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Topic: Manners
Posted By: kebakat
Subject: Manners
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:36am
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Do you think you have good manners?
I think my manners are pretty good but they could be improved a little. I have a friend who loves having good manners. Will say pardon rather than what or huh.. says please and thank you always etc but he thinks I was rude last night.. I was at his place. We were just hanging out talking and watching tv. That's all good. His laptop is hooked up to his tv so that he can have the big screen as his screen. Everytime I'm there he flicks between tv and the comp. So last night he did this and then sees this chick has said hello and he takes up a conversation with her and I'm just sitting there bored outta my skull while they are talking about how dodgy each other is. I eventually got sick of it and grabbed my keys and said that I was heading off. He thinks that if someone says hello while he is on msn its rude not to talk to them, my response to this is that when I have company at my house I pay attention to them, I don't sit around chatting online or on the phone etc. If I see someone is trying to talk to me online I'll just go over and say I have company, can't talk. Which do you think is more rude.. chatting online while someone is at your house.. or telling a person trying to chat to you that you can't talk? I don't know why but last night that just really pissed me off. *vent over* lol |
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Posted By: sadie
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:41am
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Nope, that would totally piss me off too. He was definitely being rude to you. There would have been nothing wrong at all for him to tell his msn friend that he couldn't chat, and he should have set his status to 'busy' or 'away'.
That's up there with someone talking at length on their mobile when you are at lunch and its just the two of you - thats my bugbear! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:43am
| Yay I'm glad I'm not the only person who thinks that kind of thing is off. I hate it when people sit and talk on their phone, chat on msn or sit there texting the whole time. Just really grates me! |
Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:44am
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I'm with you Stacey! He was rude.
I think that if he thinks it is *rude* to not respond to an IM then he should have responded and said that he has company and he would *chat* later. IMHO, IRL people take priority over virtual ones... Stick to your guns! ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:45am
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And yes, I think I have very good manners! ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:47am
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Yep, the person who is visiting in person takes precedence. If you have to answer the phone or msn then it would be polite to say that you can't talk as you have someone there, and you'll be in touch later.
------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:53am
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I have alright mannes. I am always being told to say please, but I always say thank you. If someone is at my place they are there to see me and talk to me. If my phone rings I answer it but tell them I am busy and will call them back. I don't usually go on the computer (unless it is needed), and if I get a txt I read it but will put my phone away. You weren't rude, just pissed off. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:55am
| I agree with everyone else...person there takes precedence over IM buddies. IMO, it would make the person there IRL that you're not really interested in talking to them? It's not hard to say - oh, I have guests at the moment, I'll talk to you later... |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 10:34am
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Nah I'm with everyone else....he was the one being rude!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: DzinerGirl
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 11:15am
It's extremely rude to chat online while someone is visiting you! Priority should be placed on the person who has taken the time to come and see you! I would have done exactly the same kebakat..good on ya 
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kebakat wrote:Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 11:21am
He's said he won't chat online when I'm there now which is good but I still can't believe he thought I was rude for upping and leaving! |
Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 11:23am
He's rude, end of story!!!  -------------  
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Posted By: blondie
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 12:34pm
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I will answer the phone if it rings but will say I have company and call them back. Good on you... ------------- 
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No Stacey I think he was in the wrong yeah he should have told them he had someone there and got to chatting to them after you had gone...Posted By: ohanlon82
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 1:07pm
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yip he is the rude one ------------- http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/RPaODBg.jpg |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 1:28pm
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Arggggh that would annoy me!! I hate it when DP does it while im trying to talk to him about something. All he should have said to his friend is that he had a visitor and would be online later!!
Totally with u ------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 7:25pm
That is the social equivalent of chatting on a cellphone when you're out to dinner with someone- hes the rude one doing what he did!  ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 7:54pm
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Nah he was rude.
But I think this is an arising problem with ppl just a bit younger than us. Cell phones and MSN and all that are so "normal" now that ppl visiting friends IRL and sitting down for a good chat is getting somewhat rare. I think first priority should be given to those visits and I don't even like to have the tv on when someone is visiting (or if I am visiting them), unless we are watching a movie together. Maybe we're just showing our age though!! -------------  |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 9:29pm
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More rude to ignore the person IRL than the one online. I think it was rude of him to 'talk' when he had visitors. I am sure the person on Msn would not think it is rude to say sorry got visitors at the mo (and I have done this before) thats why on MSn there are options to say you are away, busy etc.... ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 02 September 2008 at 11:06pm
Yup, what everyone else said - he's the rude one. Much the same as people having text conversations while you're supposed to be visitng them/out to coffee etc. This is my major bugbear and it drives me nuts because sooooo many people do it (even my mum  ) and don't see how it's rude. Sorry. I won't rant any more. Just annoys me so much! ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 03 September 2008 at 8:55am
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hehe Teresa, he's actually older than I am
Ohhhh I hate the texting thing too. I always check my texts when I'm out without Daniel and I'll only respond if it's DH or whoever is babysitting him in case something is wrong. |