Would you leave.....
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Topic: Would you leave.....
Posted By: cuppatea
Subject: Would you leave.....
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 4:44pm
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if you found out your husband/partner was a tranny?
I watched that doco last night and it got me thinking. One of the couples had been married 7 years before he came out to his wife and she stayed with him and his female self she saw as her sister and his male self as her husband. She was only intimate with his male side but some of the other couples were more open than that. I've thought about it and for me it wouldn't be a deal breaker, I would be a little annoyed that it had been hidden for so long, and probably weirded out for a while but I think that we could get over it and accept it. What about you? ------------- 
 
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Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 4:51pm
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I watched some of that lastnight. I dont think i could accept that my husband/partner was a tranny aye. It would just be way too disturbing finding out they did that. Also i would be pissed they lied to me for so long (if it were after a long time, if they told me straight up id be outta there). ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 4:55pm
| I think it would take a bit of time to accept it, just cause it was hidden etc but I think I would end up being ok with it |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 4:59pm
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I didn't watch the doco but thinking about it, I don't know!
On one hand, its still the man that I love and as long as his feelings for me haven't changed, the love for each other is still there. On the other hand, this is a whole different side to his personality that I don't know. I guess I'd just have to give it some time and see how I felt once I'd lived with it for a while. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 5:39pm
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I was watching that too ... I dont think I would have a problem as he would still be the man I love and my best friend.
I did tell DH he wouldnt make a very attractive woman though! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 5:47pm
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Don't think I could do it... I love DH more than words could say but I married a MAN not a tranny/female.
So probably be a deal breaker for me - but would think rather hard about it as I'd feel I would want him still to be there for the kids. ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 5:54pm
I think I would struggle if my DH had kept it a secret for so long ... ie through 6 years of dating/living together/marriage. I would hope that he would have told me anything like that BEFORE we walked up the aisle 
The actual tranny/dressing up as a female part, well I don't think it would bother me hugely if he was open with me about it, rather than keeping it a secret. ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 5:55pm
| DH asked me the same thing last night when we were watching that doco, would I leave if I found out he was a tranny?.. "I said hell yes..there are already too many annoying things about you and that would be the last straw!" haha |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 6:22pm
lol. My Dh doesn't have the legs to be a woman, he also rarely shaves so would be a bearded lady 
The secret keeping thing is a biggy but after watching last night I did understand why the guy hadn't said anything as he thought he could stop doing it once in a relationship etc and then as time goes on it gets harder and harder. He only owned up when she threatened to leave cos she thought he was having an affair. The other couples the women knew before entering the relationship so that's a different kettle of fish. -------------
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pepsi wrote:Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 7:36pm
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dunno
OT but we were talking about high schools around the world today and apparently in Thailand, over 20% of school boys are "open-minded" gtowards gender and so they now have "male" "female" and "transgender" toliets in the high schools. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 7:55pm
OMG yes! too weird. I like to think I am pretty open minded, but the thought of Willie in womens clothing... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 8:16pm
| now THAT i would like to see. |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 9:45pm
Haha that made me crack up! 
Um yeah I would leave- I like having firm roles within a relationship, me feminine, him masculine, end of. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: JadeC
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 9:53pm
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Yeah, I think I would leave. I think it would just shake the foundations too much. ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 9:58pm
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ROFLMAO!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 10:14pm
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ROFL!!
yea id be way to weirded out by it! eeeewwwww funny tho as i know someone whos 60+ who was a closet tranny for over 20yrs then 1 day came out to his wife, she was devistated and she left. although she said if he had told her years ago when it started that she would have stayed with him. but still . . ewwww ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 10:16pm
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Well I have seen photos of my husband dressed in drag (he won a scooter and a case of V for it), but that was a one off. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 10:16pm
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My cousin married a tranny, she didn't know she came home one day and found him prancing round the house in her undies. She freaked out and he said "well they look better on me" She left. -------------
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 10:34pm
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i watched that last night too....i don't know if i would stay with DH if he 'came out' as a tranny or not..........it's one of those 'i don't know how i'd react until i was there' moments ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: kiwigal
Date Posted: 01 August 2008 at 10:47pm
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My friend went through that a few years ago and was married to him for 2 years. My husband wouldn't look good as a female |
Posted By: yummymummy
Date Posted: 02 August 2008 at 4:22am
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i think it will be a deal breaker for me - it would just be too strange ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 02 August 2008 at 9:04am
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Seems like a few of us were glued to that program...
I don't know what I'd do. I'm pretty open minded so probably stick it out? I have seen my DH dressed as a woman before & he does not make a pretty woman at all....I guess facial hair ruins the effect  ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 02 August 2008 at 2:32pm
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LOL! I've seen a pic of DH in lingere after his mates made him do it at his stag do... NOT PRETTY!!! So uh, no. Nope, the deception part of it would bother me too much, and to be honest so would the lifestyle. That said we have a tranny neighbour and while that bothers DH, seeing all his mates in the driveway in full garb for a night out, I don't care one bit. It's his business. But I'd feel it were my business if it were my own DH getting his nails done and ordering uber-tall sized fishnets!! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 02 August 2008 at 7:17pm
One thing that made me laugh during that doco is when the older tranny man was out with his wife, and those 3 young mums came up to him to ask him about being a tranny.. He said to them "what gave me away?" as if he genuinely thought he looked like a woman! I mean come on!...he just looked like a dude in a wig..same man walk, same 5 o'clock shadow and everything 
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 02 August 2008 at 7:27pm
M said that D would make a good looking chick, though 
I don't know what I'd do.... part of me likes to think I'd stay, as long as he still loved me the same. But the other half of me wouldn't. It'd be like learning who he is all over again... ------------- 
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