just a convenience with having to get out of bed so often in the night from the beginning. But in saying that, Bria was a heavy breather and I couldn't sleep with her in our room, so she was out at 2 weeks old LOL! If you have trouble with hearing baby, just leave the door slightly open. I'm sure it won't be a problem. ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 9:17pm
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Maya was in with me till 5 months coz I had nowhere else to put her.
Gremlins went straight into their own room with the door shut and a monitor on. This bub is going into her own room, but I will probably sleep in there with her for the first few weeks to make night feeds easier. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: chunkymonkey
Date Posted: 07 July 2008 at 10:42pm
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Lucas is coming up 4 months and started in a bassinette beside our bed, not just because he didn't cry (he shuffled around and my ears tuned into that noise and i woke up??!! Who knew that would be enuf) and as he was a LONG baby he went into a cot very quickly, I have his cot beside my bed now, i dont know if i would hear him otherwise and as its freezing where i am, its convenient to just reach over grab him and feed him and put him back, but each to their own and you have to find what works for you. ------------- 
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 7:55am
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Tishy has a point. Why don't you call the department of housing and see what they have to say? Have you spoken to your landlord about the damp problem? They may be accomodating, especially if you've been good tenants. It is the landlords responsibility to maintain the property so that it is a reasonable environment to live in.
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Posted By: nicci
Date Posted: 08 July 2008 at 1:22pm
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Hiya, I had every intention of putting Lincoln in his own room from day one....but he spent the first two nights not only in our room but in our bed. Be prepared for the emotional seperation you might feel. Lincoln went down fine and went to sleep right away but I climbed into bed and cried my eyes out. After 9 months with this person living within you 24/7 I felt lonely with him in the other room!!! DH was right beside me and I know I was just being silly but I was scared for Lincoln?!?!? I didn't want him to wake up alone. As the others have pointed out they are noisy sleepers so I soon had him back in his bed with the monitor on and the door slightly ajar.
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