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Topic: How young is too young to..
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Subject: How young is too young to..
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:03pm
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Pierce your childs ears?
Im not getting cadens done LOL, I was just wondering in general cos on an American forum a lady got her I think,,,4 or 5 week old babys ears pirced 
Now this would be for HER benifit not the babys...... I had mine done when I was 5 cos I asked mum if I could. ------------- |
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:16pm
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I know of a lot of people who get their baby's ears done at 1yo. I don't know what's too young but I think I would go for "when you are old enough to look after them" (which includes, putting earrings in/out and showering all by theirself). I think I would be inclined to wait until much closer to puberty! -------------  |
Posted By: 2bmumof3
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:18pm
Gotta agree with you busymum....and congrats on being preggie again ------------- Sara Corban (22/11/04) Connor (18/04/06) Chelsea (21/05/08) 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:19pm
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Maya got hers for her third birthday coz she asked for them, she had a friend with earrings so she was a bit fascinated.
I went with Kels when she had Alize's done, he would have been just over a year old? I think Roksana had Zaara's done quite early, it's a cultural thing maybe? ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:20pm
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I got mine done when I was 2, but DH says Lauren can have hers done when SHE asks, no matter how old she is. That makes it her choice. I tend to agree with him. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:27pm
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As far as I know there's no medical reason why parents can't have their children's ears pierced early so I think it's a personal choice - each to their own and all that.
My sisters and I were allowed to get ours done once we were 10. DH and I have talked briefly and I think he will allow it once Michaela's older (12 or 13) and I have no objections to making her wait - then again she does have him wrapped around her pinky so I guess we'll wait and see.
I quite like what T said about getting their ears pierced once the child's old enough to maintain them themselves. Michaela puts up enough fuss getting her nails cut and hair done I'd hate to have to clean her ears with white spirit too. -------------  
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:28pm
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Yeah If I had a daughter I would wait until she asked for them definitly. I wouldnt get them done cos I myself wanted her to have them.
I just think piercing a 4 week olds ears is mean cos its bloody hurts having it done! I had my thrid holes done when I was 16 and I hurt like hell lol ------------- |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:32pm
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I guess the advantage of having it done so young is that they have memories like goldfish and so they won't remember the pain. I bet it's the mum that suffers. Personally I had issues having her shots done and when she had to have bloods taken - I don't know that I could handle sitting through her having her ears pierced, not before she's old enough to understand that it's going to hurt IYKWIM.
Anyway, she won't need earrings at the convent -------------
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:35pm
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Yeah Id be the same MrsMojo, if I had a daughter I couldnt stand seeing her scream from having her ears done I mean the poor thig wouldnt know what was happeing only that it hurts.
(I nearly cried when caden got his injections and was something he had to have done!) I asked my mum on the way home from school when I was 5 and she said are you sure and I said YES!! so she said ok we will go now and I went OH  lol, went there and got one ear done and CRIED my eyes out and said mummmmyyy it hurts lol, I wouldnt let the lady do the second one and mum had to talk me into it lol.------------- |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:40pm
LOL I haven't got mine pierced but now that I've survived a few births and a c/s, I'm ready for it - now I'm just putting it off until I can properly afford earrings so that buying too many earrings won't be too much of a temptation for me. I never wanted mine done as a kid because they use needles!!!! That was enough for me!!!! 
But I hear ya on listening to a child cry etc... I find imm's hard enough and that's something for their own good, not for fashion. Although I did think that when children go to get their ears done, they usually do both at once? Maybe I got that wrong. ------------- |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 8:43pm
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Yer they do both ears, but I got such a fright cos it hurt like hell I was to scared to have the other ear done lol, so mum had to say to me id look silly with one earing and I needed to let the lady do the other ear aswell lol.
Now I have 3 holes ine ach ear lol ------------- |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 9:03pm
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Snap, me too and one in my belly. I did 4 of the holes in my ears myself too (in my teens) - now that hurts! -------------
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 9:16pm
Hehe, I wasn't allowed to get mine done till I was 18! I bargained Dad down to 16 in the end but got really told off cos I did 2 holes in each ear  ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: Kim
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 9:43pm
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I had both my children in Saudi Arabia and the boys get circumcised at 2 days old (we didn't have Zac done) and the girls get their ears pierced at 2 days old (we didn't get Samara's done). The nurses couldn't believe or understand why we didn't want them done. ------------- Zac Mark - 30.11.05 Samara Ailsa - 13.08.07 |
Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 10:58pm
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Both my girls got their ears done at 5mths and Alize had his done at 10mths. Emma was with me when Alize got his done and that boy did not even shed a tear. Lesieli slept thru getting her ears done just a frown crossed her face and Mercedes cried for less than a minute, as soon as I stood up with her to give her a cuddle she was rubber necking to see the pretty colours in the shop. I am very lucky with all the kids. my kids have never had any infections, they have never played with them of anything. I was done at 5mths also. Personal choice I guess but I am happy with my decision and would get my next children done as babies as well. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Danaj
Date Posted: 05 September 2008 at 11:19pm
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I've never even thought about this until I read this post. Amazing how many different thoughts there are on it. Mum made me wait till i was ten but that was because I was a clutz and she said I would rip them out playing at school. And what do you know.....I ripped one of them out and tore my ear doing a death roll on the jungle gym. Guess mums really do know best lol.
Just don't do what I did and let your older sister do yours while your parents are out for dinner. Earrings in that ear still sit crooked lol. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/weight-loss/wyI1oWn/"> 
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Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 9:52am
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As well as doing nails for donkeys years, I've also been a piercer for nearly 7. Now, tricky one this. Legally, you're not allowed to have your baby pierced (unless it's for religious reasons) but because theres obviously a parent/guardian with them you can.
Piercing a baby with the normal gun is terribly bad - as we all know (or I hope you do!) the reason your ears get infected is because with the gun it stretches the skin to make a hole, and with the peircing blade (the needle) it cuts thru to make a hole, is 100% more hygienic and easier to take care of! You also dont get the throbbing pain afterwards. Anyway, I personally wouldnt pierce little kiddies, moreso because they're a pain in the ass and move way too much - if I had a daughter I would have them done early. They have a better chance of healing up properly, and she can always take them out if she doesnt want them. Also, then you can take them out at school and they wont close up as fast! ------------- Alex, Thomas and Lily http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 10:34am
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Its the done thing in South America to do baby girls' ears pretty much at birth. They also shave the babies heads too. The earrings are so you know its a girl baby. A friend of mine from Argentina had her baby here, and it had a thick mop of black hair, but they couldn't find a hairdresser willing to shave it, so they left it. They also decided not to pierce her ears because people here would think they were mean! I know her family back home were confused by the photos of the "hairy baby with no peirced ears!!" She went back to live when the baby was about a year old, and got her ears pierced before she went back so she'd fit in at home. So it can be a cultural thing too.
I personally wouldn't do it until they were much older, but thats just my opinion  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 10:48am
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my mum got my sisters ears done when she was 4 and she winged so much that mum decided to get mine done earlier so i had mine done at 1yr and i barely even realised.
If i have a girl i will get hers done at about 5 months obviously for my liking and if she doesnt like it when she gets older then she can just take them out. I thought about getting Bays ear done the other day (because DH has 3 sleepers in his ear!) but im in 2 minds because he has rather big ears (i say that in a loving motherly way! lol) and i dont want to emphasise them!
