Finding out the sex
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Topic: Finding out the sex
Posted By: mrs frantic
Subject: Finding out the sex
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 9:35am
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Just wondering how many people did/will find out the se of their baby? My husband and I are both unsure if we want to do this, we both see the pro's for both sides...and now I am wondering what others think and why...? ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 9:39am
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i found out cos at 20 weeks it seemed so far away so i had to find out and also u can buy pink or blue ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 9:41am
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i will be finding out on tuesday if baby will let me!! im really keen to know. i found out in both my last two pregnancies.
i like to prepare myself for whatever it is.... think of names.... and start thinkin of it as its sex not an it!!! plus i HATE suprises! everyone is different, at the end of the day its up to you both. |
Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 10:07am
I will be finding out on Monday!!! I can't wait. I want to know what to buy, blue or pink. And i think it will be easier for me to get more prepared if i know what to expect. The other biggie is names  , picking names is not a strong suit of me and my partner.
I also agree with mum2emj about the calling baby a boy or girl and not an it! ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 10:14am
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I will also be finding out the sex of the baby as you can plan what you need to buy and also you can choose a name for it more easily. ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 10:14am
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We didn't want to find out, but were told by an overzealous sonographer! Now I'm really to happy to know - Baby Joshua is part of the family before he's even born ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 10:36am
Yes we are finding out for all of the above reasons! Actually my sister found out last week what she is having and apparently the sonographer said that around 97% of people find out these days  Maybe that was just in that clinic as it seems a little high! Is anyone finding that EVERYONE has an opinion when you say you are going to find out?? it is really starting to pi$$ me off!!!!!!! Its no ones business but mine and DH's!------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 10:41am
| we never found out. I really wanted to but ina weak moment agreed not to. I started calling baby he and she on alternateing days. Which led to my dad thinking that I knew, and he would wink everytime I mentioned the baby by sex. As for names, we decided on a name for boy and a name for girl. We had alternatives just in case we changed our minds too. |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 11:10am
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we found out with both babies and am pleased we did. It helped me bond with Kobe and he became a person to me because I had trouble with the the reality that there was an actual baby inside. Same with this pregnancy, I didnt really think of her or about the pregnancy in a positive way until I knew it was my wee girl. Still trying ot think of names though. If I had the patience I might of waited but when the time came and they asked if we wanted to know I had to say yes. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: mamawendz
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 11:30am
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I found out with our first, Maddisyn. I could not go through all that time not knowing. I wanted to be prepared you know?
This time we aren't finding out. We don't "need" to be prepared and it just makes it more exciting not knowing and it will be a lovely surprise! Plus.... it will make a great game for guessing at your baby shower!! haha ------------- mama_wendz  My Girls: Maddisyn Tylr & Layla-Mei Virginia
My Baby Boy: Noah Aotearoa
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Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 11:30am
Me too. I want to find out because of all the above reasons. I have alot of people telling me also that we should wait and be surprised. But nah not us. I think theyre just jealous cos back in their day  there wasnt the technology to find out and they had to wait, hehehe. ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 12:21pm
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with jack, we wanted to find out what he was going to be as we'd relocated a house and needed to redecorate every room basically so we wanted to know what colours to do his room in. also, i have no patience and had a feeling he was a boy anyway. the biggest reason though was so we could call him by his name and 'bond' with him before he was born. i loved being able to talk about him like he was already here.
that said, this time round it's going to be a surprise at the end. jack is moving into the bigger room so if it's another boy, which i think it is, we won't have to do anything in his room. we also have everything for a boy so if its a girl....yay shopping spree! 
wow, that was very long-winded! sorry ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 12:48pm
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I didn't find out with Hannah because to be honest, I didn't want an overload of pink clothes if she was a girl
It was a lovely suprise once she was born. I can see why people find out though. I had a friend who was due the same time as me and I was so jealous she could refer to her baby as "she". |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 1:51pm
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I found out with Kiya, and we found out with Josiah (but didn't tell anyone until about 2 weeks before he was born).
This time? At this stage, we're not going to find out, unless my instinct about twins is right! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 3:03pm
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I did, and I will. I am too impatient not to, and I refuse to refer to my baby as 'it' so knowing what bubs is will put and end to referring to bubs as he/she all the time. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 3:31pm
Yeah I especially love it when they say "you MUST NOT find out".....whaaaaa??? Since when did you tell me what I must and must not do??? sheesh! We're finding out...end of story. I can't wait to say "he" or "she"...we already have names and back up names so that isn't so much of an issue but we also want to be able to shop for the right sort of stuff...decorate the nursary for a boy or girl....plus...I can barely wait for birthdays or christmas and always shake and poke the pressies and try to find out what they are...why on earth would this be any different???  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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KH25 wrote:Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 3:34pm
| We found out due to the kinda bet on if the Coburn could produce a girl lol and also so we could prepare, with the next one we are gonna keep that a surprise hopefully lol |
Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 3:48pm
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We found out first of all because the pregnancy came as such a shock that I felt if I knew what baby was, then I could feel like I had at least some control of the situation!
Also, as soon as we found out, it was like baby developed a character and a personality when we started calling her 'her' and 'she'. We won't name her yet because we want to make sure she suits the name we give her. We've got a few options picked out. And yeah everyone seems to make that disappointed 'oh what a shame' noise when you tell them you know what you're having! Is that such a bad thing?! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 3:53pm
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WE kept Paris a surprise although we both really felt like she was a girl all along and only picked a girl name - well, only AGREED on a girls name - boys names mike just would not agree with, i was on the net looking for one the night before i had her.
We found out with Ayja simply because we wanted to know if we needed any new stuff or if we could get away with using Paris's handme downs - i mean we had some blue stuff, but alot of paris's stuff was pink - cos that's all people buy you if you have a girl! (i personally think blues look good on little girls too) The other big factor that others have mentioned is we found out specifically so i could start to bond with baby as more than just an "it". since i was going back to study quite soon after having her, and also i had trouble bonding with paris the first time round cos of PND, i wanted to be able to name this baby and bond with her as a person before she was even born. IF there was/is ever a next time i would find out again, simply cos we have now gotten rid of our little baby stuff and would have to buy new.
i see pluses and minuses for both sides. - but remember, just cos you find out what baby is - does not mean you have to tell others. me and mike only told my sister and my MIL - so we each had someone to talk to about it and we wouldn't go nuts..(and paris, who surprisingly kept it secret as well as the name we had picked!) we found out FOR US, not for anyone else.. some people got all annoyed with us for keeping it secret, and tried to pry and trick us into giving it away, but hey - if we hadn't found out they wouldn't know anyway. good luck deciding. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: netballgirl4
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 3:58pm
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were going to find out at 20weeks but if bubs wont let us then we will wait ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 5:56pm
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We are still unsure what we will do at this stage. I'm like you and can see pro s and con s of both sides. I think we are probably swaying more towards finding out though. I think it would be nice for bonding and getting mentally prepared.
If we do end up finding out we won't tell anyone else what we are having. Good luck with your decision! |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 6:51pm
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you are all going to hate me for saying this but it drives me crazy when people say that know what they are having but wont tell you. I would rather they just said no we couldnt tell or decided not to find out. I can respect that its up to them to tell or not to tell but if you were impatient enough to find out you can bet others are as impatient to know too. its like being a little kid again and someone saying na na na I know something you dont know. (i mean this about the sex not the name, I can understand why people dont tell that)
------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 7:02pm
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I only just read this poll, but we aare going to findf out but not tell people the name. I think that if you tell people the name then once you have the baby, it's like "finally so&so is here", rather than Wow, they had their baby G/B and they named Him/Her such. It just adds to the excitement if people don't know the name -------------   
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 7:07pm
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peoplenew what i was having but not his name as i hadnt diced ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 9:29pm
| I think that the minute you start saying "we;ll call him/her blah blah blah" someone will screw up their nose and say "really?", or tell youabout some hooker who had the same name, or something like that |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 9:40pm
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lol yep i never intended MIL to know our names but SOMEONE (mike) told her.. and i had that happen - not that i think Ayja would suit any of the other names we had considered. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 28 March 2006 at 9:44pm
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With Josiah, we told people the names we'd chosen, but only said that we knew what we were having, and weren't going to tell, if they asked. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 8:06am
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I found that if you tell people the name before bubs is born it is too hard to change your mind once he (she) is here! Quinn was always a Quinn until about three minutes after he was born, I changed mymind but Andu told me it was too late 'cause he had told people already!!
The other thing that REALLY annoyed me about finding out the sex, my ILs didn't want to know. It was so hard to be aware of not calling him a he in front of them it drove me bonkers! This time around, if we find out and they don't want to know TOO BAD!! (I am super preggy hormone girl this morning,not pretty!!) ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 8:17am
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Ugh, we had that issue with people (well, my MIL) screwing up her nose at the names we had chosen. We've decided that although bubs will be Joshua on his birth certificate, he will be know as Josh. She HATES it, and has told us she's going to call him Joshua regardless. She HATED every other name we'd chosen - we were tossing up between Jessica and Maia for a girl and she dispised both of them. I say keep the name to yourself! Saves a lot of stress, and once bubs is here and named there is not a single thing they can do about it.... mwahahahahaha ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 10:54am
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my feelings too. I was worried about what people would say about taine. the only one who commented on it was my nana's neighbour whose a bitch anyway. And honestly, who cares what she thinks!!
my MIL wanted Taine to have a Maori name if he was a girl. Problem is, the names she suggested were hideous. And she kept saying things like "what will WE name the baby". "we"????? "we" my arse! luckily Lewis is sensible and vetoed all names. But said that she could continue to suggest. |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 11:02am
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Good thing that Lewis was prepared to back you up!
Our problem is more my mum than anyone else... my nephew (Nathaniel's brother's son) is named Ezekiel, we call him Kiel for short. When Mum heard what his name was, she winced then said "At least they didn't call him Nebecannezzer" I was so offended on my inlaws behalf!------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 12:11pm
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I was lucky that when we decided on the name for Ella everyone loved it i just said that it was our decision and noone elses if they didnt like it to bad its their problem not ours
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 12:50pm
good attitude jezika! i think we should all be like that! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 1:45pm
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We've only fessed up to a couple of people what names we like...we're not telling anyone else for all the reasons listed above! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:15pm
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i didnt tell people what we were thinking about naming our two girls, and i only told people (except my mum) that we were having a girl first time around then told people we didnt know, i hated saying i didnt know when i did, it just got on my nerves when people expected to be told... and it was usually the ones that were anti me finding out what the baby was! haha....
this time i am not the keenest on telling people but i hate the pressure of them asking all the time. i really want to know myself, but think i will only tell everyone here and my mum.... then tell everyone else its a suprise. |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:21pm
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yeh i seem to have been pretty fiesty and all that since becoming pregnant i felt sorry for my boss when i was working i musta bailed him up so many times lol
When i was talking to mum about possible names and she was saying yes no yes no i was saying well mum i appreciate ur input but it is our baby and we will name him/her what ever we want, we tried for to long to let someone ruin it for us. |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:23pm
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we told everyone what we were having from the start but only as I mentioned above it drives me out of my mind with curiosity if people dont tell me but we didnt tell people the name until we knew for sure and then it was a done deal. This time round I made the mistake of telling my nana that the name Emma was in the running and she is so excited (was her mothers name) and keeps refering to baby as Emma, have to keep reminding her its one of about 5 names! ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:26pm
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Before we came up with another name, we were considering Rhys/Reece for a boy... when I told Mum (stressing it was only a thought) she pulled a face, THEN told me the name was fine, her expression was because theres a boy who's beating my brother up at school and that's his name!
Thanks Mum! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:27pm
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as a teacher it is really hard to come up with names!! I was always oooh I like that name but then had a naughty kiddie in my class with the same name that put me off, hehehehehe ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:28pm
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Yeah, Nathaniel has that problem too! Well, acutally, it's more of a problem for me - I suggest all these names to be shot down! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:41pm
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yeah we had that, mike was always saying "nah, i knew someone with that name" blah blah.
