So frustrated I could cry :o(
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Topic: So frustrated I could cry :o(
Posted By: Maya
Subject: So frustrated I could cry :o(
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 12:28pm
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As some of you know, lil miss and I are in Starship, she has had bronchiolitis. She's doing really well, has been off the oxygen since yesterday and the doctor said this morning that if she can get her feeding sorted we can go home this afternoon.
But it is such a mission and I am getting so frustrated that I could cry  She is unsettled and coming on and off the breast so not getting a decent feed, then gets tired and wheezy from the effort so goes to sleep but hasn't had enough to eat so wakes up an hour later hungry but still too tired and grouchy to feed. My poor nipples are destroyed from 4 days of expressing and every time she latches it hurts so her coming on and off every minute or so is agony. This morning since she woke up at 6am she's had 6 mins total of good sucking and feeding interspersed with lots and lots of coming off, relatching, coming off, relatching...
We never had any probs getting breastfeeding established to start with and I am so miserable at how things are going. I want to go home so much, I am soooo over this place, but they won't let us go till she's feeding properly and at this stage they're debating putting another feed down her NG tube just to get her to sleep a bit longer which feels like a giant step backwards as she hasn't had a tube feed since 2am 
Sorry for the rant, I am just sooo frustrated! I was really looking forward to getting home and lil miss is just not playing the game with me -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 12:32pm
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Oh bugger, bugger, bugger. Come on lil miss (and lil miss's lungs), your mum needs a break from Starship and her boobs need to get better. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 12:37pm
 Must be so hard! Realy hope she starts feeding properly soon so you can finally get back to your own home and the rest of the family.------------- 
 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 12:41pm
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Ah hope things improve quickly for you and you get to go home. You must be sick of starship. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 12:46pm
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Emma and Chiara. Ihope things improve for you both quickly and you can head home this afternoon ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 1:13pm
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Emma, I'm really sorry things aren't going well today. I really hope that her feeding and sleeping improves so you can go home and have a decent rest. -------------  
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 1:22pm
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The doctor is going to come and review later this afternoon but the nurse said no going home at this stage
If she doesn't feed when she wakes up we're going to try a bottle of EBM as it's less effort than breastfeeding but seeing as she won't take a bottle I think it might be more stressful for her  Plus, she *needs* to be breastfeeding long term.------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 1:31pm
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Oh stink Emma!! -------------
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Posted By: floss
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 1:58pm
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Oh Emma honey sending big hugs your way take care xoxo ------------- My beautiful big girl Sienna 15.04.06 Double the trouble double the fun Noah & Lola 10/11/07 |
Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 2:09pm
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Sorry to hear things have got so rough for you again Emma, I hope things improve soon for you. The sound of a feed thru her ng tube may seem like a step backwards but it might just give you a bit of a break and give her the sleep she needs so she is not so grumpy when she wakes, then maybe she will feed from you. Good luck, hope you are out of there soon ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 2:16pm
She just had a good feed!  It took all her energy and she promptly went back to sleep, but she had a good strong 4-5 min feed
Fingers crossed! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 2:19pm
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Yay Emma hopefully you will be on your way in no time. Big hugs. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mazzy
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 2:23pm
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Big hugs Emma and Chiara, hoping you get to go home soon. ------------- Mum to two gorgeous girls! |
Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 2:40pm
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oh yay hun! hope that means you can go home sooN! have been thinking of you xoxo ------------- http://lilypie.com">    [/url]
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 2:59pm
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Oh Emma - i agree with what Kez said.
Glad she had a good feed off you. Heres hopign when she wakes she will want another big feed. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 3:31pm
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I think she's turned the corner! She went to sleep on her last feed but woke up 20 mins later much happier and had a play then a top up (which wasn't brilliant but was OK) and now she's down again. The doctor came a little while ago and said he'd come back and check on us later so here's hoping we can go home!
Thanks for all your support. I was feeling quite miserable earlier. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 3:35pm
Oh yah, thats good news, hope she keeps improving and you get to go home soon  ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 3:43pm
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Yes, thats really good news. Hope she keeps getting better! -------------
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 3:45pm
I'm so happy things are looking better for you both, yay maybe sleep in your own bed tonight  ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: hooper
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 3:49pm
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emma hopefully you will get to go home abit later. ------------- Desiree 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 4:20pm
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oh hun! big hugs! i was going to suggest if it's too sore for you maybe you need to try some shields just to give your poor breasts a bit of relief while she sorts herself out. hopefully she continues to have good lil feeds & they send you home soon! Thinking of you. -------------   
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Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 4:26pm
| Oh you poor thing. I am so pleased the last part has been a little bit better. Take care lovely. Thinking of you. |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 5:39pm
| I too hope you can go home later and big hugs |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 6:25pm
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aww hun hopefully your home now big big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 6:44pm
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to you and lil miss. Glad things are coming good.
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 6:48pm
Still here  I just had a major melt down, I am exhausted (and so I might add is she!), we have been battling with the feeding all day and getting nowhere. The nurse came in and said "try a bottle" which I did and of course she wouldn't take it so her solution was "oh well, she's not dehydrated yet"
As for the doctor, he stuck his head in the door and said "we'll get there". Yeah, when?! I am getting no support at all from them! Still, change of shift soon... ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 6:54pm
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oh you poor thing! that is so frustrating! is dh coping ok with the other three? Hope he is supporting you as much as he can babe. -------------
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 7:07pm
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Oh hun you poor thing (and wee Chiara) Big I hope things start to get better soon ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: LockieandLiam
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 7:48pm
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Big hugs Emma thinking of you. There's nothing worse when all you want to be is at home in comfy surroundings. It will happen. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 8:44pm
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Big hugs for you Emma and lil miss, I really hope things are starting to look up for you two and you can get home soon, *slap* to the useless Drs, how frustrating!!! ------------- 
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Posted By: MonicaMouse
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 9:13pm
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Oh you poor things! Hope the tide turns for you soon
*hugs* ------------- 
Blair 15/10/2007 Daniel 30/07/2009 |
Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 27 September 2008 at 10:56pm
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I feel sorry for you and your poor wee miss, being in hosp with a sick little one is very draining physically and emotionally. I hope things have improved with the change of staff and since a few hours ago ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:38am
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Now I really have seen it all...
If you've ever wondered how they can tell how much a breastfed baby is getting, I can tell you They aspirate the stomach contents via NG tube  Gross, but she wasn't at all worried.
The night nurse was much more helpful, she watched me fight to feed her at 10.30pm and said we'd see how she went overnight. She slept from 11 til 6.30am (well 5.30am but stupid daylight savings!) but then instead of having a big feed she fussed and fiddled and laughed at us. Her fontanelle is getting a bit sunken tho so the nurse aspirated her stomach and she had taken a grand total of 40ml. Which might be on the low side of normal if she had fed three hours ago but being 6 1/2 hours since her last feed they decided she needed a top up in the tube . She only gave her 25ml tho so hopefully she'll still be hungry enough in 3 hours to have a decent feed. The nurse said she's optimistic we'll get home today, probably this afternoon rather than this morning but I'm OK with that - as long as we get home! Lil miss just needs to start playing ball!
Of course she is completely happy, she lay there laughing at the nurse and I quite happily even during the aspiration (that must be the weirdest thing - having your stomach emptied ) and generally being cute the little monkey.
At least I got a good nights sleep. I went to bed at 11.30pm and when the nurse came in at 6.30am and said lil miss was stirring and she wanted to weigh her I was like "can't it wait till morning?" and she was like "it IS morning!" It still felt like the middle of the night! ETA: And at least my nipples got a decent break overnight so were less sore this morning. Much less frustrating for me! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 7:40am
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PS. LOL at Willie being helpful Chonny! Fiona had all three girls on Fri night, she dropped the gremlins back with him yesterday but still has Maya. He, on the other hand, has it easy ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 8:28am
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Oh man, what an ordeal for you both I really hope Miss Chiara starts having big feeds soon so you can both go home. That's positive what the nurse said about probably going home today though! Come on Chiara!
I'm so glad Fiona has been helping you out. ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 9:39am
thats weird.. you'd think they would just weigh them before and after the feed to see how much they had. i wouldnt have thought having an empty stomach would make a difference. i dont get hospitals and drs and the weird things they do!  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 9:46am
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oh hun!!! you just can't seem to cut a break huh
i'm so glad you had a good sleep last night, you must be absolutely shattered! come on lil miss...play the game!! mummy needs to get home! 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 11:52am
They put it back in again after they'd measured it. They syringe it up in a big syringe then syringe it back in again
Had a much more useful doctor this morning, she said the tube can come out when she wakes up - if its not in then the nurses can't get lazy and use it, and she might feed better without it in, then she'll come at 4pm and re-evaluate. But I've basically said that we're going home then regardless, and the doc seemed OK with that. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Bizzy wrote:Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 12:05pm
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eeewwww thats even more gross than i even thought originally!!!!
this doc sounds a bit more common sense and helpful to me! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 2:16pm
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Things are sounding better, its amazing what a change in staff can do. Good luck for getting home this afternoon ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: aussiegirl
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 6:01pm
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Thinking of you guys and hope you are home and Chiara is feeding well. take care ------------- Mum to Hayley **30.6.08
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 8:00pm
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Oh Emma, I just found this thread! I didn't know you & Chiara were back in Hospital (well hopefully home now)! You poor things! I hope Chiara's feeding is a lot better, and her bronchilitis too. It's been a rough road for you lately huh!! Hope once you're home & had a good rest in your own bed things will be much easier.
Lots of hugs sent your way!! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 8:21pm
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We're home! And very glad to be here!
Lil miss hung on tooth and nail to stay there, I swear she didn't want to come home coz about 2pm I got her up to feed her and she was purple and mottled. The doc said we could stay an extra night so they could keep an eye on it but I said NO WAY! I can keep an eye on it home, her oxygen sats are good and she's happy and feeding well so no reason to stay. Thanks for all your support! I was really down and miserable yesterday when things weren't going well. Still very sore when feeding but getting there. And I've now got her feeding off both sides so am not having to express the other side any more ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 8:23pm
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yayy! I bet everyone is much more relaxed at home!
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Posted By: sottise
Date Posted: 28 September 2008 at 8:42pm
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Yay Emma! Hope she cooperates with you tonight and keeps feeding well, poor wee thing. ------------- 
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Posted By: chonny
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 11:08am
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yay so pleased you finally got home hun! -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 11:44am
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Yay I am glad you finally got home. poor wee girl. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Alianasmummy
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 12:22pm
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Wow you poor thing, it sounds all very traumatic for such a little one to go through!!
I really hope she gets better soon and you can have a well deserved break. I cant believe how Starship can employ such doctors, they should have been supporting you far more than that. Big hugs to you and your family ------------- http://lilypie.com">  tickers" /></a>
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 1:52pm
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Welcome home Emma! Wish there was more I could do from here! I'm on holidays and have some free time.
glad to here Missy is being compliant and hope the rest of the family is good too. |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 1:53pm
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Oh crap... I only just saw this. I just sent you an email about something website-y but ignore that until the little one is completely better!!
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 29 September 2008 at 3:05pm
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So glad you're both home now! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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