I wish I had known
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Topic: I wish I had known
Posted By: fattartsrock
Subject: I wish I had known
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:01pm
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Thought I might start this off (maybe we already have one? to lazy to look..) for all you ladies who are giving birth int he next few months.
Basically a "wish I had been forwarned" thread... I had heard about the "ring of fire", the labour "pains", pressure on your bowel etc etc, but no one told me how "out of control" I would feel. Not like you can do anything about it,apart from trying to "breathe" through it, but it was totally unexpected. Especially for a control freak like me!! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:08pm
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I wish I had known the first time around to seriously eat lots of fruit and drink lots of water......and drink that gloop they give you after you give bitrh to get things working!!!
To prevent yucky things happening down the rear end towards the end!!!! How about that!!!  -------------  
 
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:09pm
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Yeah I was a bit shocked at the out of control feeling and also didnt really believe it when people said I wouldnt care at the time ...... I always thought no I will care who is in the room or if I felt sick etc but really really didnt. I do wish I had of been told a bit more about the horrible bleeding etc after, I just thought it would be like getting a period but it was just yuck uncomfortable and gross and I dreaded going to to toilet for the first few days, wasnt painful though. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:17pm
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Oh yes and that major blood loss was quite a shock! Seemed to go on forever....BIG BIG pads!!
Oh yes and that let down reflex after the first few days is a bit of a strange feeling ...when everything is shrinking back down!!! Oh yes I remember now!!! -------------
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Posted By: deharn
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:34pm
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I suffered big time with pain when doing number two's post birth. It seriously felt I was giving birth all over every time I went to the loo....... gross I know but so OUCH!!!!
Can't remember the name of the stuff but it was like a thick glucose liquid you buy over the counter. That is liquid gold, I would have it in my tea, on my cereal or any other way I could if I had my time over. All you ladies who are pregnant make sure you look after your bowels! |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:51pm
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I second that....Deharn. Look after those bowels and bottoms like gold!!!
I ended up having three operations after I had Paige due to Fissures up there..It was worse than giving birht I reckon!!! It was bloody awful and went on for 18months!! -------------
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 9:51pm
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That stuff is called Lactulose!!!
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Posted By: bekkie
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 10:49pm
| hey guys i dont wanna sound really stupid, but, what exactly are you meaning? Can you give me a "blunt" description lol Im good with straight to the point "bluntless" Im due in a August and wanna gear myself up with anything and everything i need to know!! |
Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 02 May 2006 at 11:11pm
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the #2s issue???? constipation and heamarhoids(sp?).that lactulose was soooooooo foul.imagine drinking 20mls of thick thick thick sugar syrup ewwwwwwwww.i actually dont remember if it helpedme at all but then i never took much of it as it was just to horrible for me ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
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Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 7:10am
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That as soon as you give birth have some "Ural" satchet of stuff you put into Juice / water and drink it. Stops the stinging when you pee (or this may sound gross but pee in the bath with some water in it. Doesnt sting.
The first time I went I cried 
Also if you get a epidural read up before labour about epidural headaches, I was so out of it when they gave me mine and didn't know I had to have two cause the first one went in to far and caused a epidural headache, didn't find out what it was until 4 days later of having to stay in bed!! ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
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Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 7:16am
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I never needed the lactulose stuff, have never heard of it but bekkie I think what we are all getting at is after having the baby I think people forget to really warn you of how things will be working down below. There is heaps of yucky bleeding and going to the toilet is something to be dreaded, even if its not to painful (and it sounds like I got off lightly) You just feel gross and every time I moved I felt like blood was gushing out and I wanted to shower constantly. Not very nice when you are suppose to be showing off your new bubba. I just felt gross. Sorry if TMI but its something I wish I was warned about and also to take dark clothing to wear after just incase of leakage. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 8:53am
Holy heck!!!! 
All I can say is thank goodness us preggy lot have you experienced girls to tell us all of this info! NO ONE will tell you to your face and the usual phrase is "it can't be that bad, women do it everyday" blah blah yadda yadda!! I DON'T GIVE BIRTH EVERYDAY! Just wanted to say thank you all soooooooo much for sharing! 