I had always thought that Brad, for a boy, was kinda ok... he completely vetoed that one because my ex just happened to be a Brad (come on it's a common name!!) the only thing we really took into account was we wanted names that couldn't be shortened, couldn't be put together with a nickname, and we were to careful about what the initials spelt. even though mother in law ruined alot of good names, we were never COMPLETELY set andhappy about them at those times anyway. I think in the end you just know - you eventually find a name and in that moment you know in your heart and head that it is the right one for your baby.. Ayja had been at the bottom of the list forever, it was just a name we liked - but never seriously considered - we didn't strike it off the list, but we had never contemplated it or talked about it at all, and one day when we were back at square one after having our current name ideas trashed, i just said to mike "how bout Ayja Nicole" and he didn't even think he was just like "yep" and that was it. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:49pm
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Thats what I have been waiting for with this baby. When we heard Kobe it was like, yep thats the one but this time round we have a list but hubby hates most of my favourites and the one I keep coming back to (that he hasnt completely vetoed) Im pretty sure people wont like but it just sticks in my head. Plus there are lots of names i like hearing but dont like saying if that makes sense. Hubby loves Trinity and I like the way it sounds but cant picture myself saying 'come here Trinity' ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 2:52pm
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Kicked off for spamming!
Lol Robyn, we've got a girls name we keep coming back to! It first came up while I was pregnant with Josiah, and its stuck around! We won't be using it for this baby, but maybe in the future... ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 3:37pm
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Rod's ideas and mine were *completely* different, as well. We argued about them almost all the pregnancy. We settled on Jacob for a boy because I wanted Jake (to me, there is no sense having a name, but not using it, mine is Anne- Louise, and I am NEVER EVER called that)but Rod didn't like Jake cos there was a boy in his sons rugby team named that..so Jacob was a compromise. Funny how He calls him Jake, and I call him Jacob or JJ. He had chosen (and please don't take offence anyone, but I am going to say BBLLEEEUUGGGHH)For a girl - Catherine or Jacquiline and for a boy (and this is serious, too, no joking here) AXEL BUCK.!!!!!!!!!!!!
------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 7:22pm
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Axel buck!!!lol
i have decided that the poor deluded fool that marrys me and fathers the rest of my children..can name the goldfish (unless i dont like what he calls the goldfish) since i do the 9months of carrying and the birthing part-yeah yeah i know thats not how it works-but too bad! when i was pregnant and at bethany here were some babies who made an appearance Destinee Misteek (geez not even spelt right) Prints Eric (yes prints not prince) Utopia Amazon Papillion and my nurse friend had twins come in to her surgery one day and i kid u not, there names were ....Benson and Hedges
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 7:27pm
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lol ok i ask my pernats to help with names came up with arroha rua for a girl and jay-jay philip for a boy well i changed my mind while in laubour and when everyone asked i said james and that stuck and i reconk he looks like a james ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 8:31pm
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papallion is a kinda fluffy dog.
I went on the treasures web site and there were some "interesting" names circualting. One woman (and crossing my fingers that I'm not offending anyone) was cdalling her kid Talon. Talon???!! Those are claws on eagles. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 8:43pm
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Niiiiccce!!!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 9:27am
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tehehehe benson and hedges I knew a girl called Sariah it was a cross between Sarah and Mariah her parents couldnt decided so they merged them
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 9:36am
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In my class in Form 1, there were: 2 Scotts, 2 Roberts, Aliesha, Anita, Anneka, Pineka.
The only ones the teacher got mixed up were me (Rebecca) and Rachel! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 10:50am
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My friends name was Ciana (see-arna) and my sil's name is sarica (sa -ri -sa) which I like. But Ciana often got Ki-arna instead, and got sick of correcting people.
I went to school with a Chastity - it ended up being quite ironic. |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 3:24pm
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not wanting to ofend anyone, but (and this is just my opinion) what is the point if you have to uses a different spelling to show people how its said? annnnnd, I went to h/shcool with girl with a very unusual name who gets very sick of spelling it for people nd telling them how to say it and what it means.. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 3:32pm
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there are some really 'different' names being used out there eh!!
my lil niece was going to be damien lucifer!!!!!!  seriously! luckily she came out a girl and her name is shaquila lillie. hmmmm, lillie is nice, but shaquila? (sha-kee-la)
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 3:54pm
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I thought I'd spelt Kiya's name the way logically it should be pronounced: "kii-yah"
She gets called "key-ah" all the time! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 11:01pm
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well i thought it was kie-rhymes with pie-a ...
Becs i knew twins called rachel and rebecca...interesting I like some irish names but geez ud have to explain the pronounciation all the time eg Siobhain = shavaughn Roisin=roe-sheen Tahdg=tiig (as in TIGer) saoirse=seer sha odd spelling but sound pretty
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