This is killing me....
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Topic: This is killing me....
Posted By: Lisha
Subject: This is killing me....
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 7:55pm
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DH and I have decided that tonight is the night that we are going to teach Zoe to sleep through the night. And we have also removed her dummy that she has had since a newborn.
She is screaming and crying and has been doing this for the past 40 mins and I am sitting here crying as I feel for her and want to go in and tell her everything is ok.... but if I do, all this will be a waste of time. 
I know that it will be worth it in the long run, but she is sooooo sad and so am I.  That is why it is called tough love.------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lottieandharry
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:12pm
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Oh good luck Lisha. Cry it out is the the agenda here in the very near future, when we get a suitable time to do it. Harry until a week and a half ago has been waking 2-3 times a night now he is waking once between 12 and 3am for a bottle. To be honest he doesn't really need it so we wil endeavour to stop this soon.
It must be really hard but you know you are doing it for the right reasons. All the best, hope she gives in and goes to sleep!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:15pm
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Good luck, I had to do the tough love with Josh, took a few nights but so worth it in the end. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:16pm
Good luck and good on you! The gremlins STILL don't sleep thru the night and a lot of that is coz I have let bad habits form 
-------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:22pm
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hhhhhm good luck.
but, just a wee thought.... if you are trying to teach her to sleep through the night - maybe try that first before ditching the dummy, cos you'll never get her to sleep thru the night if she hasn't got her little comfort thing to turn to when you refuse to feed her. Little steps sometimes get there faster..  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:30pm
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yeah i am with janine on this one - doing both at once may be too much...
and if you really dont want to let her cry for that long you dont have to... 8 months is still young and sleeping through the night will come eventually ... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:34pm
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I agree with Biz and Janine too, two things at once would be so hard for someone her age.
She's crying because she doesn't understand whats going on.... ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 8:38pm
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Im so glad I never had to do that! (CIA) .. although Isabelle still goes to sleep with her dummy.
DH wants to wean her off .. but she sleeps through so I dont see the problem. And I covet sleep more than I care about her having a dummy at night lol ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 9:27pm
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oh so brave, we are just trying to teach our litte on to settle herself during the day, not wrapping and letting herself get the dummy. We still wrap her at night and give her the dummy.
We were lucky and tried changing her feeding patterns and that got her sleeping through the night, we are now at 2.5 weeks of 12 hours! no wonder DH is keen for the next! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 27 August 2008 at 11:33pm
Hope it all went well tonight Lisha, it is heartbreaking to hear them cry when you know you can stop it and make it better. Good on you both and good luck hun  ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 7:00am
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Well...... 5 mins after I sent the post, she went to sleep, it took 45 mins, and with NO dummy. She woke at 2pm but settled herself down and went back to sleep.
There is no way that we can reintroduce the dummy now as then all of our hard work would have been a waste of time. I suppose doing it cold turkey has been good as now she is no longer wrapped. That was the big thing, we would have her wrapped with the dummy in and then she would scream because it falled out and she had no hands to put it back in. Now she doesn't have that problem.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 7:28am
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thats great lisha! heres hopeing that tonight she settles faster!
edit to change to settles from steeles, really don't want her fleecing stuff lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 7:38am
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Thats awesome that she settled down, I remember it only took 3 nights of "tough love" with Neosha before she was sleeping through all the time and it was bliss
U did well chick! ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 7:55am
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Thanks so much! Just have to do the same thing now with the daytime sleeps! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 9:49am
Good job Lisha and DH, hope your sleep was a bit more restful and that it only gets better for you  ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 2:05pm
Fingers crossed for tonight!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 3:15pm
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good luck for tonight alisha!
i remember having to do the same thing with charli when she started waking during the night (after sleeping through for months) while she was teething........she then realised if she woke up and screamed, she'd get a cuddle and another bottle
only took a couple of nights of tough love and she got the point.....now if she does wake, DH goes in because she usually only wants me ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 7:07pm
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It's night number 2! The screaming has started. I might have to go out and clear my head as I know if I stay that I will be an emotional wreck! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 8:14pm
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Good luck again, stick with it ...... think of all the good nights ahead when you are successful!!! ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 9:47pm
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I know.... took 30 mins for Zoe to fall asleep. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 28 August 2008 at 9:55pm
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thats 15 minutes less than last night ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 7:12am
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And today she woke up @ 6.15am!!! no interuptions all night! Can't believe it and this morning she is babbling.... sooo cute! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LizzyJ
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 7:51am
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great job Lisha! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 8:29am
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great job alisha!!!
maybe tonight it'll only be 5mins ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 8:52am
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Have just put her back down for her morning sleep. The day sleeps are the ones that I cringe about. I know that she can do it, she does it so well at night. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 29 August 2008 at 3:21pm
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Yayyyy for Zoe, what a good girl. Great job Alisha and don't worry about the day sleeps yet, she may just sort that out herself once she is in the swing of things at night. One step at a time ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 7:09am
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Yay.... DH gave her a bottle this morning and she went straight back to sleep.... no crying or anything! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 10:03am
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great work!!!! keep it up!
here's hoping she has herself sorted now ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 30 August 2008 at 10:37am
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Yay that is so exciting Lisha! Good on Zoe!
Yeah it's all about bad habits eh... when Jack cut his latest teeth I felt for him so got up, but then he starting waking just for the hell of it so tough love here (again...) and so far we've had 3 nights of sleeping through - bliss! |