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Posted By: my4beauties
Subject: **Pity Post**
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 7:30pm
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So I've been feeling quite down the past few days. Once again Jett's had another abscess come up (4th one now since January), and was seen by the Paed on Wed - which was just a check up appt from when he was in hospital in July - but this abscess came up, so good timing as he got to check on that. Paed said he would have to go back to Waikato to get the abscess laid open, and they would check for Crohns (which he's mentioned in the past). I'm angry that this wasn't tested for earlier, and that they said after they found the last fistula & opened it up, that it wouldn't happen anymore, and it has.
It's hard work emotionally having your baby go through these surgeries, and my heart dropped when I saw the abscess on Sunday evening, knowing what was going to have to happen again.
The other thing is, that Dh is having knee reconstruction surgery on Wednesday next week, day before Jett has to go back to Waikato H. So I'll be taking Dh to the private hospital in Tga, leaving him there the night, then Thursday going to waikato with Jett. DH tells me Jett's surgery is more important (which I know), but going under G.A is still risking and so i'm still going to be worrying about Dh, and I won't be there for him on Thursday & his mum will have to pick him up from hospital. I was hoping Jett would be going to Waikato a lot sooner than Thursday, and if the abscess gets bigger I'll be taking him straight to the Dr, in which they'll probably refer us straight to Waikato anyway.
I guess I'm just overwhelmed with it all. I sort of feel like my closest friends & family aren't as supportive anymore. They're over hearing that Jett has to go back to Waikato. When I tell them Jett has an abscess they're like "oh, another one". I don't really know what I want people to do though, and I don't even tell a lot of my friends now what's going on with Jett, as I feel they don't understand, or really care as much as when he first started getting them.
So I'm carrying around this emotional burden of what's going on with my baby boy, and yet I feel like no one gives a stuff!! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 7:40pm
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awww hun i know how you feel i relly do big big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 7:40pm
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That's awful timing for you all, and girl, I really feel for you, 'cause it's horrible being disappointed yet again about your child's health. I really hope this is the last time for him, poor wee Jett. This sux for you guys. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 7:49pm
Thanks girls. I knew I'd get a listening ear out of you . It means a lot to me! I don't feel like I can blurt this out to any of my friends or family.------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 7:58pm
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oh hun thats a big load to have on your sholders right now
Big  's go out to you and the knowledge that we are here for you------------- Ann 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 8:04pm
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Thanks Ann. I've had a lot on my plate for quite some time. So I really don't need this extra worry with Jett's abscess problems. I seriously thought I'd never see Waikato Children's Ward or operating theatre again after his last visit. The paed's sounded so confident that was the last of it. I was mentally preparing myself for looking after Dh after his surgery, and this is an extra load on my plate. humph. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 8:19pm
| poor wee boy and poor you doing it on your own! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 10:19pm
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oh sweetheart, you need a big big hug!
what a huge load to be carrying , big hugs hun , im so sorry things are going crap atm 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 22 August 2008 at 10:23pm
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awwww hun big big hugs too you!!! your definatly supermum of the year!
if i had all that to deal with id be a blubbering mess! family can be so horrible about things sometimes, iand i know what you mean about them saying oh another i had the same thing with sarah with theese weird red lumps she would get on her shoulders they would start off tiny and then grow then burst at random and there would be blood everywhere! 
anyway back to my point . . family can be really horrible at times especially when they dont know what your going thru but "think" they know if you get what i mean xox ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 23 August 2008 at 12:00am
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 23 August 2008 at 6:57am
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to you and your family.
That's a lot to deal with in one go! I really hope everything settles down for you soon. Fingers crossed they can find out what it is that's causing Jett's ill health and fix it up quick smart! ------------- 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 23 August 2008 at 7:55am
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's to you and family. What a rough time to be going through. I hope they find out for sure this time what is causing Jett's absesses (sp?) ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Phat_Cat
Date Posted: 23 August 2008 at 10:33am
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and a whole lot more (took me a while to find the hug one lol) hope you can get to the bottom of Jetts condition soon - even to have some answers as to what is going on. Good luck for it all and to your DH for his surgery It must be hard wanting to be in two places at once.... ------------- Tristen - 24/06/07 Rylan - 11/12/08 Angel Babies -14/08/05 & 21/01/2010 Curtis - 26/02/12 |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 23 August 2008 at 11:30am
| Big hugs and I hope you get some answers re Jetts reoccuring absess |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 9:41am
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Hugs Italiah! I hope Jett's op yields some answers and I'm sure DH will pull thru his knee reconstruction like a trooper. Willie had a total knee reconstruction years ago and it hasn't slowed him down much.
I can relate to your feelings of frustration, the gremlins seem to spend half their lives at doctors and hospitals and I really hoped Chiara would be a bit more robust but it seems not. It's at the point where I'm almost embarrassed to tell people one of my kids is in hospital/sick coz it's like "oh no, not again!" Hang in there, and we're all here to listen when you need to vent! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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