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Topic: Smoking
Posted By: Leish
Subject: Smoking
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 1:33pm
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Ok - I don't want to offend anyone or anything like that but I was just out on my break and there was a woman outside my building smoking and she is visibly pregnant. I see her out there quite a bit and the last time I wondered if she might have been carrying but couldn't tell at that stage. She has definately popped now though. I don't get why people continue to smoke while pregnant...
Someone I know smoked right through her pregnancy and was VERY defensive about it. She said that it was too hard for her to stop that her midwife told her that it would have been more damaging to the baby for her to go through the stress of trying to quit than for her to continue smoking - but to try and cut down. Is there anyone on here that smokes and can confirm this? I am not a smoker - I am just curious and do not mean to be getting on a soap box or anything like that - purely curious - thanks ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 1:46pm
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It is absolute rubbish - no midwife would say that it is more stressful for baby to give up smoking. There is so much documented evidence of the damage it can do! I have a friend who has smoked thru all of her pregnancies, saying it is too hard to give up, but IMHO it's just selfish.
I gave up smoking as soon as I found out I was pregnant with Maya. I suppose I was lucky in a way that very bad morning sickness meant I couldn't stand the smell of cigarettes, which made giving up easier, but the #1 motivating factor was the health of my baby. I had smoked for 9 years, and by the time I fell pregnant was smoking close to a packet a day. My partner continued to smoke (and still does) so people who say they can't give up because people around them smoke don't have much of an excuse either. My aunty wasn't ready to give up smoking when she got pregnant, so she gave up until after she had weaned her son and then started again. That way it didn't damage him. She did this with both her pregnancies (personally I think she's mad - if you can give up why start again! But I think the least selfish way of doing things). Sorry, I am just so anti-smoking during pregnancy. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 2:06pm
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My SIL said the same thing! "Its more damaging if I quit now that my baby is used to it...." What a crock. I asked both my midwife & my doctor and they both said its not true. But they also said that if the mum finds it too hard to give up, if they at least "cut down" then that is a small small help. I was a smoker & I quit. It wasn't that hard & I used to be a pack a day smoker. Admittedly my partner doesn't smoke so I didn't have the temptation but alot of my friends still smoke & I don't regret giving up. AND I don't plan on starting up again ever. Its been over two years now. ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 3:11pm
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. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: preggy_sunflower
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 3:36pm
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I was totally in love with smoking before I got pregnant. Isn't that just disgusting - but it's true. I was never a heavy smoker - usually 3 or so a day, always after work, but I tell you what, it has been the hardest thing for me to get used to not having. My favourite thing ever was to get home from work, pour myself a glass of wine, sit on the balcony and smoke a cig, drink my wine and chat to Jono about my day. I felt as though I'd 'earned it'. Being so sick during pregnancy has made it slightly easier to be smokefree - slightly I say, because when I don't feel sick I crave it something shocking. I can't say if I will stay smokefree once I have finished b/feeding, but I do know if I hadn't been able to do what I have done, then my baby would have suffered - no two ways about it. Now I can look forward to a healthy baby, who at this stage already weighs around 7lb 5oz (according to the scan). ------------- Joshua Hadynn - Born 3 May 2006 |
Posted By: shelleybean
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 3:42pm
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I know the feeling. I to was a heavy smoker and I went cold turkey when I knew we were TTC, and to this day I still crave for one - but I wont give in - its not fair on the baby. Im a very proud of myself. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 4:41pm
Shelley I am the same as you, I looooved smoking but quit as soon as we were TTC. I still (over 2 years later) really miss it sometimes!!! Made hubby give up at the same time too, hehehehe  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fairsk8
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 4:54pm
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I gave up as soon as I found out I was pregnant, tried to make my partner give up as well and am still trying. Sometimes I get really stressed out and crave one but then I smell my partner smoking a cig and the smell alone puts me off. My midwife told me on my first appointment which was the week I found out that I had to give up immediantly and I did. ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 5:04pm
I to gave up as soon as i found out i was pregnant with Blair and didn't start agin until i had stopped BF him, and the same with the twins. Everyone says to me why did you start again and as stupid as it may sound but i gave up because i was pregnant and wanted a healthy baby not because i was ready to give up for myself. I missed it heaps more after i had the twins then with Blair, but not sure why. I remember when i was in hospital after i had Blair and there was a lady in labour having a smoke and i rmemeber thinking how can you smoke while you are in labour, but i guess if you have smoked through your pregnancy then you gona crave it when in labour  ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 6:18pm
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I never really smoked that much, just if I was at the pub (which you cant do now anyway) but didnt touch one as soon as I found out. Hubby smokes but has to go outside of course. My SIL is a huge smoker and still smokes AND drinks while pregnant and around her little boy. It drives my family crazy but there is nothing we can do, I just cant understand how open she is about it. We were at a restaurant once and she was feeding baby with a beer and smoke in her other hand and (by my next comment I mean no offense to anyone) but she doesnt look like the type who would do that if you know what I mean. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 6:52pm
Good on you all for giving up, you should be proud of yourelves  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 7:01pm
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Kas - you sound like my aunty! We all wondered why she didn't just stay stopped when she finished b/f, but I guess she enjoyed smoking for herself.
I was there when my friend had her second baby and she was outside having a smoke whil eshe was in labour. this was way before I had Maya so I didn't get how wrong the whole idea was, but now it horrifies me. PS. I wish I could get Willie to give up. He has emphysema. But in his case the doc has said that giving up might actually be worse than smoking as last time he tried he packed on the weight and as he has high cholesterol and blood pressure and pre-diabetes weight gain is pretty bad for him. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 8:45pm
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i started smoking at 13 and gave up as soon as i knew i was pregnant and like kas didnt start again till i stopped bf when monkey bum was 13months, i didnt mean to start again i went out felt like one with a drink and here i am spending my hard earned money on them sigh....Caitlyns 4 in june and i want to quit, im not the type to be able to quit cold turkey and so am weaning myself off them.....i'll let u know how im going in june
When i was pregnant i lived with heaps of pregnant smokers at bethany and one was on 2 packs a week-she said to me once "i think my baby likes it cos she kicks more" no sweetheart its trying to kick all those nasty poisins away. We were due the same day (had them a day apart) and i was pretty small by the end of pregnancy whereas she was huge-the staff said i would have a small baby and she'd have a big one WELLL mine was 7ibs13ozs hers 5ibs3ozs My delivery-VERY straightforward-no painrelief,45 mins of pushing and bobs ur uncle (or peter might be) hers -heartbeat moniter showed the baby repeatedly in distress, ventouse delivery We shared a room at birthcare and that poor baby cried all the time becoz it was so addicted to the nicotine-and as soon as she was bought in she put bubs in the crib and asked me if i could watch her while she went for a smoke! i was too shocked to say anything! my mates a nurse and when she did her placement at nicu she said there were heaps of babies addicted to p and heroin etc...no offense to anyone but i think its selfish and ignorant-u decide to keep the baby u make sure its start to life is as healthy as possible sorry bout the rant |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 31 March 2006 at 8:54pm
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my older sisters smoked all the way through their pregnancies - and all of them are bigger builds than me and their partners are definately bigger built than mike (that's not too hard to do) - so you would THINK that their babies would have been much much bigger than mine were - but noo - apart from my younger sister's monster child (who is way over average for his age!) Little miss paris was the largest baby born out of all of the first children of each of us, she was 7lb 3oz. all of their babies were in the low 6 pounds category.. I have never smoked and will never smoke.. now that's gotta be more than coincidence.
one thing my older sister was told with her second preg was that if she couldn't give up, then go out, light up, take a puff and then put it out, it takes off the edge, but you aren't smoking a whole one and you go through less per day... she found that easier than trying to figure out when she wanted to have her 2 smokes a day that she had been trying to inforce. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 11:34am
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I did know of a girl years ago (around 9 years ago) whose midwife apparently told her to give up would cause more stress so to just cut back.
I personally don't agree with it at all but then I am VERY anti-smoking - sorry peeps but I admit I am one of those that would happily see it banned in all public places! I hate walking to the mall or where ever and everyone is congregated outside and I always get a face full of smoke. Went to get a warrant last week and this guy sat down not 1 metre from me and lit up.....it just annoys me becuase I am so worried about protecting the health of my baby. It is possible to give up if you have the willpower and determination and before anyone says anything, yes I do know from personal experience because i used to be a pack a day girl. Good on everyone who has given up and to the people who haven't....keep trying...it is so worth it for you and your child!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 11:58am
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Me and my partner both gave up as soon as i found out and i feel so much healthier now i think they are so dirty i wud never go back ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 5:28pm
| Leish i wonder if its the same person i knew lol i knew someone that said that same thing about smoking through her pregnancy. I have seen more than one woman do it and unfortunately have health issues with their children now not only that but their babies are really small!! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:57pm
I'm quite anti-smoking (it's more the money thing that I don't get?!?!) but would never actually say anything to anyone. I must admit I get annoyed with anyone who smokes around Hannah and glare at people smoking on the street! (I'm so rude!!!!) I guess it's just the protective mother coming out in me.
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 9:49pm
Not a fan of smoking either, used to do it on a casual basis, but even that went out the window as soon as we found out. It was one of the things that really pissed me off about our ex-flattie, and even though she's long gone now you can still smell it in the room  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 10:48pm
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was that the one who left yucky stuff in the fridge jax? sounds like ur well rid of her then
This is gonna sound ironic-coming from a smoker, but i too hate anyone smoking around caitlyn...ive always made sure its something i do (outside of course) when shes asleep in bed, or when shes staying at her nanas....she doesnt need to put up with it,as well as all the second hand smoking risks. I know its not as good as actually quitting...but i will quit in june-i promised caitlyn (not that she asked) and my mum,so im gonna do it this time-and if it happens sooner -even better...wish me luck teehee |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:04am
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Yup same one ! We asked her twice to stop (coz it's not like we'd ever said it was OK in the first place!) and we still reckon she kept doing it up until just before she moved out.
Best of luck with quitting - we're all here for you !! ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:18am
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Rodney's flattie before I moved in used to smoke in his room (now jacobs room) and even after a year, the curtains still smelled, even used febreeze on them, they were gross and it made the whole room stink, so i got new curtains just before Jake was born.
My SIL and brother are both VERY heavy smokers and they never stopped, nor do they leave the room, or stop smoking to cuddle their son. Poor boy has rotten asthma and ecxema like we did (our parents smoked around us)and they can't see that it owuldn't be so bad if they had a smokefree home and took their filthy habit outside. Pet hate - seeing people cuddling their kids with a fag, BUT holding it "away" from them yeah, like that is going to stop them breathing it all in! Even though my olds smoke outside, their house smells foul from their smoky clothes etc (they are heavy smokers too). I hate the way we smell after being their, and the whole thing makes me realise how yuck we must have smelt at school.
Sorry about the rant, I'm the only non smoker in our family, I HATE it. Even when we were dirt dirt poor (soup and taost for a week once) they STILL smoked. Now my dad is dying of lung cancer, and they are ALL still smoking. I'd love to see it banned, too. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:19am
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oooh you can see I'm off on an ANGRY tangent when I have LOTS of spelling mistakes!!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:27am
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My mum used to be a 2 pack a day smoker, but she quit cold turky when she found out she was pregnant with me. Dad used to poke needle holes through the filters to encourage her to quit!
I never really smoked, mainly because Dad said that if he ever caught me he'd make me chain smoke 2 packs! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 10:50am
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i really hate it when people smoke around ella too, and me now that i'm pregnant again too. it just seems so inconsiderate. a couple of weeks ago ella and i were sitting in a bus shelter and it was raining. this young guy comes in and lights up filling the whole shelter with his smoke. i asked him politely to go outside, and he did, after calling me a f'ing b!tch.
lol becca, your mum must have been so confused when all the smoke started coming out the sides of her filters! best of luck for quitting in june caitlyn's mum, i gave up so many times and always started again within 6 months. having ella was the best motivation for me, i'll never go back to it now. (husband would kill me first i think!) ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 1:33pm
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Really - I thought it was the strangest thing for a midwife to say to a pregnant woman - better for baby that you keep smoking!! I thought that the girl I know was lying but this is obviously something that lots of people have been told. Its really weird!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 3:19pm
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I think its an excuse from themselves personally. I know heaps of people that have stopped smoking when pregnant and their kids are fine!
I think smoking when pregnant and using an excuse like they arent allowed to stop is just selfish and makes me mad!!! |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 3:21pm
Smoking is one thing, and bad enough, but don't get me started on drinking... I knew a chicky who found out when she was already three months along and kept up smoking, drinking and weed !  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 3:34pm
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Jax - thats exactly what my face did when I read your post!! Thats shocking and so irresponsible. It makes me sad hearing those stories when I know so many people (myself included) who want babies soooooo much and are having troubles conceiving and are taking care of themselves etc etc and then there are those people who are pregnant and just don't care. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 3:52pm
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yep i knew a girl who had a baby then didnt look after it properly and decided it was ruining her social life so she gave it to her bf who wasnt even the father
Then she went off and stripped and is still doing it for a living!!! Its shocking! |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 5:06pm
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aaaaarrrggghhhh I cant believe how terrible some people are!!
I was a smoker and loved smoking, but the day i found out i was pg i quit. it was and still is horrible, i still crave it - esp when i am all emotional and have had a hard day. But i would never smoke knowing i was pregnant!NEVER! As for stopping causing more stress i dont believe that at all! I'm sorry I just dont. I think it's an easy way out! And I am a perosn who loves smoking, really i do, but thats taking the excuses too far! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 7:13pm
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oh man u guys wouldnt believe some of the things ive come across,being at bethany and knowing so many young mums-there was the 14year old girl who came back and had drunk a whole bottle of jim beam-i had such a go at her about fetal alcohol syndrome but she didnt give a rats arse.
I knew another girl who -this is pretty bad so be prepared for a shock-would LEAVE her 6MONTH old daughter in her cot by herself while she went out for a couple of hours to meet up with people from hot gossip and smoke weed.....needless to say her child got taken off her. Did anyone see that doco a while ago on teenmums in england and there were the 2sisters and all they did when they were pregnant was sit there smoking and dats all they did after the babies were born? No wonder us young mums get a bad rep! My friend smoked for a bit until i printed off an article of exactly how much it damages baby in the womb and she quit cold turkey and isnt planning on going back Makes me mad too-so many deserving people who would love to be parents and so many kids that deserve to have them -not the ones theyve got Sorry bout the novel
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 04 April 2006 at 7:23am
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It does give young mum's a really bad name and its a shame. I was 17 when I had my son and the looks you get!! I think I did a fantastic job with him and he is a great kid but - people judge you and think that you are "one of those" girls...
I agree Frantic about the excuse thing - if it was more harm to a baby to be stressed then they wouldn't have warnings on the cigarette packets about smoking when pregnant - they would have warnings on the door to work "if you are pregnant, do not enter this workplace - stress may cause harm to your unborn baby. Turn around and go home and lie in bed"...if only  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 04 April 2006 at 9:25am
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LOL Leish exactly!!!!
Exactly exactly exactly! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 April 2006 at 1:33pm
*puts down files, turns off computer and toddles off home with a cheery wave* ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Leish wrote:Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 04 April 2006 at 2:27pm
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lol leish, love it! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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