Internet drama.
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Topic: Internet drama.
Posted By: jax
Subject: Internet drama.
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 10:04pm
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First of all, don't panic, I'm not referring to you ladies (with the title) ! Secondly, I'm exhausted, so will *try* to make this short and sweet.
Basically, I'm begging all of you - please please please please PLEASE don't go all feral and bitchy and dramatic on me ok? EVER. You ladies are awesome, I love this website to bits, y'all are alright in my books - and by that I mean gutsy, passionate, funny, and honest. However, some people on other forums (completely unrelated website) that I shall not name, are not quite so upstanding. I know I'm really a big softy whose bark is way worse than her bite, but I can't *STAND* people who lie and backstab and act like they were still in high school. Like I said, you ladies are pretty gutsy and not afraid of speaking your minds - and you do it exceptionally well... but just reassure me, that if I ever say something DUMB (and I don't mean just preggy brain dumb), or offensive, or something - that you'll just be plain with me, or if there's a problem - that you'll say it straight to my face ! Ok so, maybe this post isn't going to be as short and sweet as I thought, and probably sounds a lot angrier than I intended it to be, but boy oh boy did I need to vent. A lot of it is probably hormones, but this whole mum-to-be gig has already changed my life heaps, and I see things a lot differently now - especially relationships between people (even ones that I hardly know). Drama makes me want to spew, really - and I'm comfortable here because of the reasonable lack of that  I feel that even though internet relationships based on common interests can be tenuous at times, that I can be reasonably confident in saying I *know* you guys (or gals in this case), which is why I'm happy to let myself go LOL(go on, and on, and on... that is !) But most importantly, to be able to do that and not be afraid of what people will say back, or think, or do or WHATEVER... is *really* important to me.
Right so, I think that's all for now !! Thanks for putting up with me girls
 for you all !!------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 29 March 2006 at 10:14pm
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wow sounds like you have had a bad experience. Hope you feel a bit better now you have vented.
I think its safe to say we are all fairly open minded here and even if we do have strong opinions I havent felt anyone has tried to force them on others (and hope I havent done that to anyone) we seem to debate well on this site rather than get agro with each other so dont stress Im sure if you do really upset someone they will take it objectively or let you know. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 7:33am
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Wow Jax, I would sooooo love to read what has made you upset. Hows about posting a link, huh, huh?
I do have pretty strong opinions on certain things but try not to shove them down peoples throats, as basicly its only my opinion. So sorry to anyone ive ever offended, its never been intentional. I love all of you and dont know what id do without my ohbaby pals. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 7:43am
I love the oh baby site too. I feel a lot "safer" here than other forums I am a member of. I love how everyone is so supportive and helpful without being mean!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 7:47am
| me too! I think some other forums canbe a little judgmental. I had some woman on another site (cough. treasures. cough) tell me how dumb it was for me not to realise I was pregnant so soon after having Jake. Last time i went on there! I mean, i know it wasn't the smartest thing evef, but did not appreciate it being pointed out! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 8:43am
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yep this place is pretty wonderful - and everyone is supportive - there's no such thingas a dumb question, if it's worrying you chances are it's worrying someone else as well, or HAS worried someone else at some point.
That actually, to be very truthful, was kinda the reason i was a bit apprehensive at first of all this big influx of people joining this forum - i was a bit worried it would go to pack and loose the closeness and bond that we all seem to have - am glad to say that hasn't happened, and everyone seems to really accept that the rules here are to support each other.  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 8:46am
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Hehe, don't worry Janine - I have the power to moderate! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 9:21am
Haha, Whenever I come on here I come on with an Open Mind that everyone one is different, no two mothers are the same and we have different ways of parenting. I may put my 2 cents in and offend someone (if I have I'm sorry) but as I said we are all different and any advice we get is like gold 
Jax - Hope you feeling a bit happier now, our tankers have been ood lately so haven't had an excuse to ring you! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 9:25am
mmm Jax i totally agree its not until you get pregnant and are gonna be a mum that you notice all the picky bickering around you, i cant believe there are some of my friends who wont talk to someone coz they dated another person in the same house after they dated their current boyfriend  Days of our Lives soap drama! lol and to me its like just freakin get over it!!! You cant pretend your in high school all your life.
If you ever need to vent outside of here you know where to find me
But i totally agree that Ohbaby is really good its where you can ask the "silly" questions and not get flamed for it, its really really good
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 9:47am
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Jax We're here for you!
It is nice that we all can talk and present our own opinions without giving offence (at least, not deliberatly offending, anyway). I'm really thankful to know all of you and know that even though I'm now third-time around, I still can't ask a stupid question! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 10:20am
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I love ohbaby - dont know what I'd do without all of you! And slightly off-topic, but Emma how long have you had the power of 5 stars!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 10:54am
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five stars! sigh!
