Those with FOUR kids
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Topic: Those with FOUR kids
Posted By: my4beauties
Subject: Those with FOUR kids
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 5:00pm
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I'm know I'm completely crazy for even posting a topic about it, but I am really curious...
HOW DO YOU COPE WITH FOUR CHILDREN?
The ones I seen on here with four children (or 3 with one on the way) the ages of the kids are pretty close together, so things would be really full on.
I'm questioning this, because DH is keen to have another child in a couple of years. I seriously wanted DH to get the chop after Jett was born, and still would be happy for him to do this - and he is too - but he thinks we shouldn't make any rash decisions yet either just incase we change our minds.
I know a few things though - I DON'T want to be pregnant again! So that's a huge factor in it. If DH could carry the child, I'd be happy to have another one
I know in my case, there would be more CONS than PROS to us having another baby. I just go through these clucky moments and DH & I love our kids so much, and see how cute they are all together, I know another baby would fit in nicely. Even Rico says he's like another brother or sister! I grew up in a family of 4 kids and it's great now (not so much growing up, I was the odd one out - 3rd girl and a younger annoying brother).
So tell me all about having 4 children! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 5:02pm
LOL cluck cluck 
im curious to see this answer too . . . ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 5:13pm
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i only have three but on the occasions when i have taken my sisters kids out with us - and they are 8 and 9 - it has been a breeze and i could see how people would have more. of course when they are all small it would be harder but gabriel is due to go off to school soon and then when toby is at kindy there will just be one with me. at the moment tho i have to do 2 kindy runs 3 days a week and that is hard trying to fit lunch in around that, especially if i am out in the morning with the younger 2. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 5:49pm
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my life is crazy busy!! at times stressful!!
i dont have any regrets in having my 4th baby, i love him sooooo much, but in saying that looking back i would of been happy just having 3. my 2 oldest are pretty easy(ish) being just turned 6 and 4.5, but boy do they have their moments lol. having 4 kids in 5.5 years has been amazingly full-on but good to, its over with now and it can only get better (cant it?! haha bring on the teens!) i dont have a whole lot of support so have many long and lonely days  have been tired as but i just look at my darling kids and i melt.
i guess- there are pro's and cons of having 4 kids, but whatever happens with your family will be right for it 
one con and it might just be me but we dont get out much anymore, by friends etc... and are too scared to get a babysiter in with such a full house! gosh, i hope my post doesnt sound too negative! i love my family sooooooooo sooooooo much but have found it pretty hard with 4 kids mostly on my own. i wouldnt change my family. but it isnt easy. thats the realities of having a bigger family i guess. |
Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 5:56pm
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I'm the oldest of 4 kids (there's a 10 year spread between me and my youngest sister), so could possibly contemplate having that many myself eventually (although no more!). I think for my parents the big issue was financial. If you can afford to have four kids (a big enough house, although we squished into 3 bedrooms for a while, an extra mouth to feed, extra activities etc) then it seems perfectly manageable.
Rico seems like he's getting to the age where he can help out a fair bit. I changed my baby sister's nappies when I was 10 (that included folding flats!). In fact I sometimes even changed my brother's when I was 5! Plus you guys have such absolutely gorgeous children (you're the most beautiful family on here, IMHO!) it seems like a crime not to add any more to the gene pool ------------- 
Mum to JJ, 4 July 2008 & Addie, 28 July 2010 |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 6:50pm
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I am pondering this at the moment too Italiah and have the major clucks lol!! Sooooo Rach, how did life change going from 3-4? I am thinking practically really, we would need a bigger car, we only have a 3 bedroom house etc etc. I hope this isnt too personal but did you try for a boy? I am really pining for a baby girl and I know that isnt a good reason to have another baby but I cant help it! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 8:26pm
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I would love another girl. I don't know why. I just sold pretty much ALL Gia's baby clothes and she had some gorgeous stuff! But realistically I don't want anymore children so I thought why have bags and bags of baby clothes taking up space?
Arrrgh! My mind says no - but my heart says yes!
Like you Rach, I know going out places would be manic - taking 4 kids in tow. We don't go out a lot really anyway, we just love being home with the kids, but then will go do family things like go to the beach or park. But going to peoples homes with them all wouldn't happen much, except our families places. Also, if DH & I do need to go out, getting a babysitter for 4 kids is a big ask! Although normally it's my mum who does the babysitting and she's had 4 kids before - although when she was much younger! I think my MIL would have a heart attack if we announced another pregnancy - infact I think all my friends would! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 8:41pm
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ok I have 3 and we have deciided to TTC for #4. I am lucky in the fact that josh being 15 is a great help with the morning madness before school/work/daycare. brooke can sort herself out (although still needs that kick up the butt to get moving) and rhyley - well he shares himself around.
I don;t know how its going to be with #4 and i was happy just having the #3 although part of me felt I wanted one more (but I would go from wanting one to not) it was DH - he would love another one (said on a scale of one to ten , ten being you desperatly want one where was he and he said 9 which pretty much mad up my mind) Hes a great dad and has time for each of the kids. I read somewhere and it sticks in my mind: You never regret the kids you have - you regret the ones you didin';t have I say 9 months of pregnancy isn't too much to do for the joy you will get from #4. I am facing GD again and your alot younger than me. ------------- Ann 
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 8:48pm
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I know I have my age as a positive. But I have horrible pregnancies. Seriously bad morning sickness, and even more extreme tiredness. And after having a post-partum haemmorhage with Jett, even though giving birth was easy (yes - it truely was!
When I'm in first & early second trimester of pregnancy I can't do much for myself, let alone look after the rest of the family. So I feel like the kids would suffer and I feel bad that I wouldn't be able to care for them properly.
I know I wouldn't have anymore children in the near future because I truely don't think I'd handle it. But I guess it's up for discussion in a few years? ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 8:58pm
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Italiah, my mum had PP haemorrage followed by two okay births and then another PP haemmorrage... or something along those lines. So it's not bound to happen again but I'm not sure that the chances may be higher?
Anyway, to the original question, I'm on the 3 side of the fence for another 22 weeks so I'm still at the crossing fingers stage!! Our kids are close together: in March next year we will have 5, 3 1/2, 2, and 0. That in itself is somewhat daunting! But over the last year it's amazing how much their helpfulness has increased. Things like all of us clearing the table and the older two dressing and toiletting themselves, and all three of them sleep through the night (save for exceptions obviously). We had to move up to a van when we had baby #3 because of the car seat issue. So we already have a 5 bdrm house and 8 seater van. So I guess financially we're ok. But we're not on a high income (let alone double) or well off by any means. ------------- |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:05pm
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aw chick I'd hate to have too horrible pregnancies and see where you are coming from.
perhaps because you have age on your side perhaps take a few years to settle and see how you feel then - unless you want them close together.. ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:09pm
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I was waiting for your response Busymum
Thanks for the info about your mum too. I know I would definitely discuss PPH with my Dr before I got pg again. It was the scariest & most painful moment of my life going through that, and I don't want to experience it again. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: Neeks
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:11pm
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My step children are pretty close in age (14, 11 & 9) but there is an 9 year gap between number 3 and number 4 which is our baby together (whose one tomorrow YAY )
Anyways, It has it's moments now that the older two are pre and teens already and the other is almost there himself. If it's not one thing it's something else and vice versa  It's quite stressful at times, and I have had to learn to let things go... not to get to worked up and just go with the flow otherwise I would snap!
On the other hand, having a large family that love each other and care for each other is a wonderful thing and we're looking at having number 5.... now hows that for crazy? LOL -------------  
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:15pm
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Italiah, that must be hard with your pregnancies! OT but Happy Birthday for tomorrow Keziah!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
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I guess its not something you have to decide right now if age isnt an issue. Im 31 now and DH is 38 and he feels he is getting too old for anymore
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:21pm
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You never regret the kids you have - you regret the ones you didin';t have I agree with this totally Ann. Jett wasn't planned (although we would've had another eventually, he just came a year earlier than planned), but I totally love having him around even though Gia was only 13 months when Jett was concieved.
I think that's why I'm pondering #4 now, because Jett is 13 months and I always seem to get clucky once my baby turns 1. So I think I need to get through this stage, and think with a clear head in a few years. I'd hate to get in my mid-late 30's and regret not having another. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:36pm
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see i am in my mid 30's and so its now or never and so decided - well if DH wants one (and willing to pull his wieght more) then why not... and he is 'definately' getting the snip choppy chop after #4 - I shall drag him by it to get it done! LOL ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:42pm
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I seriously never thought I'd contemplate having 4 children! DH & I always agreed on 3 and growing up I always wanted 3. Didn't realise they'd turn out so cute and loveable (and contagious). ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:45pm
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oh I was going to stop at 2 - even told DH when met him I was having no babies - of cause not on the first date but along the line - funny how things change aye ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:48pm
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I think it's come down to Dh saying how he wants another. IF he didn't talk about it, or want anymore, then I'd be happy with 3 and not give it anymore thought. But him suggesting to have one more, (and he's brought it up quite a bit over the years about having 4 children) makes me think about it. Of course it's harder on me, being at home with them all, and having to be pregnant, but he's an awesome dad & very hands on so he does a lot as well. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 9:58pm
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same here Itailah if it wasn't for my Dh wanting another I would stop at the 3.
Dont get me wrong though dh does help out he just needs to help more ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 10:00pm
Yeah, DH could help a bit more with the housework... but when it comes to the kids - no problems . ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 10:06pm
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I had two boys and wanted to try for just one more..and hopefully have a girl but I will be having twins so am going from a family of four to six. I do wonder sometimes how I will cope but I know that I will. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Alex 6 and Harry 8 |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 10:10pm
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Yikes Linda I would be totally shocked if I got pregnant with twin = ionly cause it would mean 5 kids..
Itailah my Dh the same - excellent with the kids and always there for them and I guess thats what counts the most but it does ease the load when he helps out too - and I sure you agree about your Dh ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 23 October 2008 at 11:41pm
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Ahhhh, four kids My two cents - four kids is great, but four close together is insanity! Altho I have been in a kinda unique situation with having 3 under two, that presents it's own problems - you can't get 3 kids in a standard buggy but the gremlins aren't big enough or reliable enough to walk when we're out and about which means I either have to wear baby in the Moby which is not ideal for her sleep or take the nanny with me to push the second buggy.
We only ever planned two, got three by default and then our wee surprise, but now four just seems right, if that makes sense. Yes it's hard, incredibly hard, but it's only going to be like that for a short time. As they get older and are more independent they will get easier to manage, at the moment I have to dress three kids to get them out the door in the morning coz Maya is the only one who can dress herself, I have three in nappies, 2 still on bottles and one breastfeeding etc. But another 2-3 years from now the gremlins will be at kindy/school which will make a huge difference. The best part is seeing my girls interact together, the big three play together well most of the time, Maya really looks out for the gremlins and they all love Chiara to bits. And I come from a family of four kids, even tho my brothers and sister and I didn't get on growing up we have great relationships now. I guess if I was to give you any advice it would be to maybe consider a bigger age gap, I definitely would have rather had the gremlins at preschool when the next one arrived, and like you I have awful pregnancies and vomit right up until delivery which made looking after the kids and running the house really hard, if the kids were older they'd be more equipped to do stuff for themselves like make school lunches, dress themselves etc. Also, a bit off the original topic but yes, if you've had a PPH you are at more risk of having another. The risk also increases the more babies you have as your uterus doesn't contract as well or as fast. I had a small PPH after the gremlins and wasn't allowed to have Chiara at Birthcare coz of the risk of having another. I had another small one, but then I did have 3 babies in 3 years and previous multiples increase the risk again so I wasn't really surprised. Eek, look at the time! I need to go to bed! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Nefertiti
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 5:04am
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I have 3 children and am pregnant with my 4th. However....,my 3 are from my previous marriage and they are now 8, 14 and 16. My youngest will have just turuned 9 when I have this one. And the huge gap, to me, will be great. I have all girls so they are all keen to help. However, I am also 34 so worry about how much older I'll be as the baby grows up etc and how I'll cope; if that makes sense.
The baby I'm carrying now is also my partners first baby. When my first 2 were younger there was only a 17mth age gap so had 2 in nappies for a short time and then also later had a morning kindy run followed by one in the afternoon.....that certainly took planning some days. Then there was a 6yr age gap before the next one. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 7:20am
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i had a PPH after my first too. after it i decided i wasnt going to have anymore babies! it terrified me, noone else understood what i went through it took ages to fully recover etc.. with the loss in blood and iron.
i visited an OB in my second pregnancy and she cleared a few issues up- she did mention that after a pph the risk does increase as does the risk after each birth. what they did for me was give me an iv drip immediatly after the delivery to help contract my uterus as i "think" mine was due to it not contracting and then having a mammoth bloodcloth build up- i still remember sooooooooo clearly the pain that i endured as they were pressing down on my stomach to stop my bleeding and then having a huge clot finally come out  hubby saw it and said it was very impressive! (YUCK)
anyways.... i had that iv after babies 2 & 3 and woohoo!! no bleeding!! THEN during toby's labour after heaps of talk with midwife who said i should trust my body etc.. we decided NOT to have the iv i was nervous as but i didnt bleed, and i knew that if i did i was in the hospital and that it would be sorted fast. it was the BEST feeling not having the iv!! feeling somewhat normal(just a tad scared!) but back on topic, no we werent trying for a boy- in fact i wanted another girl to be friends with kayla! lol. was a bit gutted at first that he was a boy, took some getting used to but no i cant be happier!! to experience having a wee boy is something else! i love him so much
3 have a 3 bedroom house and are finding it quite cramped been trying to sell it for a while but with no luck we do have the bigger car (7 seater people mover) that we got when we were having our 3rd so that didnt affect us too much going from 3-4
and yeah the older kids are very helpful with their baby! if they werent such good kids i dont think i'd cope as well. 3-4 wasnt much different form 2-3 really except it is more of a handful! lol, and it would be nice to be an octopus with lots of arms. |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 7:49am
I agree, altho I did go from 1-3! I reckon once you get past three everything is so crazy that you don't even notice a couple more .
I had the synto drip afterwards to help everything contract again too Rach, had to have an icky pessary after the gremlins too .
Oh and definitely happy with my four girls, in fact much as I thought lil miss was going to be a boy I was stoked that she's a girl coz I've kinda got this girl thing sussed, boys are scary! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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rachelz4kidz wrote:Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:24am
lol- yip boys are a scary breed! lol. i would of loved a 4th girl, at the end of the day whatever the child is, is a blessing and they fit into your lives and you love them unconditionally! maybe your next will be a boy emma?! 
***running hiding from emma!*** |
Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:51am
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ok so not at four yet, but we are deffintly going to and ideally (God willing ) it will be just before Alan start's school I really want to have mine close. I think maybe cause in the back of our mind's we still really want to have our 6. And have an age limit on how old we are.
I am worried about going from 3-4 only cause it does mean a new car and bigger house we rent tho so that is not too much of a hassle other then the shifting bit. So yeah i am watching with intreast all those who have 4 or are abotu to have 4. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 10:37am
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see Im the opposite, I wouldnt know what to do with a girl lol!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 11:00am
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LOL kiwi Mum Iwas keen for a 3rd boy cause I was so worreid about what to do with a girl!. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 2:41pm
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honest girl or boy they are all the same (well with baby stage anyhow)
i love my boys but equally I love my girl. I guess my girl is just more emotional and loud LOL I am hoping our next will be a girl (to even this house hold) but if its boy - fine Just not going to try again for a girl ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 2:42pm
OT - but those who want a boy can come get my almost 2 year old cause I am having a battle with his afternoon sleep today - HE needs it but thinks he doesn't... sure that sounds oh so familar to all  ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 6:37pm
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I really really hope for at least one girl...but I think they will be boys...so that will be four boys. The OB already thinks one is a boy so my chances of the girl baby are slipping ------------- http://lilypie.com">
Alex 6 and Harry 8 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:00pm
*Cyber-slaps Rach!* Seriously tho, if I had a dollar for every time someone said to me "oh are you going to try for a boy next time" I wouldn't need a Powerball ticket. I even had a locum doctor ask me that when the gremlins were 10 weeks old, I was like WTF!!!!! And the number of people who seem to think I should be disappointed that all my kids are the same sex *rolls eyes* I'd love to have another one or two, but at this stage it's pretty unlikely. Maybe once lil miss is approaching school, but there are so many things to consider. I get so sick during pregnancy that life pretty much goes on hold for nine months, plus it takes a huge physical toll on me, and with all the PND stuff after the last two pregnancies it'd be a really tough decision to make. Babies are great and I love them, but it's such hard work to get them here! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:14pm
LMAO! I get frustrated at all the people out there who, I dunno, it seems they think you keep on having children until you get the opposite gender. You'd better think more of kids than that if you're going to have a big family!!! LOL Even when I was being moved from delivery to maternity ward with baby Kryssi, a couple of midwives/nurses offered their "recipes" for making boys! I took me aback, Kryssi would have been about 2 hours old!!! Anyhow we both knew that we wanted another baby when Kryssi was just a few days/weeks(?) old - we just didn't want it then! I am assured that one day the desire to have more kiddies will go away so for now, I'm just running with it. ------------- |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:46pm
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I've been told the same thing T, a friend of mine with 4 said after her fourth she was sad that it was her last baby but that the burning desire to have any more was completely gone. I'm not there yet. I don't have the desperate urge to have more babies like I did after the gremlins were born but I can't bring myself to think of lil miss as the last either. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:54pm
hence why i agreed to have another - I am almost certain that after #4 I will be done ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 8:56pm
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"almost certain"....
*snickers* ------------- |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 9:06pm
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LOL Teresa I can't say defiantely till after #4 but I am not wanting to go to #5 ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 24 October 2008 at 10:18pm
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I seriously didn't want anymore after Gia - but Dh said that we'd agreed on 3 kids and he was adament. When people would ask if we were having more after G, his response was an affirmative YES, without even blinking an eyelid. I was the one to say "ahh, maybe, probably yeah, dunno". But the desire to have another started coming back when Gia was a few months old. Then after Jett I was soooooo soooo sure he was the last and DH would be happy with our 3..... but he still brings it up about having a 4th. And the desire is coming back!!!
I'm excited for you Ann - when do you think you'll TTC #4? ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 8:34am
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emma- i know what you mean. i had that after having kayla, people making comments that she was another girl like it was some kind of disapointment!! no way!! then after we had toby people were like you finally got your boy! ARH!! ya cant win.
then people assume we will stop because we finally got this boy that we were apparantly trying for pmsl. i am stopping but thats more because we cant afford anymore and at the mo im all worn out. maybe in a few years time lol. i will always be clucky.... but that doesnt mean i will act on it. jade is what 6 now, so maybe by the time im 40 i'll be a grandma? thats not too long to wait!! lol.
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 9:54am
We have the same now we got a girl people assume we will stop now we have a girl like we were trying to get a girl which we wern't. And its the great gasp I get when i say no we really want six. Argh!!!! People can be so rude. LIke its anyones bisness. Rach I think I will be the same alway's clucky. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 11:12am
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Yeah I think I'm just destined to be clucky forever. I've always loved kids - would smother them when I was younger and always played with my dolls. That's why I'm thinking I just get through this clucky stage and see how I feel when Jett's a few years older. I might not want to go back to that baby stage once Jett's more independant. But I also know that being pg again won't be easy & I don't want my mum or anyone else to have to look after my family for me while I'm out of action. So that's a big reason not to have #4. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 10:45pm
well i am not on any BC (which isn't anything new as i haven't been on since having Rhylz) If it happens it happens but ideally don't want to be pregnant till Nov (so august birth) No spring chicken so sooner the better i guess........ ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 25 October 2008 at 10:46pm
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I can see where you aren't keen though Italiah - with the pregnancies you have. ------------- Ann
Also Mum to Josh (15) and Brooke (10) |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 10:27am
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Yay - August is a great month! My boys are August babies, 2nd & 31st
I was thinking this morning and told DH that Gia was Jett's age now, when Jett was concieved. Dh said "so you do want another one now?" I said no way! Not at all! But it's funny how even the smallest comment about things like that, he's soo keen to try for another. Then he goes on to say that he'd like five kids!!!! Forgoodness sake! I said that he has to realise I'm the one who is pregnant. And he knows that's no fun. I just wish he'd give up on the idea of more children. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 11:05am
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Does he not realise he can have sex without getting you pregnant
And in your situation I would only go for 5 if the next was a twin...bugger 2 more pregnancies....and DH would have to stay home so you better win lotto. |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 1:15pm
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[QUOTE=Italiah] I think it's come down to Dh saying how he wants another. QUOTE]
this is so true!!! i wasnt thinking about number 3 at all but had in the back of my head that we would probably have another 2 in 10 years time!!!!!! BUT when Astin was 2 months olds DH asked me if we could try for another one which really caught me off guard seen as he asked for #2 and said that was it.....but anyway i said no for now but he would bring it up all the time...and here we are (number 3 was our mutual decision - i made it sound like DHs word was final! lol). I definately think you should go for it!! when your ready of course. I always think that if youv given something serious thought and then not gone through with it there will always be regret JMHO |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 1:24pm
aarrgghh i got this with Astin and he was only my 2nd boy - "oh another boy, i guess youl be trying for a girl then" WTF! yes we want a girl next and we wanted Astin to be a boy!!! despite already having one! if we get another boy then that is what he was meant to be and we will be stoked!!
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 3:44pm
Lol! He gets plenty anyway, so he doesn't need to use that as an excuse.
It's funny cos when we were a single couple, he didn't want kids straight away - but eventually, and then I unexpectedly fell pregnant with Rico, and he wasn't really that happy about it. Timing was really bad though, just returned from our O.E. he was starting his own business and I'd just got a new job. So I can understand how it would've been upsetting for him. I was the one who was more than ready to start having a family. But now he's the one willing for more, and I'm trying to pull the reins in. Haha, can't win! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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Posted By: AnnC
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 4:30pm
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Italiah its all too familar for me about DH wanting more - thats why we are having #4 cause he wants one more (so do i now but would of been happy with the 3 we have)
You could always say what I have and that if you have another then he has to get the snip - put Dh off for I while me thinks ------------- Ann
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 26 October 2008 at 5:56pm
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Hehe, I've tried that Ann. Told him after I had Jett he was getting the snip! And he was ok about doing that, but now he's saying we should wait for a few years before making that drastic decision. I understand that, as there's no going back once that's done. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">
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