Sleeping dramas
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Topic: Sleeping dramas
Posted By: emz
Subject: Sleeping dramas
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 4:46pm
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Jack has always been a good sleeper (slept through from 9 weeks) and was awesome with self-settling from day dot. But he's shocking when teething (as he is at the moment), although always managed to go off to sleep.
Now however is a different story and he's screaming/bellowing when I put him down. He doesn't have anything wrong with him and it doesn't matter whether his teeth hurt or not (have tried it with Pamol and no difference). He's fine if I shush him but I can't leave the room or he screams. He won't go to sleep either, he just stares at me (although I refuse to make eye contact). What do I do? It's really affecting my ability to work as he won't go down for his naps, and DC keep ringing me on my ONE day I actually go in to work as he's screaming the place down. I know he has a bit of separation anxiety but it seems to be the cot - like he's scared of it 
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 7:10pm
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Emz, I'm sorry love.
I don't have any advice, but I just wanted to give you a hug 
I wonder if that's why he was eating it?  
I hope you get some good advice and an improvement in his behaviour soon  ------------- 
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Emz wrote:Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 8:18pm
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You poor thing Emz - going to work after having broken sleep all night is no fun My last post on http://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=20779&KW=sleeping+through+the+night&PN=0&TPN=2 - this thread lists a few ideas about rebuilding trust etc (if he has developed a bit of a cot phobia) - don't know if they'd be of use or not? When Jimmy kept waking repeatedly and screaming as if he was terrified (at 7 months old I think) I spent about a week sleeping in his room at night. I got up to him ASAP, in the dark, found his dummy for him, tucked him in again and stroked his back until he was calm again. Then would tell him "I'm right here" as I was getting back into bed, and if he started crying again just say "it's OK, here I am", then tried to breathe loudly and slowly as if I was sleeping and he'd usually resettle quite quickly. A week later I moved back to our room, but jumped up and went to him as soon as he squawked. Would resettle him and stay with him for several minutes at first, then less time each time, until I could leave him and he'd stay calm. Two weeks after I moved back to our room he was back to normal, sleeping through most of the time, resettling himself and not randomly crying/yelling himself awake anymore. Now he just yells out for help when he's wedged himself at the top of his cot and can't figure out how to get comfy again (about twice a week). As you can see, I'm a bit of a softie |
and felt like I had to show Jimmy he could trust me - that I would come when he cried out and was scared. But it was the toughest 3 weeks at work I've had so far - felt like a zombie the entire time 
.Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 12 November 2008 at 9:08pm
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Both my kids had seperation issues, Char still does it if she is tired. How I worked it when I went back to work, and this hit (and it hits around 9 plus months) was I left the shirt I had worn the day before or the tee shirt I had slept in the night before so they could smell me, seemed to work ok.
Apart from that, i have nothing to offer but hugs, it makes it really hard, as if motherhood dosen't have enough guilt already. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 4:05pm
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Thanks for the suggestions! Might try the top thing tonight, maybe I should do a sweaty workout beforehand and it might make him pass out?
Hopefully SOMETHING works He can scream for sometimes 2 hours it drives me mental. Then he works himself up so much that he starts gagging and gets a fever (obviously I get up to him after a few minutes lol, I don't let him scream in the cot for 2 hours!)
Haha MamaPickle, maybe that IS why he was eating the cot? Strange, strange child
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Posted By: arohanui
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 4:49pm
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Lol at making him pass out!!
Aww that must be tough though... on both of you. Does he have some sort of comforter? (eg. Harry has a dummy and a muzzie). How about if you started baby steps, with him being happy to play in his cot with you there (with some cool fun new toys) and then make the transition to seeing it as a place to sleep? Once he's comfortable just being in there again it might be easier? ------------- Mama to DS1 (5 years), DS2 (3 years) and... http://alterna-tickers.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 13 November 2008 at 5:23pm
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All the other ladies have made great suggestions.
We were having problems with Jack sleeping and I was sure that it was his teething moving around but pamol didn't seem to help at all. Someone suggested I try nurofen, we have and it works. And just a few weeks ago he cut a 2yo molar (which made feel better as I was starting to doubt myself). Is there the possibility that it is his teeth bothering him and nurofen will help? ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 14 November 2008 at 7:59pm
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*slaps forehead* thanks Linzy, I'm going to go and invest in some Nurofen.
Well Jack is making a liar out of me and has slept well all day lol Liz yep he has a special blankie and bedtime bear which he covets. The top thing didn't work, he threw it out of the cot And he's quite happy to play in his cot, just not to be put down in it. I've said it before, strange child
Anyway, I think it's GOT to be teeth, he woke up 3 times last night. He's already got 8 and 4 more on their way, when will this ever end, he's been teething for 8 months 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 16 November 2008 at 7:52pm
I know exactly how you feel!! Jack has pretty much been teething since he was 5mths, he has now cut his first 2yo molar so at least I can see the light at the end of the tunnel!! ------------- Lindsey
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