Okay so lastnight my sister and i had a lovely wee row. Not uncommon, we fight all the time.
In the spur of the moment i said "right, i cant handle this anymore i can tell its not going to stop to im moving out!"

Now, ive said that ALOT. lol. But this time, i actually have somewhere to go. A couple of guys i went to course with in 2002 want me and Bree to move in with them.

NOW I AM TORN.

I am unhappy here most of the time, and i know its not just where i am. But i think i need to move on. Ive lived with my sister for i dont know how long and i think if we continue to live together it will probably ruin out relationship. As we get along, but we fight like fricken god knows what. My best friend thinks i should do it, cause she thinks the same, she said "you dont want to end up hating your sister!"

One problem is im SCARED! Its like moving out on my own.. ive never done it ive always lived with my family. The only time i moved out on my own, i came back here to Tauranga (the first time) with my tail between my legs cause i got kicked out by my psycho p-fried ex flatmate (lol long story!).
And NOW theres a child involved. I dont want to uproot her and take her away from her family, shes probably used to all these people around then one day it will be these randoms.

They are good guys, and they LOVE kids. They were telling me id have to be careful that they dont steal her lol. One of them is bi and in a relationship with a guy (which was weird for me cause we kind of had a 'thing' when we were younger lol!!) and the other one has a girlfriend who stays over a fair bit. Apparently shes a bit much sometimes but i can deal with that.

I think whats holding me back is fear. Im scared its not going to turn out well and i wont know what to do. I dont want to move a million times, briahna needs a stable home, not me floating around everywhere.

The thing is i think i need this. Like i said ive lived with family my whole life bar once and i need to get out on my own and make new friends.

The OTHER thing is, is my sister got really mad at me when i said i wanted to move out and that caused even more of an arguement, and i may of said things the wrong way which i laways tend to do and that doesnt help the situation. 

I dont want people angry that i f**ked everything up and everyone has to move ya know?

 
We have always said we cant live together, but because of our circumstances we've never been able to move away from each other as we havnt been able to afford to live alone, or its jut easier living together and fighting then bothering to find other flatmates. God we sound like a couple! lol.
But now, we live in a 4 bedroom house with 4 people, and if i moved out theres still 2 people and she wont be left with massive amounts of rent to come up with you know? So its kind of my out.

Ugh i dont know. I dont want to step on any toes and have people pissed at me. But i cant let that be the reason for me to not go can i?

Can someone make my decision for me please :(

Thanks everyone!! I agree about the making up with my sister thing.

I think im going to do it.

IM SO SCARED lol!!

I think that everyone is right, make up with your sister and be brave and venture out on your own! It will be great for Bree to have a mummy who takes control and is independant!

My only advise (from experience - when I was younger I flatted with a lady who had a 2 year old, and we had 3 other flatties). ... would be to make sure that they understand the ground rules about living with a child in the house. You need to be completely honest and upfront with them about what is acceptable bevahiour around her and what you DONT want around your child. From my experiences - we had problems because she wasnt clear about those things, so we never knew the boundaries IYKWIM?

OKAY, CHanged my mind again. How annoying am i? LOL.

To be honest i really want to move but the only thing thats stopping me is im SCARED. What if i make the wrong decision? Then im stuck there! I wont be able to save ANY money when i live there, i barely even save anything now!

Stupid reason to stay here? Probably. But i dont know if im ready to face the big wide world all alone lol.

Plus i think i might move to aussie.. i dunno. Since my dreams of moving to england were severely smashed to peices, i need to live somewhere other than NZ for at least a year. And even though i will have no time alone since i wont know anyone and not have someone to watch bree.

I dunno..

Im soooooooooo torn, i seriously have no idea what the hell to do.

They changed the scheme for the working holiday makers., So now if you have a dependant they wont give youa visa.

I can only go on a holiday which i cannot afford!

Mel, my sister is over in the UK at the moment with her toddler...she is with her DH, but it might be possible??

Otherwise, if you're staying put, I'm with the others. Try and sort things with your sister and then think about moving out. They are two diff issues (but I can see how they feel like just the one!)

Good luck!

thanks guys. Ive done it. Sorted with my sister and im moving out next week!

surfergirl, they are changing it in november to the new scheme.