children & weddings
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Topic: children & weddings
Posted By: Mum2ET
Subject: children & weddings
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 3:47pm
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So we have just been invited to our first wedding since Ella has been born (with another 2 more invites on their way). Just trying to figure out if we should bring Ella with us- they are having the cermony in a garden at 2, followed by the reception at 6. Am thinking that we may bring her to just the cermony and then get my parents to babysit in the evening.......but would quite like to bring her to the reception as well, as she is a quite a social little thing and would love to see all the people; just worried that she will get really tired (even if we leave early). I obviously need to double check with my friend first to make sure it's ok. What do you do with your baby/toddler/child when you are invited to a wedding? do you bring them with you or leave them at home with a babysitter? ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 3:52pm
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We have been to a couple of wedding and have left DS at home. It was great to have an adult night without worring and just enjoying being with our friends.
I personally would just take DD to the ceremony and then get a babysitter for the night. Treat yourself to a night out! I just don't think a reception is a good place for a child e.g alcohol, loud music etc. also the couple may feel like they have to say yes to a child when they really don't want children there. Just my opinion tho  -------------  
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 3:57pm
| We went to a wedding a couple of months back. We just left Daniel with mum. It was just such a great opportunity to have adult time without baby/toddler and not worry about what if he gets tired, what if he starts shrieking or something like that lol |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:00pm
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i'd be inclined to just take her to the ceremony and get a babysitter for the night.
it's a great excuse for a night out! you could really make the most of it and enjoy yourself without having to worry about nappy changes, ella getting tired etc ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:07pm
We have taken our kids to all weddings so far because they have either been out of town or family  It's really hard taking children to receptions, they want to talk and run and play and they can't. If a babysitting option lives nearby, you could always take her for as long as possible and then whiz her to the babysitter. Otherwise I'd go and have a night out for fun.-------------  |
Posted By: Phat_Cat
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 4:08pm
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do you know if other children will be there? If there are other children then go for it but if your not too sure then I would tend to agree with the others take ella to the ceremony and then go by yourselves to the reception. Another idea is at the ceremony see if there are other children there and make the call from there.... ------------- Tristen - 24/06/07 Rylan - 11/12/08 Angel Babies -14/08/05 & 21/01/2010 Curtis - 26/02/12 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 6:54pm
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My matron of honour came to my wedding from Auckland and brought her 12 month old daughter and her big sister who is 7, as she was with me, dad spent a lot time taking care of Maia which was also a break for my friend.
I also had my 6 year old niece there and between her and the big sister she wasn't short of baby sitters, we had a very relaxed wedding, ceremony in the garden and reception at an old house which we had free use of, and we finished early at 10.30pm, it was great having children at my wedding. There were only 4 and that was a nice number, they were all incredibly well behaved too. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 7:22pm
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I think it totally depends on the wedding as well- some are very child friendly and others are quite obviously adult occasions. Was Ellas name on the invite? Maybe talk to your friend and go from there.
If you've got a babysitter available and nearby I personally would make the most of a baby-free night out  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 7:33pm
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That's what I was going to ask Jen, is Ella's name on the invite? If it wasn't then I wouldn't take her at all. For our wedding if I wanted children to come to the wedding I put their names on the invite, if I didn't then I left their names off.
If her name was on the invite you could take her but then you might spend the whole ceremony and reception outside so that her chatter and playing don't interupt the nuptuals or speeches. Otherwise maybe your Mum could come to the ceremony with you (obviously check with your friend) so that if Ella does need to be taken outside your Mum could do it. Although as others have said, a day/night out would be good ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 21 August 2008 at 8:17pm
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Her name wasn't on the invite- but then not that many of my friends have kids, so she might not have even thought about it. I was going to ask her anyway if it was Ok to bring her. My other friend who has a 2 year said she might bring her to the reception so if that was the case then the 2 girls could play together. At this stage thinking maybe she should just go to cermony......(although I could just imagine her loving all the dancing ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
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