IM not a violent person...
Printed From: OHbaby!
Category: General Chat
Forum Name: General Chat
Forum Description: For mums, dads, parents-to-be, grandparents, friends -- you name it! And you name the topic you want to chat about!
URL: https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=21046
Printed Date: 20 June 2026 at 9:59am
Software Version: Web Wiz Forums 12.05 - http://www.webwizforums.com
Topic: IM not a violent person...
Posted By: Kels
Subject: IM not a violent person...
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:07pm
|
But I think Im going to knock him out I am talking about Lesieli's non existant father, the one that never sees her, has the audacity to drop a birthday card once in her whole life off to her school office and that is it, even thought we have tried and tried to invite him to marching comps, netball games, birthday parties etc. Anyway last Sunday we were doing a sausage sizzle at the warehouse and he was there (obvis shopping). i told her to go and say hi, so she did and ended up going on with him to look around. 30mins later she comes out and he waves goodbye and goes. She then tells me he gave her $10 and said she should go and stay over. I said that will be great he can just ring me and we can organise it. She then says he asked her to stay over for good *faints* How dare he think after 13 years (yes she is 13 in 7weeks I am all for her having weekend stayovers but they will be on my conditions, there is no way he is getting his other kids to text and set up stayovers, he needs to come to me and ask. I swear he better watch himself because I am pretty easy going but my kids are my life and if I ever feel someone is threathing me little family I will not stand for it..
Ok rant over..... Grrrr for crazy BF we have as teens, we were together from when I was 12yrs till 18yrs and I seriously must have been delusional the whole time!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
) of my hard wrk and dedication that he can sail in as the "cool parent" well it aint going to work. I am a real parent the one that has the killer instinct when it comes to my children, I would die for them and there is no way he thinks just because he donated the sperm and that she is named after his mother is going to get him a free pass to a beautiful, intelligent, fit and healthy teenager.Replies:
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:18pm
|
Kels I would of been the same - how dare he!!!!
------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:20pm
|
Thats just playing mind games with her and its sooooo unfair for Lesieli ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: MelanieAndBree
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:20pm
|
Aw hun **hugs* God that must be so infuriating!
I know if Briahnas dad tried that id have him on his ass!! lol. ------------- Melanie. Mum to Briahna Robyn, 3yrs |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:26pm
|
I think I'd be the same if Conor's father did that, I hope you get it sorted. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
|
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 September 2008 at 9:52pm
Poor Lesieli! And poor you too! Ain't it just grand the way men can swan in and out of their kids lives as and when they choose  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
|
Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 12:18am
|
Oah I feel for you!
I just want to say you go girl!! You are the parent that has put in the hard yards and I'm sure your girl knows it ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
|
Posted By: Alianasmummy
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 7:46am
|
you poor thing. i think every single mum fears that. never mind they have done feck all the rest of the time.
i must say i was one of those 13year olds that did it (a while ago now) I used the "Its my decsision im old enough now" line then i moved in with dad and it broke my mums heart. She never told me at the time but its my biggest regret. Your daughter is not too young for that talk. you dont need to bad mouth her dad but some home truths about him may wake her up a bit. Good luck, it will be tough but it may stop her from making a big mistake ------------- http://lilypie.com">  tickers" /></a>
|
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 8:44am
|
What an ass! Do you think he even realises the kind of affect statements like that can have on kids or is he just inconsiderate and self centered? When my nephews dad suggested the same thing my nephew ended up in tears and refused to even visit him JIC it meant he couldn't go back to his mum (he was 5 at the time). You have raised a beautiful, intelligent, kind young lady and she is a credit to you and you alone. If you're thinking of setting up a lynching mob let me know. -------------  
|
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 12:27pm
you go kels what a wanker how dare he man now i,n mad for ya ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: ohanlon82
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 12:38pm
|
Totally ass - You go Kels
Yip i have some friends going thru this at the moment.. Father just rolls on in when he wants ------------- http://lb2f.lilypie.com/TikiPic.php/RPaODBg.jpg |
Posted By: gemsmum
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 12:39pm
|
Big hugs Kels. It always amazes me how some guys think they can breeze in and out of their kids lives as it suits. I don't blame you for being furious.
Take care. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
|
Posted By: Shorty
Date Posted: 19 September 2008 at 12:43pm
|
Well done and well said.
You are such a warm and caring person who has done a amazing effort the last 13 years, your daughter and her siblings are testiment to that! For you to even be willing to let him into her life is a statement in itself. Stick by your guns and know you have plenty of support when needed! ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
|