Doesn't matter how gross/scary I'd rather be pre-warned!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 9:27am
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ohh a nother pre brith wraning if u have c-section u are not alound to eat till u 1-frat or 2-have a poo just to make sure u have not injured any thing inside oh and day 1 or 2 after is when they get u up and i,m gonna lie it hurts like a b###h just forwarning the midwife just got me up no wrning and it relly hurt i wanted to hit her but the quicker u get up and move the quicker u heal oh and u cant walk far on the frist day i think i got 5 meters before i got tried ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 9:36am
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Keep track of when your bowel motions happen after having Baby... sounds weird, but your midwife will want to know when your first one was... and subsequent ones can be quite a bit apart. Sorry if TMI, but I went 10 days at one stage - that's when I realised I needed to look after myself a bit more!
Just make a note on the calender... a discrete "bm" in the corner will be enough to remind you. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 9:52am
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It's good to hear all of this - no one talks about the gross stuff and I think us mums are just supposed to picture bambi giving birth in a paddock but the reality sounds far worse!!! I am always glad to be forewarned, at least then I wont feel so "blind-sided" by things no one ever spoke to me about - i say bring on teh gross stuff, tell us everyhting, at least that way we will be mentally and physically prepared!! thanks for sharing ladies! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 10:53am
| I was surprised at how squishy my stomach was immediately after giving birth. I poked it quite a bit. I really suggest taking some nice shower egl to the hospital too, as after - having a lovely long shower is BLISS! |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 12:09pm
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lol, the soft squishy tummy was a BIG surprise! like a half deflated balloon.....
make the most of the time in hospital, if you need sleep let the nurses take baby for you for a few hours... you wont get that at home. try to use a bidet the first time you pee - if there is a toilet with one there, use it, it really helps. ( but dont be like me and only turn on the hot water hahaha NOT) ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe -  my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 12:30pm
does everyone no about the contractions u have while b/feeding for me they happen on day 2 and are not as bad as the real thing  ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 12:31pm
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how long does the squishy stomach take to go? Does it shrink back and get some elasticity back or is it weight you actually have to lose before it starts to feel normal again? ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 12:35pm
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mines not as bad as just after james was bron but i,ve still got to lose the wight ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 12:43pm
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After pains hurt like hell. Bad with first birth and worse with the second.
Hard to sleep on your tummy after giving birth and your stomach is sore and then your milk comes in and your boobs are sore. No one tells you how much you just want to B$%ch slap well meaning people that think they know best about YOUR baby when you havent even asked them for advice. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:01pm
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this is a great idea! now that i am pregnant again i am realising how little i was told the first time round. i never had any idea about the bleeding and was shocked at how much poured out of me in the hours afterward. honestly the shower was like a scene from psycho and i was told that it was normal! i'm definitely going to take some extra newborn nappies for me this time.
i also knew nothing about breastfeeding despite what i had read. no one tells you that it actually hurts for the first few weeks and that it is normal for your nipples to get quite ripped up. i don't remember how long my tummy was squishy for, but maybe that means it felt "normal" again quite quickly. the sagginess that remained was another story though!! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:16pm
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Ummmmmm....is there any other way for this baby to come out? Is there an option number 3? No? oh dear!
Well at least we are all well prepared...thank you for sharing ladies! Like others, I'd rather know and be prepared that not be told! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:28pm
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Yeah, the bleeding afterwards is quite impressive... be prepared for around 6 weeks of discharge! At first it is continuous, then it slows down to being similar to the last few days of your period... you'll probably need to change your pad at the LATEST every couple of hours to begin with, then it will stretch out a bit. I went through two packs of maternity pads every three days, to give you an idea of how many packs you'll need! Try and change it BEFORE the first few breastfeeds, as feeding causes your uterus to contract, which can cause a bit of a flood. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:34pm
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Oh and that blood..there is heaps of it.
I remember walking along the corridor at the hosp with the midwife mopping it up after me. I got a bit wound up and had a bit of a cry!! It kind of smells towards the end too I think if I remember rightly!!! Yes and nipples are very sore and red and grazed but perserverance and sunlight and more of the little babies mouth are the best healing things for it!! -------------
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:37pm
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yeah i nearly fainted in the shower after i had Jayde. They thought they had gotten my bleeding under control. So went to go for a shower and these 2 huge (massive steak size) clots came out and i started gushing everywhere. So it was back to bed for me and no shower for a few more hours. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:41pm
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Yikes, I heard there would be blood but didn't realise it was heavy and contonuous for a little while!! I can see it will be a real nuisance to have to leave the house too soon after baby is born! Might have to start stocking up a little more!!