I remember when i started coming on here. Some people had TWOkids and I didn't even have one yet. I remember thinking -they must know EVERYTHING!! Now, two kids later, I laugh and laugh and know crap-all. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 10:59am
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Oh Jax some one has really pissed you off ...huh???
I personally think that all the members of Oh Baby are nice, supportive and interesting. I must admit that I dont belong to any other forum so cant say I know how people are there. I asked my share of dumb questions and these ladies always made me feel normal after....that is special, specially to a first time mum. I love chatting to every one here. I would like to take this opportunity and say sorry to any one I have ever offended, trust me it was not intenational....I would hate to think that I have hurt any of you lovely ladies. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 12:29pm
I love it here too! Everyone is so lovely and supportive without being preachy or in your face. I don't belong to any other forums either so luckily for me I only have good experiences with internet friends. I seriously don't know what I would have done without you girls sometimes - no question is seen as dumb, if you have fear about anything all you get is reassurance. It's great here!! Awww.... warm fuzzy, hugs hugs  ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:07pm
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Well it wasn't just Jax who is pretty ticked, it's me too as the incident Jax is referring to also involved me as being on the receiving end of the backstabbing that went on at this site. I was very disappointed at how these people could turn horrible.
I too am so glad that every one here is genuine and that we have had none of that horrid stuff going on so big thank you to everyone!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:15pm
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Oooh, lots of warm fuzzys!
Aimee, I've had five stars for a couple of months now. It used to be if I spotted a prob I would have to tell Ange (my boss) and get her to sort it, so she decided it would be easier if I could just do it. Plus it means I can do announcements and Sticky's. But beware - I can also delete you all mwahahahaha! 
Just kidding! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 2:45pm
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5 stars..... I dream of 5 stars, sigh ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 3:51pm
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aaah the un-attainable 5 stars, lolol. funny how newbies etc always want to know how to get them ALTHOUGH.... now that you mention it - I reckon i should be awarded them! I am, after all, only around 500 posts short of your total Emma. It was close there for a while. You must have stepped up your game, te he he
Liz - i am soo laughing and sharing your comment about thinking mums with more than 1 kid knew it all - they really don't. if anything all we have learnt by having a second child is shortcuts and quick fixes. plus most of the time the second child is so completely different to the first that you are back at square one again. and no matter how short the amount of time is betweent hem when you go to dress or bath baby for the first time you're still thinking "ok, now how did i do this again?" "oooh i forgot that babies don't bend!!" ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 4:03pm
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to you paws and jax!
i was a regular visitor to one other forum, but also found it non-supportive and very judgemental. so now, i am a one forum woman! i love oh baby and don't know what i'd do without you gals to guide and re-assure me
your all  in my books------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 4:36pm
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Yay for Oh Baby and for us!!! he he ha ha ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 6:21pm
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gotta say oh baby is the best and only one i havejoined yay for us ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: netballgirl4
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 7:39pm
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ok i love obaby its like a big group of mums or mums 2 b and u guys give the best advice ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 9:02pm
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I won't go into detail, sorry ladies, because I have already wasted more energy than I should have on the whole mess. But as Paws indicated, it involved a site we were both on, and where it turned out the people were very harsh and judgemental - and in my opinion only, a bit chicken sh*t as there was a lot of farting around and hiding behind the excuse of "i didnt want to make you feel bad". ANYWAY, I've said too much already LOL !! But was definitely quite pissed off for a while there.
What I *am* thankful for though, is that I actually came to Oh Baby through here - via Paws, silver lining and all that
I am definitely more aware now of things around me, and how a lot of what people say, or what comes out of their mouth, isn't what they actually mean. I find it frustrating, but has enabled me to sort out a lot of things for myself, and have also come to realise what my true priorities are. And if you hadn't got the picture already, you ladies are fantastic !! Don't know what I'd do without you ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 1:35pm
Hehe Janine - could it be that I am on here instead of working... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 2:47pm
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he he he, Emma - why do you think i am on here so often lately, while i really would like to say it's to beat you in the posts stakes - it's really because i have assignments to do and this site is just tooo tempting.
It helps me escape for a few minutes (ok, for a bit longer than that...)and i can pretend i am a normal mummy again who doesn't have to explain the significance of theories of human care in nursing, body image and it's impact on pregnancy weight, mental health frameworks and legislational stuff etc - however riveting those topics may be. lolol. (actually the body image one is ok..) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 2:53pm
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I thought youd been onhere a bit Janine!
OMG Emma - almost 3000 posts!!  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Karysta
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 4:03pm
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you lot seem alright compared to some of the other forums i frequent, and thats a nice change!
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 5:51pm
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we r we rock ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 7:55am
Yea this forum is great espically for new mums like me who ask stupid questions.  Well they are not stupid to me and you ladies don't make me feel silly asking them. All i get is a Oh Linelle.... hehehe. Fantastic ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |