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Topic: Random.
Posted By: Maya
Subject: Random.
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 8:43am
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My SIL passed away around 1am this morning. I say random coz she is 45 and had no apparent health problems and it seems she died very suddenly from a heart attack or stroke before the ambulance could get there.
Middle of the night phonecalls are never a good thing, but I didn't even hear this one, the first I knew was Willie waking me up at 5am coz he'd answered it. I'm just a bit in shock really coz there are plenty of other members of his family I would have expected to get that phonecall about but certainly not her  .
We don't know about the tangi yet, she's my BIL's wife so they were going to discuss this morning where the tangi will be held and they're taking her back to their house once the coroner is finished. We're going to head up tomorrow. I'm just in shock still. And her poor kids  And poor BIL will be a mess.-------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 8:45am
aww chick big huge hugs to you and yours, that is so young! ------------- 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 9:00am
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Oh Emma, how awful!
Big hugs to you and your family. Sending love and prayers to her husband and children. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 9:19am
Thats so sad 
Big hugs to you and your extended family at this sad time. |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 9:22am
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Thats just awful
Hugs to you and all the family. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: DzinerGirl
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 9:23am
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So sorry to hear that
DF's cousin passed away the same way..she was 37 and just collapsed in the kitchen it turned out to be an embalism (sp?) and like you say totally random. I hope you can get some answers soon My condolences to you and your family.
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 10:12am
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Oh Emma, I"m sorry to hear that.
My thoughts are with you and yours at this time
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 10:38am
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Where is the "it never rains but it pours" emoticon...! ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 11:14am
| Really sorry to hear that. What a horrible shock for everyone |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 11:44am
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 12:01pm
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Wow how sad and sudden. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 12:59pm
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Tough times for you guys ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 1:01pm
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Oh no.....that awful!!
Big hugs to you and your familt Emma....I hate funerals! I hope the Tangi goes well (you know as well as it can go...). Big
Oh and I also freak out when the phone rings in the middle of the night or early early morning! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 1:07pm
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 2:47pm
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aww hun big hugs will be thinking of you and the family ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 3:08pm
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 3:10pm
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Thats awful for all your family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. Have comfort in the thought that she is at peace.
Ive stopped freakin out when the phone goes at night now cause my family lives in the uk and always get confused with the time difference. |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 4:35pm
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Hey Emma, just read this, sorry to hear about your SIL... ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 4:47pm
| Big hugs Emma |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 5:11pm
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I am so sorry about your sister in law Emma. That is horrible. What an awful shock for you all. Thinking of you and your family.
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 6:43pm
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Sorry for your loss Emma, those poor kids , and so close to christmas time
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 6:51pm
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Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 7:10pm
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Sorry to hear that Emma.
Big to you and your family.------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Brenna
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 8:19pm
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Hugs Emma. What a terrible shock. Thinking of you and your family ------------- My beautiful 2 girls...nearly 4 and 13 months
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 03 October 2008 at 8:54pm
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Big Hugs Emma thinking of you and the family take care. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 12:04am
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Aww Emma Im so sorry to hear that sad news. ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 8:45am
Thanks  Still a bit in shock really, I guess it will set in once we get up there and see her this morning. Bracing myself coz it's the first tangi Maya will have been to and I'm gonna have a bit of explaining to do I think as they always have open coffins. Maybe I'll let Willie have that one coz it's his family after all. Still, I think Maori children are lucky that as a culture they have such an open way of dealing with death, I think it's much healthier than the way our family does things which is to clam up and be all formal.
They're not having a traditional tangi, the service is on Tues then cremation afterwards but she's going to be at their house until then. There's a http://classifieds.nzherald.co.nz/linead.cfm?pillar=14&subpillar=103&adid=6498633001 - death notice in this mornings paper. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 9:22am
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oh emma!! i'm so sorry, what a huge shock for you all!!
will be thinking of you and your family over the weekend. i hope maya copes ok at the tangi ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: marielb
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 9:52am
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Awww, I'm so sorry to hear this sad news Emma.
Its always sad when someone dies, but so unexpectedly probably makes it all the more sadder. I hope the tangi goes ok xxx ------------- Isaac is 6, Ethan is 4, Rico is 2 and Hunter is almost 1! |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 10:02am
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Thinking of you all today Emma, I hope Maya copes ok with it all. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 12:31pm
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Emma, so sorry to read of your loss. What a huge shock for you and your SILs family.
I remember going to my first tangi (although I was a little bit older than Maya is) .. my aunties and my Grandma were really matter of fact but caring about it and it didn't seem scary at all. I think it's one of those things that's worse for adults IYKWIM. ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: MorgansMum
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 12:39pm
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 October 2008 at 11:01pm
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Maya coped really well, she was a bit sad, but I think that's coz everyone else was so she felt she had to copy them.
My parents are a bit freaked out about the whole thing as we don't do open caskets etc. in our family and they didn't think I should let Maya see SIL, but it's not really my decision, this is her culture and the way the other half of her family do things so it's important that she is allowed to be involved with that. I didn't let the gremlins go into the room where SIL is laid out, they would just be hooligan nuisances but I did take lil miss in and her and Maya and I sat in with SIL for a while together. The hardest part was seeing my niece who is 18 sitting next to her mum and sobbing "I don't want to do this anymore" and knowing that there's nothing we can do to help her, that she has to go thru this and there's nothing we can do. Willie's sister is staying with them tho and making sure that they and BIL eat etc. coz they are all a bit dazed and confused. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 05 October 2008 at 1:33pm
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Not a nice situation for anyone. Thoughts & prayers are with your extended family. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |