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Topic: erm...yes...hrmmm
Posted By: Guests
Subject: erm...yes...hrmmm
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:01pm
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I have a random question....
How many of you ended up having an episiotomy? Im absolutely petrified of them lol I have no idea even under what circumstances they do them and i was hoping you lovely ladies could fill me in so im at least prepared lol Spanks 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:03pm
Sorry, I didn't either time. If I had any idea, then I would let you know!  ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:07pm
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They usually don't do episiotomy these days unless there is no alternative - most midwives and OBs reckon that a tear heals faster and better than a cut. But if they need to get bubs out fast then they will do one, or sometimes if you have to have a forceps or ventouse delivery. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:12pm
| *crosses legs* oww bugger that lol yeh i would rather just tear personally than listen to someone snip snip snipping down there lol |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:16pm
lol jezsika!!! i too am crossing my legs!  in fact i keep telling hubby that! you'd think after 2 births i'd be fine! but im a chicken! haha.
i never tore or had an episiotomy, but now i have said that this time i might need to! i'm sure if it happened "we" prob wouldnt care or notice them doing it..... too caught up in the moment. but hmm..... legs still firmly crossed.  
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:19pm
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oohhhhh *gulp* i am squirming in my seat.... ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:19pm
haha yeh i agree its just all the episiotomys i have heard of happening are when the ladies have had an epi and since im not having one i think that is what is making me go queazy lol 
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Posted By: shelleybean
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 1:53pm
mmmm me to Frantic - ouch.... I bet you dont even feel it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 2:29pm
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I went thru an OB and had an episiotomy..also had an epidural so didn't feel a thing when the cut was made. I had the epidural right through the birth (big time wuss) and what I found interesting was that the most painful part of it was when I was stitched up....I felt that the most (and it was more uncomfortable as opposed to really painful). For my second birth I tore but didn't feel that. Once you've given birth you are so focused on your new child that you leave the OB and midwifes etc to do their thing.
I was guided by the OB as to whether I needed it or not and everything worked out very well so I was happy with her decision |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 3:00pm
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I didn't have one but I did have a graze and let me tell you, those are pretty bloody painful afterwards!
I didn't have an epidural either, just gas and air. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 3:35pm
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i had a few grazes too and they are painful - some midwives leave them some stitch - and well, mine stitched. I think a fair few mummies are lucky and get away with no stitches - others end up with at least some the first time round, even if they don't cut. from watching the whole process from the onlookers perspective - it all happens so quickly when you tear, it's pretty amazing - (must say i was definately thinking "oh my god, ouch!" though) ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 5:12pm
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i tore and grazed and while i didn't feel them at the time i blimmin did later! my midwife told me to have a look with a mirror to see how everything was healing up and omg!!!!! it as so swollen and purple and bruised! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 5:24pm
| again.... LEGS CROSSED!!!! arrrh! |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 5:26pm
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I had a small tear which they left to heal naturally - didnt feel it happen and wasnt a prob afterwards ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 5:55pm
ohhh ohch i was scard of the cut aswell and its the one thing that did,nt happen ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 6:13pm
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I tore a little but didnt feel it at all (thanks to epi Im sure) but after I had no pain at all or anything, had a few stitches but that was all. apart from bleeding didnt feel like I had just push out a watermelon. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 6:48pm
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Hey Jess, I had an episiotomy first time around, because he was a forceps birth and they needed a bit of help getting him out!! I have to say it was my least favourite part of the whole thing, didnt feel it of course but the recovery period was a good 3 weeks afterwards. I guess they arent that common nowdays in case you need a bit of extra help? I'm sure you'll be fine!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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Posted By: Gracielou
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 6:59pm
| I had an episiotomy as bubs needed ventouse delivery, had had epidural so didn't feel it or the stitches, but I was so preoccupied with my new daughter that they could have amputated my leg and I would not have noticed. It healed really quickly, I was told to take panadol for a few days afterwards but didn't need it as it didn't hurt much. |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 7:53pm
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*passes out* lol |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 10:49pm
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ooh Jess, if only you knew what you were getting yourself into
Just kidding, I can tell you it's the worst pain of your life, but 1) it's worth it 2) you forget the pain over time - that's why you have more kids! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 30 March 2006 at 11:14pm
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i tore a little bit wasnt too bad
my friend whos labour i was at had an episiotomy cos she had a ventouse delivery and she told me later she didnt notice it ...i sure bloody did -that was the only time i wanted to shut my eyes sorry! im sure that doesnt help! |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 7:30am
| okay I didn't have an epidural but did tear. Honestly (and I passed out during my blood test, so i am a wuss withlow pain threshold) didn't feel it, or the stitches. second time had a graze but no stitches. that hurt! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 7:58am
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I tore with my first, quite a big tear. No epidural,no drugs. They did stitches front and back to keep it togeather. It didnt hurt at the time, but ached for months after whenever i did number twos and didnt really come right until after i had my second baby and had no problems at all with her, maybe just a small graze, was fantastic.
What i find is the worst part about the whole birth thing was after youve finished pushing out the baby and the placenta, the midwife thinks its a good idea to shove her hand up you and have a good feel around to make sure everything has come away. OUCH, let me tell you both times i was just about climbing up the wall. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 9:39am
| hahaha aww the joys of being a woman!!! lol |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 2:39pm
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Hhmm Maria - did that happen both times or just the second time? I didn't think that was done to everyone as often - maybe cos you had a bit of bleeding with Jayde she wanted to ensure there was nothing else that was gonna cause it to start up again?
hang on, just read your post again. hhhm - maybe it's just a part that i don't remember cos i don't think it happened with me. I do know the first time round the midwife had to rub my tummy quite vigourously to get my uterus to conract cos i was bleeding heavily too. but that's all i remember. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 8:01pm
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no Im sure I didnt have the hand stuck up me, maybe that was just lucky you hehehe. I also didnt get cut and had a ventouse delivery, maybe Im just big enough (just checked with hubby and definatley no cutting, he said he would have passed out if he had of seen that happening) ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 9:16pm
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lol Robyn, they get stronger-stomached each time i think ... mike was all white int he corner of the room when ihad paris, but when i had ayja was a different story (maybe cos there wasn't much choice) but he was there, holding my legs, helping deliver her cos there was only 1 midwife.. lolol ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:14am
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Must just be a northland midwife thing? My friends have had it done to them too.. Not very nice. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 9:40am
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I don't think I had a hand up me either... I think I would remember that!
I had a first degree tear with Maya, no stitches, and it healed fine. Hoping that this one will be the same! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 10:08am
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I'm not too worried about that part, although it does get rather tight down there so I can understand if they really really had to do one It's more the recovery that worries me to be honest ! ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 12:09pm
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well i sure felt myself ripping i was screaming the whole pushing time (hope i dont scare anyone) but getting stitched up was fine but i did have a local didnt feel that going in ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
www.jackkeith.blogspot.com |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 12:49pm
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Hey Rachael, I was screaming during the pushing part too - no one else I know did that! Makes me feel much better!! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 1:44pm
thats gud i thought i was the only one too ------------- http://lilypie.com">
www.jackkeith.blogspot.com |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 2:32pm
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i did with Ayja - i think - i remember mike and the midwife telling me to calm down and focus. Well, i WAS focussing! by that stage the second time round i was in so much pain that i was pushing even when there was no contraction - i just wanted her out! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 6:59pm
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My midwife with Kiya made the comment that women make the same sounds during delivery that they did during conception... just what I wanted to hear in front of my Mum who was my support! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:29pm
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lol I remember my antenatal classes adn teh teacher who is an old grandma type lady was going through the breathing and sounded like she was having an orgasim, everyone in the class was trying not to laugh it was sooo funny. During the birth the midwifes told mum to look at the baby coming and didnt relaly give her a choice which was odd as mum was suppose to be strictly up head area only. I dont think I made any noise (apart from abusing hubby apparently in the first stage) but also had epi which helped. Didnt feel the stitching up but remember wanting them to hurry so I could go and see Kobe and after even with stitches had no pain at all. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:33pm
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Actually one of the clips I came across of a home birth really reminded me of a porno, mostly coz of the breathing LOL ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:38pm
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Ahhh birth... it really does pay to have a reality check now and again. Will definitely stop me from doing it again.
I had a minor graze and no stitches, but that hurt more than enough!!!! I lived on Ural sachets for about 2 weeks and had to pee with my head between my legs for atleast 4 days. hehehehehehehe |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 9:36pm
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i remember watching a video in antenatal classes and they were showing techniques to help with pain, and there was this lady who looked like she was kinda doing a slow hula - rocking back and forth and round and round - but her hubby was standing behind her pressed against her and it just looked so WRONG!
still, when i first started having contractions i thought hey, i'd try it, maybe it might work - lolol nup couldn't even manage it without cracking up completely - which of course made things hurt more - so that was stopped! ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 10:53pm
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was anyone else scared of doing number 2s the first day or so after baby was born? i was scared another baby would come out lol
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:39am
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Yep! ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 10:35am
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lol me too! the midwives at birthcare kept asking me whether i'd done a poo yet, i was like "whats the big deal about it?" but then when it came to doing one i realised "oooh, thats why they wanted to know" ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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