Charity collector, grrrrrr
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Topic: Charity collector, grrrrrr
Posted By: caraMel
Subject: Charity collector, grrrrrr
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 12:18pm
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We were running some errands at the local shops this morning and the collectors were out in force for an appeal.
I got approached by one as a passed and politely declined as we'd dropped our donation in the box at the chemist yesterday. The woman cheekily replied "Oh that's ok, you're allowed to donate as many times as you like!" I had a laugh and tried to move on but she stopped Ella and said "Don't you want one of these lovely flowers to wear? You should tell your Mummy to get one for you." I was really pissed off with that. I now had to be the meanie and say no to Ella because of this stupid woman making her want something she didn't care about 2 seconds ago. 5 minutes of tantying later we went in to get our bread and were joined by the offending woman who demanded that the staff people buy the flowers to show that the business support the cause. The staff (Who had to stop serving me because this woman had bowled up and started bellowing at them) politely said no, they didn't have $2 for the flowers so she told them to take it out of the till! "That's what all the other businesses have done, they bought them for the staff to wear" They explained that their boss was out on a break and that they couldn't take money without his permission, but she just said "Go and get him, I'm happy to wait here for you" Ella in the meantime had decided she wanted the flower again so was crying and pulling on me and telling me how mean I was, plus I was rapidly getting fed up with waiting for my abandoned bread while the staff hunted the boss down to buy them flowers as well. The boss finally emerged and gave the woman her $2 for the flower but this wasn't enough for her, she said he needed to buy 3, one for him and one for each of the salesgirls, because that's what all the other local businesses had done. He cracked me up though, he said to the girls "Do you want a flower each?" She couldn't really argue when they both said no. As she left she said to Ella "Has your mummy still not got you a flower?" I swear if she hadn't been collecting for a good cause I would happily have bopped her over the head with her bucket! I'm all for a bit of enthusiasm when you're collecting for charity, to rally people into donating, but this woman was waaaaaaay OTT and really quite rude, especially seeing as we'd already donated money. Grrrrr! Edited for poor spelling. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 12:22pm
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Mel, there are strict rules that charity collectors need to follow. By hounding you and other people she broke them. You should call the charity that she was with so they can clarify the rules for her and all their collectors, it would be very embarrassing for them if she continued doing this and the police were brought in. -------------  
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 12:28pm
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 12:28pm
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I agree with ^^ she needs to be sorted, no matter what the charity is they don't deserve to get a bad name for a bad collector. It is people like that that put others even wanting to donate, if I had seen that I would have gone out of my way to make sure I didn't give her any money! ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 12:38pm
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Yeah I agree, I had thought of giving them a call to let them know how she was behaving.
There were others out with her collecting too, I saw a couple of people go over to talk to them after being approached by crazy collector lady, so I don't think I'll be the only one they hear from today. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 12:59pm
That is so bad. My friend from coffee group was called the other day by a charity organisation, she explained that they already had several charities that they supported. They lady kept going on at her and said "well it's not as though you can't afford it" How was she to know whether they could afford it or not?! I thought that was so rude.
It sucks cos these few people give other collectors a bad name. And it also sucks cos the charities they're collecting for are usually really good, and the negative memory of the rude collector will always be associated with them now. ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 1:09pm
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Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 1:24pm
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How rude of her to turn around after you had said no and try to swing your daughter into it Not cool lady ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 1:30pm
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What an idiot, like you would want to give money to someone so rude. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 1:43pm
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I heard a good expression for them a while ago - chuggers = charity muggers .
That is so rude, to not only not take 'no' for an answer, but to guilt you by winding your child up into tanty. nice. -------------   
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 2:55pm
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That is so incredibly rude!!! I hope you do report her, I can't believe she has the nerve to hound people like that!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shorty
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 3:17pm
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Wow, I can not believe she did that....
I have some very rude people ring work, we allocate at the beginning of the year which I inform them polietly and wish them the best of luck, last week the guy hung up on me before I could finish  Shame as it is a charity we have donated to in the past!------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 4:16pm
Chuggers!!! Love it  -------------
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 4:25pm
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I would have given her a peice of my hormonal pregnant mind ;)
Seriously though, that is rude and uncalled for behaviour. I'd write a letter. -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 4:33pm
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I think I would have gone all PMS on her (except I don't have it right now) That's giving them a really bad name, and there are those out there who aren't as bolshy and rude... I'd rather they let me approach them. I have my charities who I give to and explain that to them if I decline to donate. Still that womans behaviour in front of your little girl is totally unexcusable.
------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 5:26pm
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I know charities are having a hard time pulling in the donations at the moment, but that's just disgusting!
I am getting fed up with being called. 'For only $20 a month...' up no offence but seeing as we live on bread for the couple of days leading up to pay day already I'm not about to give my money to someone else on a regular basis. That's just stupid. I will donate when *I* want to, not when someone pressures me into it. |
Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 6:14pm
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I am very happy to put money to charities on my own accord, I hate going to the mall for urgent items not just leisure shopping and they make you stop to hear them talk about it. Just because I am in a mall doesn't mean I have a lot of money, if I want to give i will give and not be forced to.
There is nothing wrong with Charities, but harassment is not acceptable. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 7:30pm
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It literally is not acceptable. Some of you may know that I organise collecters every year for the Child Cancer Foundation Annual Appeal (yep, I'm a chief chugger). It is always reiterated to us (and we then reiterate to our collecters) that it is illegal to harrass people for money - collecters aren't even allowed to shake their money buckets, if they do the police can tell them to pack up and leave. The way she acted towards your daughter is horrid too. CCF have balloons on their appeal day and we happily give them to children with or without a donation from their parents. I hope you've contacted the charity in question to report her because she really is costing them money rather than helping.
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Posted By: emachan
Date Posted: 26 September 2008 at 7:54pm
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That is so bad - I saw some people collecting today for the same thing, but luckily they left me alone (an older couple).
I hate it cos normally I would like to give something, but when they say its a minimum amount of money or I dont have any cash on me, I feel bad, so most times I just avoid eye contact. That was also really bad of her to try and guilt you into buying one cos of Ella! I would ring up and complain - but I don't think it would probably amount to much cos they are all volunteers! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD#1 Sept 08 DD#2 Oct 09 |