I don’t my baby anymore :-(
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Topic: I don’t my baby anymore :-(
Posted By: toniellis
Subject: I don’t my baby anymore :-(
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 1:12pm
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Hi ladies. Drama for me & its a bit of a novel.......
I had the worst night last night, Alex wouldn't go to bed which is very unusual for him, then he kept waking up throughout the night. My fiancee Spencer woke up at 5am this morning as usual to head to work & I asked him if he could bring Alex in to me (he was crying again!) because I was sooooo tired. He was like "ah nah I want to have a coffee before I head to work & I can't be late coz we are all trying to finish up early this morning." I was like WTF?????? Alex's bedroom is right next to ours & its not like he EVER gets up to Alex during the night! But off he went made his coffee & shot out the door, so I got Alex up & brought him back to bed. 8am & Spencer gets back, rushing around to get all his motor-x gear into the car. Gives me a kiss & heads off. I got up to make breakfast & I was planning on shooting down the road to get Quikeze for my heartburn, in the ute....No keys, no eftpos card in my wallet & the blimen garage is padlocked shut anyway. I rung Spencer to find out where the keys are & my eftpos card are & he tells me that he has them & he won't be back until 8pm tonight. Great so here I am stuck at home, heartburn is killing me & I can't go out coz I have no keys for the ute & I don't have my eftpos card anyway, Alex is screaming his head off, poor boy I think he might be getting his back molars but I'm not sure. And tomorrow Spencer is planning on going to another motor-x ride so I will be by myself all day tomorrow too. So I'm having a bad day & I've been bawling my eyes out for most of it coz nothing is going right. If this is how things are now how the hell am I going to cope when Baby no.2 arrives???  ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 1:54pm
God is there anything natural I can pull out of the fridge or cupboard to help with heartburn???? I think there is something seriously wrong with me today nothing is going right. I just burnt myself on the stupid toaster making myself some toast  and after all that it didn't help with the horrible queasiness anyway------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 2:27pm
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try some milk maybe? that always used to make me feel better.
Can relate in some way to how you feel - hubby goes to speedway and speedway related things alot and works on cars etc. you do get to the point where you wonder how on earth you will handle having a 2nd one.. but you just do it. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 5:11pm
| Yeh i drank alot of milk when i couldnt get my paws on some heartburn relief stuff |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 5:11pm
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Im sorry but I wouldnt put up with that. I think your a strong woman thats for sure. Good for you. Hope your days get better. ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/"> 
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Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 5:15pm
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Put your foot down. Sorry it makes me mad when men do that. They need to be involved equally. Have u tried talking to him? Good luck with everything. ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:47pm
Aw Toni!!! Are any of your parents or friends close by??? I'd have driven over with some quickeze for ya (even if I was in Rotorua) but I'm in Wellington which isn't so much help. Maybe you should move here??!?! 
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 8:49pm
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try milk or ice cream, both work for me and I get reflux constantly.
hope your day got better ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 9:47pm
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If I didn't have plans for tomorrow I could have come to Matamata for the day, if you're not busy next weekend and Spence is off again maybe I could? Rols is in Dunners for work. ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 April 2006 at 9:47pm
Just had a thought... you are in Matamata right ??  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:32am
Awww Toni, he sucks... But I sooo know how you feel - bloody cars/bikes/anything with motors... My hubby is always off faffing around with cars and I hate it. Hope your day got better and Alex is having a good day today   ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 8:42am
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Hope you are feeling better Toni! Men suck at times don't they?
As for coping with bub no. 2, you get into a routine and things do go smoothly - not all the time, but enough that it's okay. Apart from that, you need to sit down and have a frsank "discussion" about your feelins. Becasue that is really inconsiderate. |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 10:43am
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Hi ladies, thanks for the tip about milk yesterday. I saw the advice & bolted down to the cowshed with Alex for some milk. Thank god it worked so THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!
Well just an update. Spencer must have known he was in the dogbox last night (it could have had something to do with the threatening look I gave him when he walked in the door..) because he actually offered to cook dinner and even better he actually DID cook dinner! We had a bit of a heated argument after Alex went to bed. I'm pretty sure I wasted my breathe though because I had yet another bad night with Alex last night & Spencer was too tired from riding to get up for me
And to make mattters worse, I had to get up early this morning (5.15am) because I had to milk the cows too. So I'm blimen tired and my ribs & feet are killing me. Unfortunately there isn't much I can do about it as Spencer has shot off to go riding again. I really didn't think he would because I said I needed him today and its raining too....but he rang up to check the track would be open & it is so he's gone. At least this time he left me the ute keys...just not my eftpos card. The good news is that Alex isn't too bad today. Its definitely another tooth coming through (no. 17) so I've dosed him up with Pamol. I'm really hoping he has his midday sleep abit early today so I can get some shuteye too. So now what do I do? Hey Nikki, my closest family is 2 hours away, along with most of my friends. Thanks for the offer of Quikeze. I would have KILLED for some Quikeze yesterday. Luckily the milk did the trick. Hey Jax, yeah we are in Matamata, well Waharoa actually but thats a 5 minute drive from Matamata so close enough I have no idea about next weekend... At this stage I have plans but they are all up in the air at the moment so really not sure.
Thanks everyone for the support, I'm feeling like I'm at my wits end right now, but its just kind of hit all of a sudden really. I'm just wondering if it could be the preggy hormones making it so much worse? Or the fact I feel like a fat pig that can't move Maybe I'm just not clear enough on how hard I'm finding things, but saying "Babe, I'm not coping!" seemed pretty damn clear to me. I dunno.------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: Southlandmummy
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 6:08pm
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Toni, Hey chicky, I know how your feeling.. Ive been the same with dh and needing help with Kaylin and being pregnant.. I often wonder how I will cope.. but I know I just will..
Also coming from a farm, WHat the hell are you doing milking cows at 32wks preggy... Take Care chicky.. :) ------------- Cindy - Princess and Princes Samia Isobel Joy born 9th September 2008 Spencer Graeme John born 29th May 2006 Kaylin Gavin Robert born 19 December 2004 |
Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 9:18pm
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Hey Toni, well where do i start Shane has never done that before, he always asks if i need him to do anything before he goes out. Man you should talk to him that would drive me insane, you are meant to be in this together not him doing what he wants and you having to stay at home with a little boy who is not good.
Give him a kick up the ass and tell him to get his sh*t together, otherwise you may aswell be doing it all by yourself (sounds like you are anyway). Hope he pulls his head in real soon, for you more then anything. AND like southland mummy said YOU SO SHOULD NOT BE MILKING COWS AT 32 WEEKS. Hope things improve soon, chin up, keep smiling. ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 9:57pm
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Was just going to say the same thing about the cows etc.
Hey we are going to be in town in a week or so - for easter. maybe if it's nice we could meet up for a picnic lunch or something at the matamata park - me and my sis and our kids and hubbies usually grab fish n chips and go there at least once or twice while i'm staying. Drop me a line if you're interested, me and mike are always trying to think of things to do while we are staying in Matamata because it can get a bit boring being stuck at my sister's place 24/7 - there's only so many places to go, and so many things to do. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 02 April 2006 at 11:49pm
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dats the matter matter with matamata.....groan -corny
Toni u need to tell that man of yours that u are his wife not his slave he can buck up his ideas or he'll soon regret it when he comes home to none of his laundry done and no dinner waiting -mwahahahaha seriously tho i hope the situation improves |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 8:04am
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 10:11am
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Big hugs Toni. Hope today is going better for you - and that Spencer milked the blo*dy cows himself this morning!
I feel you on the useless male thing tho - mine was out all weekend with his mates, and now I'm stuck with him all day while he recovers from a hangover. Lucky me. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 10:29am
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Toni i hope your feeling better today chicka, i find threatening the male works i tell him i wont cook, clean or iron etc and he frets and does as hes told lol i hope that ur man comes to his senses soon coz he could lose out on a good thing if hes not careful!!!
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Posted By: mamawendz
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 1:21pm
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Aw Toni
I hope you are coping better today chicky. I think its so mean that you are left to it all on your own... if I were you I would REFUSE to milk friggen cows my entire pregnancy!! You are a strong woman, I will give you that... but come on sweets, this has got to stop somewhere. If he is carrying on like this all the time, no excuse. Put your foot down darling!! ------------- mama_wendz My Girls: Maddisyn Tylr & Layla-Mei Virginia
My Baby Boy: Noah Aotearoa
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 2:01pm
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Hi all. Well today has been a better day. This morning Spencer actually brought Alex in to me at 5am because he woke up. So I was able to give him cuddles & fall back asleep. Feeling alot better after a good sleep.
Also we went out with Spencer on the tractor for about 1/2 an hour for some fresh air. I wish I had got a pic of Alex wearing a huge pair of earmuffs on the tractor! Too cute
I'm not worried about milking cows, maybe I'm mental but I enjoy it most of the time. When I was pregnant with Alex I milked everyday right up until my due date so its been weird only milking once every couple of weeks. I sat down with Spencer last night after Alex was in bed & had a good chat. He reckons I just seem to cope so well it never really occurred to him I need help and even when I asked for help he didn't think it was such a big deal. I guess its really my own fault for letting it be so easy for him....He made the point that he only really gets 3 days off a month which he spends with me so when he goes for rides on weekends after work its "his" time.......I just about bit his head off at that though coz where is my time off??????? Usually if I go out its with Alex in tow. He wants to go to Oz for 4 days at the end of this month to see his best mate, and I'm freaking out about it. Moneywise its a little bit tight (his fault for spending so much money on his bike!) and it will be 4 weeks before I'm due or 2 weeks if I have an elective C/S. Maybe not such a big deal but since anyone I can call if something happens is a good 2 hours away it makes me a little nervous. Sorry I'm really good at the novels lately, nothing really seems sorted & I'm not sure how to make a compromise. ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 2:04pm
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In all honesty, Toni, I'm not really sure you're the one who needs to compromise! I really get the impression Spencer is being just a little selfish, and he really needs to consider how his wants are impacting on your needs.
Just my take... I guess you can't do more than you already are to try to make him understand. Ugh! Men!------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 2:15pm
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Yes MEN!!!! Sometimes I reckon the only good thing is the night time cuddles
Hey Janine, I would be keen to catch up, if your going to be in Matamata You can email me at my username @ xtra. Lol I hope that makes sense? Just no fat jokes LOL!!! I get heaps of those at home and at the bosses place!
Even one of the other workers bought me a t-shirt saying "does my belly look big in this?". I was so not impressed with him but it was a bit of a laugh. ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 03 April 2006 at 2:53pm
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Kewl - will email you some time by the weekend then - once we have moved, and i have talked to my sister.. cos then i will know if she's planned anything - (as far as i know they are both milking the whole time we are there).
hhhm as far as night time cuddles are concerned - do you actually get them... i don't. mike doesn't like to cuddle me cos i usually tell him to go away after a bit cos i feel a bit suffocated, and then aparently, he has to roll over to his "cold" side of the bed.... oh poor him, so i don't get any cuddles at all. and well - he's a bit too bony to cuddle if i tried cuddling him. sometimes i think he needs more fat and padding.------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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