Help please , doctor freaking me out
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Topic: Help please , doctor freaking me out
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: Help please , doctor freaking me out
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:34am
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Stupid (male) doctor has got me freaking out, I am currently sitting here in tears because hes got me so worried .
I went for checkup and he tried to listen for babies heartbeat , (im 9 weeks 3 days going by LMP) and he couldn't hear it, I know that its very early to hear it , but instead of reassuring me that it was too early , he looked and seemed all concerned, and suggested I get bloods and gave me a referral for a scan . Should I be concerned ? my nausea has gone mostly, not that I had much with this one , ...Im getting worried that my period is really really late and Im not pregnant at all , or that I am but something has happened to baby . Or is he freaking me out for no reason ...is 9 weeks far enough along to hear the heart beat (hear, not see , didnt have a scan ) sorry for all the questions but Im getting really upset  ------------- 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:36am
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Hmmm it would depend on how good the equipment is.
I recall my GP saying that the thing they use isnt as good as the MW and not to fret if she couldnt find a heartbeat. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:37am
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Its way to early to hear the heart beat. What was he using to listen to it? If it was just a regular stethescope then often u cant even hear babies heart beat with them anyway.
Im sure everything will be fine, but can understand how incerdibly awful u must be feeling. At least if u have a scan u will get to see bubs! Yay! 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:40am
| Oh and another thing- at 8weeks Isla was 1.6mm long,...so you baby is not even 2cm long yet,..imagine how tiny its heart must be! I really doubt anyone could hear it that early! |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:44am
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Good point Kellz ... (about the itty bitty baby).
I would jump at the chance for a scan .. any excuse I say! And when I went for a scan .. I couldnt see the heart beat ... she had to zoom right in for me to see it beating (she obviously could see it as she was saying .. yep look at the healthy heart beat) 
So it must be teeny tiny! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:49am
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Thanks for the replys guys, he tried to hear it using a doppler .
I have an appointment at 11am tomorrow (quicker than I thought ! ) but Im quite nervous about it now ...it was his attitude thats got me worried, as if he was concerned . -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:50am
And btw lilfatty , congrats on your pregnancy  -------------
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:51am
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I remember at 11 weeks, my mw said we might not be able to hear the heartbeat with the doppler, so yes I think its too early - stupid doctor!!
If it would put your mind at rest, then I say go for the early scan. OT - Congrats Lilfatty!!! ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:55am
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Stupid stupid doctor It's just too early to hear your baby's teensy weency heart but I'm sure it's beating away good and strong. Yay that you get to have a scan tomorrow though to see your baby and put your mind at ease. Please try and relax in the meantime. -------------  
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:55am
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Thanks MummyDee....I even said to him ," 9 weeks is pretty early to hear the heartbeat isnt it ?" his response "hmmmm"
You do NOT say that to an already emotionally hormonal pregnant woman !!!! -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:57am
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Your right Jo , I think I should try and relax, worrying isnt going to solve anything .
Think I'll go have a sleep....or try to , for some stupid reason I watched Amityville horror last night , and now have visions of grey little dead girls in my head .... -------------
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:57am
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You gotta remember these guys are general practitioners, not baby experts, and he probably doesn't get a lot of practice with pregnant women since most go through midwives or specialists so he probably doesn't really remember himself what's normal and what's not.
ETA: am referring to the doctor not the little dead grey girl (did you watch the original or the remake?) -------------
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:59am
| I totally agree with Jo!! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 12:00pm
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Yeah thats true .......
Thanks Jo -------------
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Posted By: febbabe
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 12:30pm
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I never heard the heartbeat until after 12 week scan as I had seen my midwife when I was about as far along as you and she said it was far too early and they don't like to try and find one and then can't as it freaks woman out.
I agree with Mrs Mojo its not a day to day thing for them any more |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 12:34pm
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Jo , I watched the Remake, I wont even attempt to watch the original ,,,originals scare me a heck of a lot more .....
Thanks Febbabe , I don't know why i've been worrying so much , I didn't hear it till after 12 weeks with Caitlyn . Im just a lot more paranoid this pregnancy , hopefully once I see baby on screen tomorrow ,i'll feel better -------------
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 12:48pm
and then after your scan, you make sure you go back to that doc and give him a piece of your mind. Scaring a preggy woman like that....totally inconsiderate! Arse!!!!
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 12:48pm
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What a stupid Doc....
My MW and Doc didnt even bother to try and hear the Hearbeat before 12 weeks (seems to be the common)....but yah because I had spotting+ bleeding they ref me to a scan....YAY I got to see my bubby!! So relax ...I am sure all is well...and you get to see your little bubba!! 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 12:52pm
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I so will , thanks guys, you've made me feel a lot better
what exactly would he be wanting to know from the bloodtest? Probably just wanted me to have a sore arm *grumble grumble * -------------
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 1:07pm
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Yep i agree about slapping the doctor, the dork!
My MW wouldnt even try til after 12 weeks, she said it was VERY unlikely to hear it on a doppler before then and trying would just cause unnecessary worry and stress if we couldnt hear it. Im sure your bubba bean is quite happy in there, but I would also jump at the chance of a scan!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 1:10pm
What an idiot! My obstetrician didn't try 'hearing' the heartbeat till after 12 weeks either, at my earlier appointments I got to see it on the scans but the baby is SO SMALL, he had to point it out to me 
I'm sure the bloodtest is also only because he didn't know what he was talking about. Go have your scan - good luck! - and forget about the blood test. ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 1:38pm
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I agree on the blood test thing and not knowing anything. You will be fine, 9 weeks is far to early to see baby. But at least you get a chance to see baby tomorrow. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 2:21pm
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Thinking more about it, your uterus is still hidden safely in your pelvis till about 12 weeks, so how on earth did he expect to hear anything....unless he was trying the dopler in very weird places
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 2:42pm
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I think may be to check your HCG Levels Kelly....either way slap him and blame it on hormones..... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 2:43pm
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haha , if he'd try too "weird a place , I would have slapped him
He tried on my tummy close to the top of my underwear ... Becks did you mean its too early to hear baby ? I had the bloodtest this morning , I suppose I should ring at 430 and find out my results ? -------------
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 2:53pm
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OMG, Kelly! Here's me whinging about no babysitter, and here's you having a major freakout!!
I agree with the others.... waaaaay to early to hear a heartbeat with a doppler. My MW couldn't hear Joshua's at my 12 week appt. But she wasn't worried, and then at 16 weeks there it was wow-wow-wow-wowing away 
Naughty Dr for freaking you out
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Posted By: gemsmum
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 3:19pm
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My mw listened for baby's heartbeat at 11 weeks but only after making me promise not to panic if we couldn't hear it - she said she would be more surprised to hear it than not - and that was two weeks further on than you. Silly GP worrying a hormonal woman!!
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 5:35pm
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now Im not only slightly concerned, im effed off too ! after telling me to ring back at 430 and get the results, and the lab nurse also telling me to ring back then , I ring, and ...they aren't back yet.
I know they can get busy , but he wanted me to wait to book a scan until i heard what the blood results were .....at least now I'll know tomorrow , thank goodness I didnt listen to him and went ahead and booked a scan ...im already fretting enough as it is , gah! -------------
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 5:36pm
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Stupid doctor! 9 weeks is far too early to hear. Most people wont even try till atleast 12 weeks cause they know there not going to find it.
Good luck for your scan tomorow i hope everything is good. Even at 7 weeks the sonographer couldnt even see our sprocket and we had to go back the next week when they found her no problems
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 6:18pm
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Hey Kelly.
I know I already posted in the June 09 thread - but I just had a thought... I remember my midwife saying to me that the heartbeat we hear isn't actually the heart itself - it's the pulse of blood flowing through the umbilical cord - at at that early stage, the placenta and umbilical cord are just as teeny tiny as the heart itself.. Correct me, anyone, if I'm wrong, but I just have a funny memory of my mw saying that to reassure me when it took ages to find Hannah's heartbeat at 14 weeks... Good luck tomorrow
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 6:26pm
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Thanks MP , I feel a lot better now , the dr rang back and said everything looked fine from the BT results ...so hopefully that means the scan should be ok , right ? -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 6:35pm
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What an idiot!!!!
I'm sure everything will be just fine tomorrow ------------- 
 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 6:43pm
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Thanks so much for all your replies guys , you stopped me going too insane -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 7:08pm
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Yes Kelly I did mean hear. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: KitKat
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 7:09pm
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Couldnt hearmy bub till 12 weeks- even then it took 10 min and was VERY hard to decifer between my own HB.
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Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 7:44pm
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I remember this time with Joel it would have been about 11 weeks and it took 10 mins to find it and then only caught it for 3 beats then it was gone again. The next time at 15 weeks was straight on it as loud as anything. Drs can be idiots sometimes. I hope your scan is good tomorrow. -------------  
 
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 7:58pm
I never heard my bubs at 9 weeks, so I say don't worry - count yourself lucky that you get an extra scan  ------------- |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 8:20pm
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I was in hospital just after my 12 week scan and the registrar there refused to check for a heartbeat as he said he wasn't skilled enough and would only freak me out when he couldn't find it.
Sounds like your baby is just fine. Yay you get to see the baby tomorrow! Exciting! -------------  
 
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 9:48pm
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Oh kelly, what a stupid doctor!
I heard baby at 10 weeks... during a scan, certainly not with a doppler. My midwife tried at 11w5d with a doppler and she couldnt find it, but there it was again during the next scan at 13 weeks. You might be able to hear that little heartbeat at your scan tomorrow (not sure if all scan machines can do it or not????). As for the bloods, why???? At 8 weeks your hcg will be leveling out, at 9 weeks mine had dropped by half (which freaked me out), HCG is unreliable as a one off at this stage in your pregnancy. I would try not to worry hun (as if you cant, I would be a nervous wreck), and perhaps dont go back to that doctor again for pregnancy related things... time for a midwife? Hope you manage to get some sleep. -------------   
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Posted By: Ella1
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 10:14pm
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My mw didn't expect to hear anything at 12,5 weeks, as scan had shown placenta at the front.
I can't believe how inconsiderate some doctors are!!!! All the best with your scan tomorrow, and keep us posted. |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 10:35pm
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Argh what a stupid Doctor!!!!!
Hun dont worry! My midwife told me she wouldnt even bother trying to hear the heartbeat before 11 weeks because she didnt want me to get worried if we couldnt hear anything. So at 11 weeks she tried and found it. Baby is so so so tiny right now sometimes its just impossible to pick up the heartbeat that early, some people dont hear it till 12 weeks +!! **hugs** silly doctor!!!! ------------- |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 November 2008 at 11:00pm
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Thanks so much guys :-) , i dont know what I would have done without your support today
Im actually very annoyed with his attitude, because it was his demeanor about it that had me concerned , I mean , I actually said to him "should I be concerned if I cant hear anything ?" and he avoided the question and said "perhaps your not as far along as you thought " ...like he was trying to find reasons for not hearing it ! grrrr ! -------------
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 8:03am
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Good luck with your scan today. I'm sure everything will be fine.
Obviously Dr D*ck doesn't know much about a baby's heartbeat that early on otherwise he wouldn't of even tried in the first place. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 8:19am
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maybe you should have replied back with "perhaps youre not as intelligent as you thought" |
caitlynsmygirl wrote:Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 8:26am
My male doctor did the exact same thing when I was pg with Ashlee at 11 weeks! Except he did add that baby is very small so not to worry. I was just happy enough to be referred for a scan  it's later on in the pregnancy that you should be worrying if they can't find the heartbeat. 9 weeks is still really early. Hope you're looking forward to your scan!!! Very exciting
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 9:20am
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Hehe , Dr D*ck *sniggers*
NZ Piper , hehe,I should have ! Am mostly feeling nervous , but I hope the blood results looking good means everything is ok with baby ? Or do blood results hold little significance ? -------------
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 10:11am
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Thinking of you this morning Kelly.
Betcha that wee bub of yours will be growing away in there with a beautiful healthy little heart beating perfectly. Stupid Dr! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 1:30pm
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bumping for news, hope all is okay ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pomikiwi
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 2:25pm
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Hope everything went well.
Stupid male doctor! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 2:37pm
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hey guys , sorry my friend took me and had to look around shops afterwards
One healthy bubba in there with a nice healthy heart beat , I had a huge grin on my face , i could actually see a sort of baby shape i was just expecting a dot , it was the most beautiful blob i have ever seen
and then I needed to go to the toilet 3 times, my bladder was so full -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 2:42pm
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Yay, so glad all is well, hope your stupid doctor learns from this and doesn't go around scaring other pregnant women. -------------
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 2:47pm
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YAY Kelly!! That's great news! Though I knew that Dr was silly for freaking you out like that, and a bouncy little bean would be visable today!!
Bet that's a huge relief, and exciting for you! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 2:53pm
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YAY...we told you!!
So when are you going in to slap the DR?? Do you want me to come with you?? We can do it together!! I have been itching to hit some one....any one. I thing your DR would be the best place to start...LOL ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 2:58pm
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haha, why not ?!
that'll teach him for scaring hormonal pregnant women .  -------------
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 3:02pm
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yay good wee buba ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 3:02pm
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Yay, knew things would be ok. So we won't be seeing the dr again this pregnancy??? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 3:21pm
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Yay, good for you.........now go relax you are allowed to!! -------------
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 3:22pm
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Woohoo! Great news Kelly!
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 3:41pm
| Oh yay! So glad its all good! |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 4:28pm
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YAY!!
Great news Kelly -------------
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 4:33pm
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Yay thats fab news! I knew everything would be fine!
Again-SILLY doctor!! ------------- |
Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 4:42pm
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Yay Kelly that's fantastic news! What did we tell you?? Dumb that you had to be worried in the process, but I bet it was cool seeing your wee bean
Stupid doctor. *Sends a virtual slap from Singapore* ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 5:10pm
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Yay - That's a load off your mind.
Great news
have you called Dr D*ck to tell him?? Pfft - who says doctors are smart. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 6:47pm
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haha , nope haven't called Dr D*ck ,he'll see soon enough....
man , I feel special , this thread got to 4 pages and I only posted yesterday -------------
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 7:16pm
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Yay! That is awesome news!
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 7:19pm
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Kelly, I'm so happy you got to see your baby!! Yay!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 8:12pm
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Oh yey thats great news. Im so pleased for you!
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 8:39pm
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Thats awesome news hun... Very pleased for you. ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 10:18am
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couldnt get on yesterday, thats great to hear... shame on that dr for putting you through that stress... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 10:29am
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Yah Kelly, glad to hear everything is OK ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: Joscia
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 11:32am
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Yay from me too! It's pretty annoying to be given a date that's behind where you thought you were though! They did that to me at my first scan too - feels like you have to do that week over again! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Mrs_B
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 12:08pm
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That's great news Bit late to add but thought I would say anyway. My midwife attempted to listen for heartbeat at my 11wk appt with a doppler but said it was unlikely as bubba was still tiny and it depends on where he/she was positioned. in the uterus. We couldn't hear it I was disappointed but not worried as she had explained this before attempting unlike your dumb Dr!!
But we just had our 15wk appt yesterday and got to hear it loud and clear thumping away at 150-160bpm Both DH and I had huge grins on our faces! It's the coolest sound I wish i had recorded it!
So really what I wanted to say is don't panic if you don't hear it with a doppler for a few weeks yet! -------------  
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 12:59pm
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Yay for hearing your bubba's heart beat Mrs B, i remember hearing Caitlyn's , it IS the coolest sound in the world
Thanks so much for all your responses, support and reassurance guys, it really meant a lot , I would have been so worried otherwise (well, more worried ) -------------
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