needing help and advise please
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Topic: needing help and advise please
Posted By: lovemay
Subject: needing help and advise please
Date Posted: 08 December 2008 at 9:59pm
| I'm a full time working mum (husand is working full time as well), my baby Nicholas is now 21 months old and we are thinking to put him into a day care when he turns 2, at moment Nicholas stays with my parents-in-laws, but being a asian, they've got old asian minded, so since the first day me and my husband having diffculty communication barrier, and there is nothing that i can do, due to we are having money issues, even now we are still under pressure, and i've tried to call winz or ird for help, but all the customer service officer said the same thing, "your house income is over the requirement, so we cant help you", i dont know wherelse can i go for help, we need money to sent our kid to daycare, can someone please help us. thank you~~ |
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 08 December 2008 at 10:18pm
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I'm afraid I'm not of much use, but I just wanted to sympathise - money woes are never much fun, especially at this time of year. I'm not sure what you mean by "old asian minded" (although I have some idea what you mean by "diffculty communication barrier"!), but is it possible to just stick it out for another year, until you qualify for the 20 hours free early childhood education? (That's assuming the new government doesn't mess with that, of course.)
I'm sorry if you have already been through this, but have you been through a budget so you can see where your money is going and where you might be able to cut back? It's a matter of deciding what your priorities are I guess - for example, would you be willing to live somewhere cheaper in order for Nicholas to go to daycare? You may be surprised at the way the costs work out, it might be cheaper for you to work part time, if that's an option, or even for you not to work at all, depending on where you live, how much daycare costs, and how long your commute is etc. I'm sure your parents-in-law mean well, given they have been looking after Nicholas this long. If you mean they are unwilling to look after him any more, are they in a position, and are you able to ask them, perhaps to help you out financially to subsidise Nicholas' daycare, given that you have come to rely on them? Probably someone who has been in a similar situation is better able to give you advice, but I didn't want to read your post and not reply. I hope things sort themselves out for you soon. ------------- 
Mum to JJ, 4 July 2008 & Addie, 28 July 2010 |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 09 December 2008 at 8:35am
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Hi lovemay and welcome to OB. I know how hard it can be to have in-laws caring for your child, my MIL looks after our daughter for a few hours a day (mostly while she's asleep) and there have been quite a few times, especially early on, when I had to put my foot down and tell her not to do or say certain things. It's hard because it does feel disrespectful speaking to my MIL in that way but at the end of the day my daughter is much more important and if my MIL is doing something that I think is wrong or even detrimental to my daughter then I have to speak up. There are other things that still annoy me but I don't mention them because it's not worth rocking the boat and involves my house rather than my child IYKWIM. I agree with Weegee about trying to find some extra space in your budget by cutting out any extras. It's amazing the things that we have that we think we can't live without but there are plenty of others that happily get by on a lot less so I'm sure I'm guilty of living with a lot of extravagences. You could also contact places like barnadoes or church/cultural groups to see if they run daycares or maybe if you have any friends that are stay at home parents ask if they would help out for a small payment. -------------  
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