When is it time to see...
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Topic: When is it time to see...
Posted By: mummymegs
Subject: When is it time to see...
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 9:47am
| a specialist? We have been trying for 10 months without a single BFP. We have both got normal fertility. The doctor has done a number of tests and everything came back normal. I think that 10 month is a very long time to be trying as most of my friends got pg really soon after trying. A friend of mine says that I should wait until I have at least tried for a year. Do any of you know anybody that got pg after a year of trying? Do you think it is worth the wait? I have just turned 32 and my biological clock is being to clang. Also, the cost of the fertility diagnoses and treatments is really big expense which is off putting. I feel like I am between a rock and a hard place. If I know that there is little chance of us getting pg then I would like to see a specialist straight away. If there is still a chance for us to get pg then I would like to wait a short while. What do you think I should do? I am a bit confused. |
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 10:08am
| I "think" it is usually a year of no success before a referral from a GP to the specialist team. |
Posted By: Konagirl
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 10:29am
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Yes, that's what happend with us. After a year of trying we went to doc's, they did tests, found a problem with dp. But doc said after a year, and given your age, you get a referal to specialist who I'd say given your in CHCH (we're in North Cant) will be feritiltiy associates in the St Georges complex. They are super nice.
I'm now 6 weeks preg, after surgery for Endo which they said they hadn't fixed so not sure what has done it, might be the natropath we've been seeing as well. But it's very very possible to still have a 'natural' pregnancy after a year of trying. it's a rough road, so take care of yourself. ------------- Angel babies Mar '04, Oct '08 and Sep '09. |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 10:58am
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Hey hun,
I dont think a GP will refer you until after 12 months. As much as it sucks, "they" say that its "normal" for it to take up 12 months, even longer for healthy couples to concieve. I hope things happen for you very soon chick. -------------   
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 11:04am
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Yeah Im pretty sure its when you have been trying to 12 months +. it is quite normal to take up to 12 months to concieve.
**hugs** hun, hopefully its not oo much longer for you! Maybe have a google of some natural remedies you could try to help for the time being? ------------- |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 11:06am
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It took us 17 cycles to get pregnant with Hannah.
I know it's hard, but it's generally a 12 month minimum before your GP will refer you on if you have no medical history to indicate fertility problems. Good luck, I hope to see a BFP for you soon 
*eta: I just re-read your post - and yes! it's so worth the wait  ------------- 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 11:07am
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TraceyA saw a naturopath and from memory got her BFP the next cycle! They were on their 11th cycle from memory.
I have heard a lot of good things about naturopaths helping fertility! Might be worth a look? -------------
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 12:00pm
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As others have said...a year is normal. Took us just over a year to have our little girl.
Hope you get a BFP soon! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 2:33pm
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It depends also if you have a good GP and if you have any problems already (which you have said you don't from the BT's).
For us, we only had to wait 3 months as I'd already been through the surgeries etc and knew what the issues were. This time round I've been charting for 7 months and the two times I've ovulated I've had chemical pg's (the doc thinks anyway) so we have been referred and have an appt in a week. We are going private and use the Oxford Clinic in town (my doc there is great). Consults are generally around the $200 mark from memory, but if you need drugs they're actually quite cheap, it's just the consults and scans/surgeries that are the expensive bits. Good luck hun. PM me if you want any details about the Oxford Clinic and who I use there. |
Posted By: tiptoes
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 8:13pm
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For a free referral you need to wait 12 months but if you're happy to pay you can refer yourself.
I read somewhere something like 60% get pregnant in the first 6 months, 20% in the next 6 months (where you are) then 10% in the next and 10% in the next. Doesn't quite work as that makes it sound like everyone is pregnant within 2 years which isn't true, but perhaps those are the stats for people without anything wrong? I can't remember where I read that but maybe this website http://www.fertilityplus.com/ another friend that went to the doc told her it could take up to 18 months to get pregnant (we're about the same age as you). I think either referring yourself or going to see a naturopath/acupuncture now would be worth it. If nothing else it makes you feel better actively doing something. Or at least that's how I've felt. Every time AF arrives I tend to try and find my new solution for the month. It stops me going insane. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">  
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 28 October 2008 at 9:50pm
Megs no real advise hun, I just wanted to give you my support and hugs  . Its such a tough and emotional road and I am so feeling your (emotional) pain and heartache.
I hate being re-active in situations like this so I can see why you are having a proactive approach and good on you for doing so. Can you afford to pay for a specialist? ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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