... whom I haven't seen since January.  She lives in Akl, and I don't go up there much, and she doesn't come down here often, normally only over summer.  We are both busy with our families and for the past couple of years have only got to see each IRL maybe twice a year.  So the one opportunity to meet up came yesterday when we were up in Akl, and went to the Museum.  I had asked BFF through the week if she'd been keen to come and meet us at the museum (they live about 25 mins away from there).  She said that should be good, so I was happy at the thought I'd finally get to see her and her kids after so long.  I said I'd let her know when we were leaving for Akl to give her an idea of what time we'd get up there, and then when we arrived at the museum.  Anyway, I did as I said and text her when we left home, and then when we arrived.  I got a text back from her saying she'd been on the phone all morning and wouldn't get to come out to meet up with us.  So that was that.  No catch up at all.

I seriously thought that after not seeing each other for soo long, the chance to meet up would take priority over everything else.  I mean, if she was coming into my town, I KNOW I'd go to meet her!!  Am I being over-sensitive?  I feel really let down.  I know she goes to visit another friend that lives further than 25 mins away on a regular basis, just for coffee and kids playdate etc.  I would've thought the trip to see us wouldn't have been that big-of-a-deal or too much for her, I mean she's lived in Akl her whole life, so travelling 20-30 mins to get somewhere is the norm!

Argh, frustrated.

I'm glad you agree, I was thinking I might've over-reacted.

We've been friends since we were really young and text each other a few times every day!  We're always in contact with each other.  Originally I was planning on going to her place to meet up, but that was when it was just Dh and I going up, then all plans came crashing down and we had to take the kids up with us, that's when DH decided to take them to the museum to see T-Rex "Sue".  I asked if she'd wanted to come out to the museum and she sounded really keen.  And she had nothing on that afternoon and would've been free anyway.

Kiwisj, weekend was awesome!  Had a blast!!

Aww, Mel - that would've been cool!

Pepsi *one day* I will get to have some spare time up in Akl and have a meet up with you all!  I'd love that!!

I am thinking maybe earlyish next year, I'll try getting away for a few days to above's friends place, and then can organise something with you girls.

Thanks girls!  You're all champs!  I do feel and *know* she takes me for granted.  She always has to know everything about my life (cos it's just ohhh so exciting) but doesn't really give me much about hers.  I text her when my kids do their firsts, but I never hear about what her kids are up too.  TBH she has seemed to disappoint me a lot over the years.

I think she's just on a roll with not ever really seeing me, and it doesn't bother her.  I relish any chance I get to catch up with my friends, for a good ole' natter over coffee!

mrsg1, we've been friends since childhood, and we've always lived in different cities, she's been in akl, I live in the Mount.  We've been in constant contact our whole lives, but i really do know she takes me for granted and has never really been the best friend, we are best friends, but I know I'm more of the better friend to her, than she is to me.  I find that she has always put herself first and has never been generous to me at all!  We didnt' even get a congrats card when Jett was born!!  There's been many occasions I've been upset at how ungiving she is (if ungiving is even a word?). 

Anyway, her response to why she was on the phone all morning on saturday was "she had an issue with their babysitter on friday night and she had to let her parents know".  Take from that what you will.  Still not a lot of information.

Well I'm glad that your friend isn't as bad as mine, Kelly.  Cause it sucks when you have friends that don't pull their weight. 

We have so much history in our friendship, and so many memories, she's one person I can talk to about things that happened years ago that she knows about and understands.  Some newer friends don't know what the hell I'm on about.  But yeah, like I keep saying, it's really a one way friendship, I give, she takes.