I’m going to cry, (here comes bridezilla)
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Topic: I’m going to cry, (here comes bridezilla)
Posted By: mum2paris
Subject: I’m going to cry, (here comes bridezilla)
Date Posted: 21 October 2008 at 11:02pm
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I have just had a phone call from MIL-2-b, and after all the waiting, it seems that her machine is not able to sew my material for the dresses for the bridesmaids. so here we are with some ridiculously small time left, just over 2 weeks.. until the big day, and no bridesmaids dresses. she has arranged for a dressmaker friend of hers to make the dresses, and can sort out for my moh to get measured for it to be made. but well, as my other bridesmaid lives in new plymouth, has just started a new job, and does not drive.. she isn't able to get here until the day before the wedding. which means that we cannot get her measured, Mil does not think the lady will make the dress without taking measurements from amy herself. it's jsut not going t happen. The only other option is that the lady waits till amy gets here on the friday evening, takes the measurements and makes the dress and hopefully finishes it by the afternoon of the wedding (which is soooo not what i need to be worrying about on the day)
here' it comes, it's all turning to boogers, didn't i say that this would happen. ARGHARGHARGH fricken dresses. I should have bought them, i was going to buy them, why didn't i buy them. I want to cry...... no wait. I am. stupid stupid stupid.   ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 21 October 2008 at 11:17pm
Vent away hun! Its ok to have these moments. Totally understandable. Can she go to a dressmaker in New Plymouth and be measured professionally and send you the details? I hope it all works out, Im sure it will. My dressmaker didnt have my dress finished and didnt drop it off to me until 10pm the night before!! Good luck hun ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 7:08am
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I agree with Rianna - can she go to a dressmaker here and get her measurements done? There are plenty of them around. I'm sure when the dressmaker you have has the situation explained to her she should be ok, especially as it will also ultimately make things easier for her by giving her slightly more time.
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 7:14am
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Ditto ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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rianna08 wrote:Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 7:17am
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------------- http://lilypie.com">
Busy mum to Miss 15yrs, Miss 10yrs and Master 4yrs |
Posted By: katie1
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:42am
I know people who have been measured properly by other dressmakers and then sent details. Don't worry it will all be absolutely fine. These wee things always happen in the weeks before hand. Everything will be just perfect on the day. 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:14am
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that's what I did for my nieces, as they're in Chch, and the dressmaker was in Akl.
It was much easier to have the dresses, hemmed and taken in than have the whole thing made in 1 day. I'd be stressing too. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: aussiegirl
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:20am
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Can she get her dress made by a different dressmaker even? My bridesmaids had their dresses made by different people, one here in Hamilton and one in Sydney, but it was the same batch of material and they all looked the same.
Good luck, I'm sure it will all be perfect for you on your big day And you wouldn't be a bride if you didn't vent beforehand!  -------------  Mum to Hayley **30.6.08
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Posted By: DzinerGirl
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:38am
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*hugs* Janine, I'd be crying too! Surely the dressmaker wouldn't be a b*tch about it and not *need* to take the measurements herself?!
Like the ladies said surely your BM could get measurements done in her local area and send these to you? Good luck
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 9:58am
ditto that I am sure there are heap's here that if she explain's the situation would be happy to do that.
hope it get's sorted soon as. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 11:34am
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With everyone else , get her measurements done by a dress maker in NP !
Stop stressing girl it will be all fine! ------------- 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 1:42pm
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Awwww, I think I'd have been having a cry about that too! It will be OK... measurements can be taken anywhere and a good dressmaker can whip up wonders. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: marielb
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:00pm
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Can you just get some from Stax or somewhere???? Jacqui E often has nice one too??? ------------- Isaac is 6, Ethan is 4, Rico is 2 and Hunter is almost 1! |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:10pm
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I agree with her getting measurements done by someone in New Plymouth. It will be totally o.k!!
My bridesmaid lived in England and she got her friend to take her measurements and text them to me here in NZ and we got the dress made and it fitted perfectly! Honestly it will be fine!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 22 October 2008 at 8:12pm
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Nothing helpful to add sorry. I think there's some good options here for you - get her to be measured by a dressmaker in NP or even get one down there to make her dress.
Your day will be perfect! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Lisha
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:16am
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Awwww... everything will turn out on the day!
I was the same as you Peachy, my bridesmaid was in England and got her measurements and her dress was here waiting for her. All the very best!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 10:29am
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Hey Janine, just saw this - how did things work out in the end? What did you decide to do? ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 12:51pm
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I know you feel like crap....but you will see all will fall into place on the day! I agree with other tho...there are other options as in get the dress made where she is or she sends the measurements and the get gets made here and on Friday afternoon if it needs to be twigged the dressmaker can do it...far easier than making the whole dress on the day! I am sure you will sort it out once you have calmed down...you are an amzing person/mum.   ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 11:30am
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Hi! i rememebr you from NZWP :D dont worry hun- these things ALWAYS have a way of working out. weddings can be sooo stressful, and youre right, its the last thing you want or need to be worrying baout just before the day, but try to keep calm and it will fall into place and before you know it youllo be married and laughing about all the stress you went through...trust me- i did! :D hope you have a fantastic wedding hun! :grouphug: ------------- My little miracle 6/1/2011 My angel in Heaven 9/5/14 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 6:08pm
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Wellity well. Here's what happened. Mike mum has the lady she knows who is doing the dresses, she is wonderfully wonderful. Carmen has been measured for her dress on Thursday, we are going for a final fitting alreadyon monday!. Amy on the other hand couldn't get here on any of the many days and has now told me last night that her ride to the wedding has fallen through so she can't come.
So it's down to 1 bridesmaid.. whose dress is pretty much all done. the end. Am a bit gutted about the 2nd one. I can see and understand but the other side of me thinks oh for creepers can't she get it sorted for 1 day?! argh. oh well. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 6:39pm
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hmm, well no offence to your friend, but imo being chosen as a bridesmaid is an honour , and if she doesnt appreciate it as much as she should , thats her problem ( i know that still sucks tho )
but OMG ....F O U R T E E N DAYS!!!!! FOUR ....TEEN !!!!! eeekness ! ------------- 
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Posted By: Sooze
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 7:25pm
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Hi there
Was wondering if you ticker has been updating and if it is still 14 days to go? I am now 16 weeks pregnant and getting married on the 1st November and would not wish it on anyone at this stage. People can be so inconsiderate and very un helpful....... If I could do it all over again there is no way I would be pregnant and doing it. We got engaged in Feb this year and started IVF in April so this year has gone super fast. My heart goes out to you ------------- TTC since Feb 06 Clomid X 6 (BFN's) IVF# 1 BFP http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 8:51pm
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congrats on your pregnancy sooze, this year has gone very fast indeedy. when we changed our date around in march this year i thought that november seemed ages away. but OMG you're getting married in 1 week, and I'm getting married in 2 weeks (8th nov) and november has come so fricken fast it's not funny.
We are nearly all sorted, just figuring out flowers. since now it's only 2 bouquets, so am unsure if i will still go with original florist who is fairly pricey, or just get some of the flowers i like and do them myself. now working on chocolates and all that stuff. finally at least finished organza bags since my MOH came over the other day and sat with me and ribboned them all. which was a huge help. I can't beleive it's all coming up quick now. eeeeeeek. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 8:53pm
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*checking in that the bride is doing ok*
*checking out - all ok *------------- |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:25pm
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Will you remember to vote! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:29pm
That's not entirely fair, I had a friend who I really wanted to be at our wedding, but with travel and two kiddies, it just wasn't going to work. I'm thankful to those that did come, but you do learn that other peoples lives are more important to them then yours is. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:53pm
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yeah i understand too, but thought she may have been better planned than to ask her friend to bring her to the wedding only 2 weeks before. still. i understand cos it's not like ihave any way of help[ing her get here either. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 10:40pm
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What about a bus? It wouldn't be that expensive I shouldn't think?
I am so excited for you Janine, I can't wait to see pics of the big day, you guys have had such a long journey to get here and you are such an inspiration ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 3:43am
Thats what I was meaning, better organisation etc, seeing as she wasnt just a guest, but a bridesmaid , and i figure she was chosen as one for a reason , but in the end, unfortunatly , some things just cant be helped . -------------
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 3:30pm
If you talking from New Plymouth then they are cheap as. Ya so excited fou you both. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 3:43pm
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This comes from Nigel (for those who don't know Nigel and Janine went to school together along with the now ex BM), figures as much still can't get herself organised for someone else. But from me, I am glad you have it sorted and it is just you and Carmen (you too will look fab). Hope everything else works out for you. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 6:04pm
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aww shame we weren't coming down that weekend we would of brought her.... in saying that theres always a bus but it seems she has made up her mind not to come! Suxie for you i am guessing but I am sure your wedding day will be just the way you want it ------------- Ann 
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Posted By: Huggles
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 6:20pm
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*lurker in*
Just checking that the bride is calm and collected! I fell for you babe.... Hope it all comes together nicely and you just have a fabulous day... *Lurker out* |