Is it wrong to be angry???
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Topic: Is it wrong to be angry???
Posted By: mummy_becks
Subject: Is it wrong to be angry???
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 7:25pm
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This year I knew we weren't going to see Nigel that much and I understood this and knew it. But he was away for Mother's Day and I got nothing that day apart from grumpy children. I was just reading his term plan (to find out when he is back this week) and I see that he has leave for Father's day (which is cool), but is going to be on an Exercise for my birthday. I am really gutted that the 2 things that are special for me I don't get him to be here with me, the boys don't fully understand what this means to me. I am probably just all emotional as AF is here, but this has just realy got to me. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 7:29pm
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tell him...i know it is out of his control but at least he will know how you feel...
and hope he doesnt do sucky burpday pressies like a certain someone i know this year!!! 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 8:04pm
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Why don't you suggest to him that you and him celebrate your birthday a little earlier (before he leaves), maybe go and stay in Taupo for the night and get the IL's to babysit?
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 8:06pm
I would be angry too becks! definately let him know how you feel and i like the idea of celebrating earlier
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 8:12pm
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We would be best to wait till he gets back as he is away for pretty much all of October. Not a silly idea, we could actually go down to Palmy and the in laws could have the boys for the night while we went somewhere else.Would be a weekday as well so cheaper. And I know it isn't his fault, just his stupid employer ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 8:18pm
thinking on the bright side
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 9:31pm
I get angry too, but unfortunately its very very usual. I suggest you get used to having birthdays etc missed from now on   Not cool but hey they choose it and the army is the least family friendly out of all forces.
DH has missed all anniversaries except for this one, most of my bdays, most of his bdays since we've been together, only one Christmas though which is good (although will miss next one and was supposed to miss last one), almost missed Jack's birth, might miss #2's birth or first Xmas, and wait for it... almost missed our wedding! 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 24 August 2008 at 9:57pm
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emz wrote:Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 25 August 2008 at 6:26pm
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I guess a lot of it comes with the territory but maybe it's time to sit down together and say, hey we've done really well this year with all the extra pressures etc and it's probably about time we at least went out for dinner, just the two of us. -------------  |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 25 August 2008 at 7:02pm
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That sucks but I think it's like emz said, it's something you'll have to get use to with the army. But even if you guys can't do anything on the day you can always do something either before or after instead. It's the thought that counts and at least you will be doing something
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 25 August 2008 at 8:15pm
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I get annoyed and DH is only in the airforce which is the most family friendly of the services.
It can be very disruptive to our lives, but I can assure you it is worth it. DH has been in 12 years now and I've been with him for 8 of those, he loves what he does and gets to do some interesting and exciting things. He being in the services has put a pretty nice roof over our heads, and gives us a lot of extras. Like the gym, pool etc. So yeah its sucks some times, but its also how it is. I've learn't not to too many plans too far in advance as they'll no doubt change and I'll get pi$$ed off. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 25 August 2008 at 8:32pm
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Yeah I know it is going to suck, he wasn't here for Josh's actual birthday but we had a party for him 2 days later which was all good. Or Andrew's but he did come down the day before his party to see him. I am just not going to make anymore plans around him and just do what I want to do.
------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |