your opinions please - HOUSEWORK!!!
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Topic: your opinions please - HOUSEWORK!!!
Posted By: Andie
Subject: your opinions please - HOUSEWORK!!!
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 1:04pm
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My husband and I had an interesting discussion today - he believes, and I quote here, that "WOMEN ENJOY HOUSEWORK MORE THAN MEN"!!!
We both also think that if we asked around a lot of women, they'd only validate our own opinions on the topic! So I thought - what better way to canvas what women really do think, than a quick survey here?? BRILLIANT! So, ladies (and gentlemen if any are out there...) your opinions, please! PLEASE comment on how you feel about housework - what you do, why you do it, how you feel about it. You'll be doing the world (OK, just whoever reads this) a huge service! I'll quickly rant about where I'm coming from... Needless to say, I don't agree with hubby's stance on this one! I take care of the housework in our house because I have a health condition (M.E.) that prevents me from working much (I work one short day a week now in my job), and he supports the 2 of us by working full-time. It just makes sense for me to take care of the domestic stuff, and with a baby on the way and no signs of improving health, we've sealed that deal for many years to come! The thing is, I don't enjoy doing any housework (shock, horror!). I do it because it needs to be done, and grumbling my way through it would just make it worse. I don't like to scrub the toilet, I don't enjoy emptying the trash, I don't get my kicks from vaccumming, and I really hate doing the dishes every night. I like the end result - I like a clean house, and even better - I like the absense of piles of laundry, grime, dirty dishes, and dust. But I DON'T ENJOY the housework itself!!! We've both proven in previous years that we're both capable of taking care of a house, and both capable of financially supporting ourselves with work. I found it much easier to be satisfied with my work in general when I was able to work more (in paid employment) and the housework was something shared between flatmates. That said, neither of us can change the way things are for us for now, so this is the best we can do, and we make the most of that. It works. And I do see the up-side to my 'at-home' lifestyle - can't deny that for a minute! So the survey begins... Please help us out by giving your opinions and experiences! Thanks. ------------- Andie |
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 1:25pm
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A little bit more... hubby explained that what he meant by "women enjoy housework more than men" is that: "You will find more women than men, who enjoy housework".
What Say Ye, Ladies?!? (and of course, any men lurking about here!) ------------- Andie |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 1:40pm
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Okay, for my two cents - I HATE HOUSEWORK!!!! With a vengance. I am planning to work, just to pay a cleaner to come round and do the jobs i hate (i.e. everything). My husband doesn't like housework either. I must say though, my SIL enjoys housework - she said it relaxes her.
I think you will find however, more women than men that enjoy the cleanliness of a house. Most men could liev in a squalor, but most women couldn't. It doesn't mean we enjoy cleaning, but we do enjoy the effects more. Well, thats my humble opinion anywy. Must go and hang washing now. (big diff - I like to have clean clothes in drawers, hubby prefers to do as wash all in the same day - like saving it for one day....idiot!) |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 2:23pm
Some housework I do actually enjoy, but I must say I'm more one of the sort of women that derive more satisfaction from the result than the actual work. That said I don't hate it, I just hate how much there is of it !! Things are divided pretty equally in our house, although one thing Roland seems to do more of is laundry - he seems to be 'better' at it LOL Otherwise we share, honest !  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 3:13pm
| I hate housework with a vengence but my hubby cleans alllll the time and actually told me he enjoys cleaning hehe |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 3:14pm
| Altho i do enjoy vaccuming to be honest lol |
Posted By: kasbee
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 4:46pm
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I don't mind housework I figure that if hubby is out working all day the least I can do is keep the house clean and do the washing and stuff. Besides i do a way better job then him anyway he is so hori with it and only does half the job.
You should see the way he hangs the washing out.  ------------- Kelly, mother to 4 wonderful children. http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 5:05pm
HAHAHAHAHA Oh boy did you ever just crack me up !!  Good thing I just went to the loo LMAO ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
kasbee wrote:Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 5:06pm
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I Hate Housework. Im a SAHM and do all the housework and hate it. I hate vaccuming every day and cleaning and wiping. ohhhhh I hate it all! I keep telling DH that when i go back to work we are getting a cleaner. If i have to work im not going to spend my weekends getting our house spotless thats for sure. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: sb1337
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 5:22pm
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my partner does all the housework because he can't stand being in a messy house. the odd sock on the ground doesn't bother me but he gets all uptight about it...
so I let him do all the housework and the trade off is I do all the cooking (it's really great to be able to turn the kitchen into a bombsite when cooking and have someone else clean it up afterwards!) although I do maintain that even though he does all the cleaning, I do a much better job when I do it :) |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 5:24pm
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I hate housework. We spit the jobs and I can't stand doing it. I do have a sick satisfactin when it is done, but I think that is more to do with it being over ------------- "> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 7:26pm
i hate it hate it hate it me and my mum uselly spilt it between us but i only do it cause it has to be done i do like vaccuming though ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 8:11pm
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I hate housework but do love having a tidy house. I dont think hubby has ever cleaned a toilet, apparently the toilet fairy does it when we are asleep. We both hate the dishes, thank god for the dishwasher but trays and pots can sit around for days. I get frustrated because as fast as I clean kobe is racing behind me making a mess. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: Jennz
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 8:39pm
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I think housework is kind of like getting injections- I think you would be hard pressed to find anyone of either sex who likes it. And those who do have some serious issues. ------------- Jen, Charlotte 7 & Kate 3 
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 8:40pm
I will clean the toilet if I'm REALLY bored, but usually hubby does that coz I reckon most of the stains are his I don't mind doing the dishes most of the time, we have a dishwasher too and I'd be lost without it !!! Hubby usually takes care of the big trays and stuff, but everything else I do - can't *stand* a messy kitchen. I know that's likely to change a bit though LOL  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 9:41pm
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ugh housework!now which fool invented THAT?!!!
dont like it, but if it has to be done,eg rats are starting to put up little tents all over the place then very reluctantly i'll do it (just kidding im not that bad!) but yeah, i hate it-most hated-ironing...ugh! |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 9:45pm
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I don't do ironing ! I avoid the problem by not buying things that need to be ironed This has worked well so far, and hubby just hangs his shirts and they come out fine so no need there either ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: sb1337
Date Posted: 17 April 2006 at 10:25pm
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my partner bought this cotton shirt, washed it once, was dismayed to discover it was going to need a lot of ironing every time he washed it....and it has never been seen since
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 8:55am
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OK...I am a clean freak so I like to clean...not because I enjoy it but because I wont have the house any other way. However since I had Zaara (and she is a demanding little miss) some one has to constantly keep her company...or atleast she has to see where you are (Arrrgggg) so my hubby (who is also a clean freak) has offered to do the house work so that all I do is cooking/ironing and looking after Zaara. Works out well as we both work. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 9:15am
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I HATE cleaning, and despite being a psuedo-SAHM I don't do it. Unless it gets really bad.
I am lucky, Andy comes from a cleaning-freak household and despite the fact that he doesn't enjoy it, he can't live in mess. So most of the time the poor sucker does the cleaning!! ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 10:39am
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I'm sure my cleaner enjoys housework more than me. She ought too - I pay her for it! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 12:07pm
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i dont enjoy housework at all, in fact i suffer from a complete lack of motivation when it comes to housework! unfortunately it is all my job as i am at home and hubby works fulltime. i also suffer from a fear of people thinking our house is dirty so i wind up doing a lot more cleaning than i really need to. i like the end results and wish i was motivated enough to keep our house constantly clean and sparkling but i'm not, so it is usually clean and sometimes tidy ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 12:54pm
I HATE it too! I'm like a few others - hubby works so the housework becomes my 'job'  I used to be super-clean freak, but have relaxed a bit these days. House is always tidy, but not necessarily clean. I showed myhubby this and we had a 'discussion' - he startd going on and on that he agreed with your man about women enjoying it MORE, even tho they might not actually enjoy it... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: ErinC
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 1:54pm
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Hi
Im not that keen on doing house work but I love a clean house. I dont hate cleaning though - and I do feel like Ive achieved something when its finished. My husband likes everything tidy, so I always get stuff out and make a mess he always puts it away, but Im sure he has never cleaned the toilet - that - doesnt bother him - I think thats weird, myself. So we share, he vacuums and tidies, and I clean. I think i prefer to do it myself so I know its done. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 4:42pm
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Thanks, everyone!
... that is so funny, aimeejoy!! 'Cause my husband has read these posts and now thinks that they prove his point, that more women than men actually enjoy housework (since there's a lack of men saying that they have to admit they like it)!! I'm stubbornly sticking to my - 'we're not more likely to enjoy it, we are just much more likely to do it' stance no matter what!!! While there's exceptions to the rule I do think that women are socialised to take care of domestic duties more than men are, and that as a society, we don't value this work as much as it's really worth. Not that I'm saying my husband doesn't value it - no gripes there! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 18 April 2006 at 6:38pm
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lol, aimeejoy your comment about the toilet reminded me, my husband won't clean the toilet based on the theory that toilets are self cleaning! i've shown him that this is not true but he still won't believe me!!!! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: Simonne
Date Posted: 19 April 2006 at 1:59pm
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First, I'll tell you a funny story that happened last week ....
My dear, dear hubby had spent a couple of days dumping his filthy smelly clothes on the bathroom floor (I refused to pick them up because I had PMT ) and after a gentle prod from yours truly, he toddled off to clean them all up. Imagine my surprise when he goes into the bathroom, gathers everything up, and then walks into the bedroom and dumps it on the floor in the corner of the room!! I said 'what are you doing?' and he said 'tidying up the bathroom' with a look of astonishment on his sweet wee face as if to say ...couldn't you tell? I blinked at him for about half a minute before pointing out that the laundry was the same distance (in the opposite direction) from the bathroom as the bedroom! I'd have killed him there and then, but he's a big lad, and I couldn't be bothered digging a hole big enough to stick him in ...so I went with bursting into uncontrollable giggles
Right. Now for the housework. Oh boy. I actually quite enjoy my housework  . My biggest problem is that I have 2 dogs who undo it faster than I can keep up with them. Monsters! Things are pretty even in our house though as far as it goes - Al mostly does the vacuuming as he is completely anal about dog hair and junk in the carpet. If he hasn't done it for a couple of days, I can see him looking at the floor and twitching We have pretty much determined that there is a 'boy clean' and a 'girl clean' eg. We have lino in the entranceway, bathroom and toilet which is a bit textured, and the dirt sticks to it something terrible. Al will run a mop over it, but actually what it needs is for someone to get down on all 4s with a scrubbing brush and do it cinderella style!
Oh, and I ....uh ...um ....shine the toaster and the sink because I think they look nice sparkly
I am such a geek. ------------- Simonne xx ~ Established 1979 ~ |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 19 April 2006 at 2:16pm
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lol man r so funny it sounds like my dad ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: ErinC
Date Posted: 19 April 2006 at 2:18pm
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lol Simonne, my husband is exactly the same! he will put stuff out of his immediate sight, rather than away - and often i think it takes more effort than if he was just to put it away in the first place. I have had very very similar conversations with him to yours. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: Simonne
Date Posted: 19 April 2006 at 2:32pm
Yes ...I know what you mean Erin! Case in point - he's anal about his vacuuming, so he'll sit there at night and pull bibbi-bids (no idea how to spell it) and sticks and things out of our border collie's hair (we take the dogs to the park at night, and she always brings half of it home with her! Luckily, the other monster is short-haired), and then gathers it all up and hides it behind the couch so he doesn't have to walk to the rubbish bin! Apparently, this means that he can vacuum it up whenever he next does the vacuuming, and 'no one can see it behind the couch so it's ok!'   Actually, he's quite right, and he does always vacuum it ...but honestly! ------------- Simonne xx ~ Established 1979 ~ |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 19 April 2006 at 7:07pm
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Ok i saw this topic WAY after the fact... But in our house David does a "clean up" if the hosue is messy (which its almost always is!) but that consists of washing to laundry (or on top of the clean washing waiting to be folded), any paper or "junk" goes into the cupboards and that is about it!!
Daily I go around the house open curtains and windows and make beds, do the dishes, vacum at least one room a day (got a $800 vacum cleaner but hate it!) then do dinner. Try and do the washing but lose hope now as the puppy jumps up and pulls it all off the line ... I hate housework with a vengance - think arna enjoys cleaning more then me, she will occassionaly put rubbish in the bin (the wipe she just pulled out of the packet) or wipe down the windows / table (with her wipe out of the packet) etc etc!! So cute! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 3:47pm
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I just thought I'd share this little gem that happened this morning ...it might give some of you a smile.
The husband came home from work and went to grab a contained of yoghurt out the fridge - it was about half full (one of those 1kg containers). Anyway - he dropped it. Splat. Right on the kitchen floor, and up the oven, and up the cupboards ...Anyway! I just looked up from my breakfast and said "That's going to be a b*tch to clean up - the spray and wipe is in the pantry." He just looked at me, and called "DOGS!!" both of whom came running - he pointed to the yoghurt, and five minutes later announced that he was "Done!" with his cleaning. Blimmin heck. The dogs were happy though! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 3:59pm
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LOL!!! Ah that's FUNNY! My Dad is still the same, even though now their old dog makes as much mess as whatever he was cleaning up! And my husband has seconded the cat to clean up messes for him... even though the cat's breath is far from minty-fresh! Eeew. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mamawendz
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 4:49pm
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Okay, I do the housework because it needs to be done. Not because I enjoy it. Its on the top of my LEAST favourite things to do.
I can't stand vaccuming, moping, scrubbing, laundry, dishes... I think they all suck. But if I didn't do them, who would? I have attempted to leave little things like a pile of DF's clothes on the floor instead of picking them up and washing them like I normally would, JUST to see if he would eventually move them. I have left a few dishes on the bench to see if he will eventually clean them. I have left bathroom towels on the floor for a few days to see if he will eventually move them. NO! So what choice do I have other than to just clean myself. I love having a clean and tidy house that smells fresh.... but that doesn't mean I enjoy cleaning it! haha ------------- mama_wendz My Girls: Maddisyn Tylr & Layla-Mei Virginia
My Baby Boy: Noah Aotearoa
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 11:25pm
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well heres my 10cents worth
Cant say I ever enjoyed it that much but didnt overly hate it . I used to pump up the sounds and just go hard. I did used to have a major clean once a week and huge satisfaction from a clean house. I hate cleaning other lazy peoples mess. In fact it really pees me when you have lazy flatmates/other half that make at least half the mess and dont bother to help!! Anyway now I absolutely hate it and I have put it down to the boys being tornados and wrecking havoc behind me. I swear I vacuum and you wouldnt believe me unless you saw it. Boys = mess!!!! Also the boys LOVE to help with the folding the vacuuming the dishes ... anything really. An Im quite an impatient person so i get abit annoyed. Now i find I do it mostly when they are having a nap or in bed for the night which annoys me as thats sposed to be my time out. But me pet hate is ironing. I will do it for anyone!Have never done it for ex boyfriends (well if I have it was a minor slip up!!! )
Re the dog thing - i had a dog who was sadly put to sleep on the 3rd April (  ) and I never realised how much he cleaned up after the boys until he was gone. No wonder he loved the boys so much lol
------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 11:29pm
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awwww Mars,has Milo gone to doggy heaven??? ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: AndyF
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 2:14pm
I absolutely hate housework. We used to have a cleaner a few years ago and it was absolute heaven. I do love the feeling of a clean house but hate the process that I have to go to to get it there  . ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 2:47pm
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Yeah Bec the little toad got out the gate one night and went to see his dog mate over the road got hit by a car. At first they thought he had massive bleeding and could drain it but he had ruptured all his tummy muscles and all his insides where just foating around. His tummy was massive. Anyway they said they could operate but only had a 50% chance tops to fix it and that he would prob have a diff temperment and take months to heal and also would cost between $800-$1200 on top of his vet stay already. So after talking to the vet and getting her advice she said it wuold be kinder to put him to sleep. I had him cremated and have his nice little box watching us in the lounge. The boys take him for walks and give him the odd shake up lol.
I was really upset though bawled for days. I miss my little mate ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 4:19pm
Oh, Marlene ...that's so sad  They are such monsters, but such a huge part of your life when you have them. I'm really, really sorry for your loss.------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 4:19pm
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aww big to you.i hope u got the lid screwed on tight.dont want lil milo escapng again ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com">
Angel Baby 10/07/09 (10wks4days) |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 8:49pm
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oooh, thats so sad! I hate it when pets die
back to housework Vacuuming sucks (hehehehe, I'm so funny) |
Posted By: Caterpillar
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 4:24pm
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Yes, HOUSEWORK DOES SUCK! For me its just the lesser of 2 evils - I hate mouldy laundry and strange lifeforms breeding in my dirty dishes more than i hate the housework itself - but make no mistake - I do hate the housework!! The mess n clutter is a lot like the rising price of petrol: its the one thing u can truly count on to keep getting bigger n bigger.. ------------- Liam Blake 10-12-03 & Kye Jarrod 12-09-01 |