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Posted By: _Deb_
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 11:57am
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I would NEVER get a baby/toddlers ears pierced. I think it's cruel & quite pathetic actually. There is the risk of them getting ripped out or infected. Why would you even risk that with a baby?? I can't believe mothers would actually do that to their babies because THEY think it "looks cute". Why not let them decide for themselves when they're older? ------------- 
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 12:18pm
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I'm not the biggest fan of little kids with earings. I think their little ears are so perfect they dont need any extra 'decorations'
I'd also worry too much that theyd get riped out or infected. Keira occasionally likes o dress up with stick on earings and I guess one day when she really wants them and I feel shes old enough to look after herself then maybe she can get them done. I got mine done at 11. I was never the best at caring for them and always had problems (they did them soo crooked too) I eventually let them close up. Last year I decided to get them re-pierced and I think I was much more scared the second time around. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 1:49pm
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Both my girls have them done. Paris got hers done just before age 3 when she had been asking for them for ages and ages, it was meant to be a 3rd birthday thing but we went to hamilton just before then and we got them done there because i trust the place there far more so than the place here in palmy that will do young children. then ayja was asking and asking and asking, and of course her older sister had them, so at age 2 and a half, ayja got hers done - again we had been going to wait but went to my sister's on holiday in hamilton again and went into town and she asked if she could have them please. so of course we said ok.
Paris was ok, they did one, she cuddled me and the other had been done before she even realised the first had been done. she yes, did cry a bit, but once she saw the earings in the mirror straight after - that was it. She wasn't great with letting me do things to them and still isn't now alot of the time, however she got them done young enough that mostly she forgot they were there ulike 5 yr olds which can spend the day fiddling and twiddling with them leading to germies and infection. Ayja, is WONDERFUL with letting me take them out, clean them and put new ones in. They have 3 pairs of tiny plain studs each in pink, blue and purple, and they only tend to get changed if we are going somewhere really special to match their outfits if they want, of if they've been in a few months and need a bit of a clean. Otherwise we've had no problems. I don't know about anything much under the age i got the girls done. I did only get them done because they were driving me nuts with asking, and they had had them fully explained to them many times about how yes they'd hurt etc. I know - maybe still too young to understand fully, but the right time for us. If they want any more though they'll have to wait till at least intermediate/college age. And i do object to facial piercings. If they came to me at 15 and wanted their belly done though - i'd be fine to take them to get it done. Simply as it would be hypocritical of me to say no since i've had mine done since about then. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 5:48pm
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It's quite common in some cultures to get them done early isn't it?
Personally I haven't even considered it with Alyssa, and will just wait and see if she asks for it when she's older. I got mine done when I was about 13 or something.. |
Posted By: kabe
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 7:39pm
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I think I'd only get E's done if she wants them and she'll have to be at least intermediate age, so she's old enough to know what the descision involves and to look after them.
I visited a DC recently and two 6 month old babies had their ears pierced and the staff were really concerned that their ears were going to get ripped by other children. Could think of nothing more awful! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 8:24pm
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The logistics of taking care of them etc is what puts me off - why bother!
I got mine done at 10, wasn't allowed them earlier and I'm fine with that. If we have a girl, she can have them done at an age that a) she wants them - I'm all for kids getting to make their own choices about things incl peircings and religion, and b) that DH and I thought was appropriate. For me though, it was more a 'coming of age' type thing as I see earrings as a grown up accessory, I don't see the fascination of babies and kids wearing jewellery and being put at risk of getting them pulled and ripped by other kids, or them catching on things. |
Posted By: Troods
Date Posted: 06 September 2008 at 9:55pm
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Mum got my ears pierced when I was about 2. My sister's were also pierced about that age. I remember getting them done too. Didn't cry though and don't recall it being painful. Mum only left plain studs in our ears though and I don't remember having any problems with them at all. It wasn't until we were old enough, about 8, that we were allowed to start wearing different earings in our ears, and I was pretty good at looking after my ears myself by then anyway. I think I might do the same with Emily's ears. ------------- 
Missed MC July 2011
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 07 September 2008 at 8:00am
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Yeah my babies only kept studs in and I have in the last 2 weeks just changed Alize's from the one he got pierced with at 10mths old. Mercedes has since taken hers out as she doesnt like to wear earring often but on special occasions she will put some fancy ones in lol. Her ears will never close up. non of the kids have ever had an infection or had them ripped out. I havent had to do anything to take care for them at all. Lesieli is nearly 13 and has never had a problem with her earrsings or ears. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |