I can join in here!!!

We are still in the talking stages of TTC number 3. I want to start trying Later this year as I want a baby born later next year away from the beginning of the year as that is when the rest of mine are.

I need to have the 3rd very soon (well I want to) as once I am 30 I am having the baby oven and the rest all removed (i'm 26 now).

Fleur I think you have the right idea but what about putting the money into an account and then once you get pregnant you have that money to spend on baby stuff.

Hi all

I'm Jo.  I turn 30 on 16th September and DH agreed several months ago now that for my 30th birthday we'll start TTC.

So just 2 months to go now and although I've been terribly clucky I'm now getting cold feet... I still really really desperately want a baby but am beginning to worry about money and stuff... but I have resolved to stop using condoms in September and leave the rest up to God (i.e. I won't be charting or temping etc, I'm just going to stop preventing pregnancy and have fun while we work on #2).

ETA: DH isn't getting off that easy, he'll be buying me some pressie for my birthday too

Yay Neeks that is really cool he said yes.

I am going to bring the subject up once we have all come back from overseas. Nigel has jungle training next month and I have my trip to Oz with the boys in September.

I am at the moment working out my cycles to see what is happening when. I think I am Ov now as I am in a bit of pain on one side.

Like Brenna I didn't go back on the BCP so we've been using condoms since Michaela was born.  I'm ultra regular though and you can set your calendar by my cycle.

DH and I were talking today and although we'll be delighted whatever we get we're both really hoping for another girl for #2 (then a boy for #3 which I'm trying to convince to let me try for asap after #2)

I tried the pill at the beginning of this year to help with my bleeding - didn't work just made me bleed all the time - so I have given up on any pill ever working for me.

We are just using condoms much to Nigel's disgust but I don't want another baby just yet (if conceived right now it would be due in April and Andrew is then), and I know he doesn't want one just yet either.

I am the same I am just letting nature take its place. It has done well with the other 2 so i'm sure another one can happen the same. Josh was a one night wonder (seriously was we know the night he was conceived ), and Andrew came from a night of not using a condom so fingers crossed the next one does too!!!

I have started my weight loss as well today. I have free access to the gym so went and did an hour workout of just cardio (to start with for now), on the treadmill, bike, rowing machine and cross trainer. I can already feel I did a good job.

We have been really bad with the junk over the past few weeks as well. But it is all gone now apart from the small things for the boys lunches. I was thinking of going ot the pool this afternoon but I am going to do one of my dvd's so that I have a combo of cardio and stretch.

Claire I am in a brass band too and they are like my second family as well, and being away from them at the moment is really hard. Both of my boys were due at the beginning of the year so I finished up at the end of the year. Andrew was 4 months when I went back (felt like I hadn't even left apart from a few new peope who didn't know I had been in the band since 1989, so was an old timer) and it was great. However after having Josh it took a little bit longer, he was about 6 months when I went back and I loved my time away again. It can be done!!!

CuriousG wrote: I also want to drop a few kilos but man, its hard at the moment! I managed to lose 7kg recently only to put most of it back on over a period of about 6 weeks - eeeeeek! Have been sick that entire time tho so am not surprised, haven't done any exercise or anything.

We should try and get out together for a walk or....dare I say it..... run at lunchtime. 

MrsMojo wrote:

We should try and get out together for a walk or....dare I say it..... run at lunchtime. 

CuriousG wrote: A run? Baaaahhhhhhaaaaaaa!    A walk would be good tho...!

Cool, I'll see you this Friday anyway and we can organise something then.

Oh yeah.  Forgot to add it's the returning to work thing that bothers me most.... which is why I'm gettinbg nervous about money etc.  I returned to work when Michaela was 5 mo and emotionally it was very difficult I felt like I was missing out and I resented my DH (who left his job and stayed at home with Michaela) for not earning enough to support us.  We had a rough first few months too, Michaela wasn't an easy baby, but by 4 months she and I were both a lot happier, more settled and really getting into a great routine... then a few weeks later I went back to work fulltime.

The practicalities of it were hard too, I have coeliacs disease which is a hereditory condition.  It's recommended that I don't introduce gluten into my babies diets until after 12 months and that I am still BFing when it is introduced but I had trouble expressing when at work, plus until 10mo Michaela was still waking several times a night for feeds and I had issues settling her at bedtime for awhile too.  It was nightmarish and looking back I'm unsure how I coped.

I also worry about how I'll cope with 2.  Michaela's pretty good most of the time but she's not a great sharer (what toddler is?) and she's especially envious of my attention.  Plus as a baby she had colic (undiagnosed) and I just coped.... I don't know if I would cope if I had a toddler to care for too. 

oh crap.... I think I've just talked myself out of ttc again (lol... just kidding)

I've changed jobs now and next time around I'll propose to my manager that I begin doing a bit of work from home for a few months before returning to the office, that at least will help with the BFing.  I'm also going to take a couple of weeks off to rest before the birth (instead of leaving work for my last day before maternity leave while in labour).

Michaela will be 3 by the time #2 comes so we'll put her in care for the free 20 hours and with DH's work hours (which are 2pm - 9:30pm) I'll have a lot of support during the day so I may actually be better off than I was last time with only 1 baby. 

I know what you mean G.  There are advantages to being a working mum but you're still a mum 24/7 and it's very tiring to be doing both jobs.  I find it especially hard that DH is never at home in the evenings (because of his working hours).  If I'm feeling unwell and don't feel like cooking or cleaning it's just tough, there's noone else around to do it.

I'm not doing too much to different prepare myself for TTC actually.  I eat pretty healthy (lots of fruit and veges and make most meals from scratch so I know what's going into my body).  I gave up coffee for lent and didn't start drinking it again (I have the occasional cuppa but mostly I'm caffiene free).  I'm currently taking multi vs for anything I'm not getting from my diet and I'll start taking extra folic acid soon (centrum only has 200mcg).

I'd like to do some more exercise and lose a bit of girth.  More for me than for TTC though, summer is just around the corner and if we're not pregnant I have no excuse for the current size of my stomach plus if I am pregnant I'd still like to have nice toned arms and legs but if last time is anything to go by I won't feel like exercising for most of my pregnancy so better get them looking good now.

As I said earlier I won't be charting or anything, I'll also not be adopting a preggy diet until I get BCP (i.e. I'll still drink wine, eat poached eggs, cold meats and soft cheeses etc).  My cycle is very regular so I'll know I'm pregnant pretty early on and can start my preggy diet from then.

Stacy, the WFF for us is pretty good too but it depends for us on EDD because it's based on the annualised income from April - March so if I got preg straight away we'd get more from WFF than if I didn't IYKWIM.

Linzy wrote: The thing I worry about most with having 2 is how to get them both bathed, fed and dressed by a decent hour at night.

  I had 2 kids once upon a time, for a couple of years when my sister was very sick, I actually don't think it's any harder than having 1 kid most of the time... but 2 can be messier

You just start earlier!!  I think it's easier as they get older as they can just do everything together... dinner, bath, pjs etc. plus they entertain each other too which makes it easier when you're busy making dinner and stuff.  When the littlest is still a baby you just wait until the older one is sitting on the couch with a cup of milk (or already in bed) and bath it then, or make bath time in the morning and become a pro at the after dinner face and hands sponge bath.

It can seriously be done. When I found out I was pregnant with Josh I was really angry, really angry. It wasn't the right time, right anything. I then went through the how can I love and care for 2 children. But it can be done and we are so much better off with 2 children with WFF. I waited till Josh was 1 before putting him into care and that way me and him got to bond better than I did with Andrew who was in care at 5 months. When the next one comes along Andrew will be at school so only Josh will be in care so that will help out a lot.

You'll love yoga!!  It's ok to do it by yourself since it's not one of those classes where you have time inbetween sets to chat it's usually pretty seamless moving from one pose to the next and you'll be busy focussing on doing the poses right and breathing properly (I know... did you realise that sometimes we don't breath properly lol).

Once you get BFP make sure you let your yoga instructor know so they can give you the alternative poses to the twists.

Good on you!!  I'm going to "shrink my female fat zones" tonight once Michaela's in bed. 

I used to do pump classes at les mills before having Michaela but cancelled my membership last year because I never used it and now I use DVDs as my 'gym classes'.

Two Blondinis wrote: What's a BCP? All I can think of is Birth Control Pill and I' don't think that's what you mean??!?!?

Whoops, getting my acronyms mixed up.  I meant BFP (or at least I think that's right....oh no, now I'm confused)

Emz, i am the same I eat so much better when Nigel is at home.

If I have a girl (and god help me if I do) I have a ton of boys stuff to sell to get girls stuff.

People think I am mad wanting another boy, but those close to me know what my body is like and what I would more than likely hand down to my daughter. My nana handed it down to her girls and then all those girls have handed it onto their girls - stupid endo and PCOS .

Two Blondinis wrote: ahhh I getcha now! What did you think the C stood for?!?!? *giggle*

To tell you the truth I don't have a clue what the BF stands for but the funny thin is I know exactly what BCP stands for and explained the acronym to Ginger the other day when she asked.  Just got myself muddled this afternoon.

We're hoping for another girl but will be happy with whatever.  We're having at least 2 more kids (3 more if I can convince DH) so another girl then a boy would be perfect.... but we'll be happy, delighted by and totally in love with whatever we get.

Bf is breast feeding I think or best friend.

We are the same as Stacey, no charting no nothing just having sex lol when we feel like it.

SallyBelly wrote: Are you talking about BF as in BFP? = Big Fat Positive.

Ah, that makes sense.  Thanks SallyBelly.

Linzy, we're keeping the sex a surprise this time too.  We found out with Michaela because I wanted to but DH didn't so this time we won't.

Well, I managed to get in 40 minutes strength training last night plus I walk to and from the railway station every day which is 15 mins each way so I'm pretty pleased with myself.  It's just a matter now of keeping it up.  I also want to find a new yoga DVD, something a bit more challenging.

I'm also having second thoughts about my TTC start date.  If we concieve in Sep or Oct it'll be a bit of a struggle financially and if we concieve in Nov the babies EDD will be DH's birthday (which he already shares with his niece and older sister... can I handle another leo LOL) but anytime from Dec would be perfect.  Then again the chances of concieving straight away are pretty slim, it took 3 months last time and I'm 3 years older now and we don't see each other as often as we did back then, plus I'm looking forward to having sex that doesn't get interrupted just as it's getting interesting so we can put a condom on (TMI?).

If I discuss this with DH he will freak out, go and get another HP and put off TTC for another year - ok, maybe slightly exaggerating but he does worry about money, and when he's worried or stressed he tends to spend - that's why I'm the family treasurer.

I'm talking myself round in circles.  Thanks for reading my rambles.

p.s. I'm pretty sure we'll stop using protection in September leave it up to God from there.  What's meant to happen will happen.

I know we are will ditch everything from the end of November, just so I can drink at Nigel's graduation and commissioning course. Nothing like having drinks paid for by the Prime Minister and Governer General

Emma, what job do you do? (if you don't mind me asking)

I couldn't keep it secret last time and ended up telling people at about 8 weeks.  I'm very petite (5ft and sz 8-10) and my womb started building itself into a large spacious home very early so my work colleagues started asking my BF whether I was pregnant.  This time might be easier as I still have a small (nbot small enough) mummy tummy.  I'll tell my boss and then keep it secret as long as poss, I've even toyed with the idea of not telling people until it's so obvious someone says something to my face (which, if last time is anything to go by will be pretty early on).

After the 3rd I am off to Southern Cross to have it all removed, I can't wait to have it done. No more AF will be bliss!!!!

The reason for me having it done is I have uncontrollable bleeding at times, endo covering everthing including my bowels , and PCOS on both ovaries. My mum had this and she handed it on to me - hence why I really don't want a girl.

minik8e wrote: DF would like a boy first, then a girl (so that she has an older brother to "look after" her like he did when he was a kid LOL not that she would have anything to do with that). Then again, twins run in my family (every generation, at least twice if not more per generation ) so who knows. We do definitely want a boy though, so at this stage we'd like 2 children, about 2 years apart and if both are girls, I might get my 3rd one That's in an ideal world though. I just can't wait to get off the BCP and get pregnant and have our baby!!

If you get a single first time and twins second time then you get 3 for the price of 2

mummy_becks wrote: After the 3rd I am off to Southern Cross to have it all removed, I can't wait to have it done. No more AF will be bliss!!!! The reason for me having it done is I have uncontrollable bleeding at times, endo covering everthing including my bowels , and PCOS on both ovaries. My mum had this and she handed it on to me - hence why I really don't want a girl.

I totally understand that Becks.  How soon after your 3rd can you have the operation?

Will you be trying any particular methods to get another boy?

Nope not doing anything just going to hope like hell it is another boy.

I think that if I haven't gotten pregnant by Feb next year then I will have to go and talk to my gyne.

Talking to my gyne last time (he is also my OB) he said that after I have my 3rd and it is VB then 6 months after that. However if I have a CS it will be a knocked out CS and he may do it then and there, just depends.

Toni, Michaela's such a little mummy too.  Whenever we visit friends with babies she forever has her arms out "ta ta ta" wanting to hold the baby and she plays babies with her toys too and is forever making her toys kiss and cuddle - oh bless!