This is really good to know ladies, thanks for filling in us newbies 
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:43pm
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Oh and the haemorroid/pils things are like small grapes hanging out your bum!! Sorry if TMI. They are veins that pop out through pressure and straining. Usually they go Away with lots of fibre and water...but some can tear and cause Anal fissures which are bloody awful!! -------------
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:46pm
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BUY bulk loads of maternity surf life boat pads!! too! -------------
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:48pm
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I have a dumb question!
Is all this blood due to the extra 4 pints we get during pregnancy that just HAVE to come out? How do they know if you are haemorraging (sp?)? I'm with paws - I'll take option 3 please ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:50pm
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It's the lining of the uterus that has made Baby so comfortable for the last 9 months! Think of it as the worst period you've ever had, and you'll roughly prepared! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 1:52pm
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Yup thats it. The lining and everything coming away...
All ready for the next one!!! Mother Nature is clever! -------------
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 3:19pm
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EEEWWW remember to take LOTS of spare knickers to the hospital. The worst was giving them to DH to take home eachday and wash, I went through about 4 pairs each day and I was in there for 6.
My squishy tummy went away after about a week, but it is just flabby now!! No one told me I would be on such a high after the birth, I wouldn't be able to sleep that first night, just staring in wonder at that beautiful little sleeping baby in the crib next to me... aaahhh ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 3:26pm
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No one told me that when your milk comes in, it COMES IN! I got out of the bath on day 2 and dried myself then realised that I was dripping all over the floor. Only it wasn't from the bath, it was milk! I was so unprepared for how much of it there would be! ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 3:28pm
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The first 6 weeks are TOUGH! Then all of a sudden, everything clicks! Either Bub starts sleeping longer or you can cope on the lack of sleep, feeds start to happen at the right times, routines fall into place.
Life gets better! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 3:43pm
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Mmmmm... yeah bleeding... like 9 months of periods at once! hehehehe I bled for 6 weeks, so be prepared.
And peeing... ohhhhh myyyyy gosssshhhhhh... I remember my cousin making a rude joke about "Elbows on the floor" and it wasn't until I had perfected the "Pee without it stinging like a mo' fo'" position (which incidentally happened to be with my elbows on the floor) that I realised what she was talking about!!! So as Lena mentioned... Ural... lots of Ural. And yeah, the first poo you do is such a huge achievement. The whole idea of trying to push something out just freaks the hell out of you when you've just given birth, but once you do it you feel so proud! I told all my visitors that day  
And the baby blues... uncontrollable crying that just hits you sometime in the week after giving birth. I woke up one morning and started bawling... couldn't understand why and couldn't stop. Felt like I had absolutely lost it, but apparently it's normal!!! |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 3:51pm
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Oh yes ..those Baby Blues!!
They hit you for no aparent reason!! And you wonder what on earth is going on!! This all sounds like doom and gloom. Reality is lots of it happens but all goes away pretty soon when you all get into a nice routine and aches and pains and life goes back to half pie normal!!! -------------
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 3:57pm
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i was told all about laubour and brith and afterwards by my mum she has 5 kids and becs has 3 kids and i was still blown away by the baby bule one minunite siting eating next thing yelling at my mum for nothing and crying like a baby u think the hole worlds gonna end but it gets better ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 4:23pm
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OH MY GOSH that bleeding sounds so scarey!!! Can you walk around and stuff or do you leak too much if you do? Now I am scared....!!! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 4:47pm
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Oh, you can walk around and stuff... it really is just like having a really long, rather heavy period. The yuck factor comes from just how long it lasts, and also that there are some (sometimes large) blood clots in it. If the top layer of the placenta tears, then you can be passing spagetti like strips of stuff, which stings a little, but it's nothing to really worry about. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 5:35pm
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I wish I had decided what i wanted to do with my placenta as I hadnt had a chance to when i went into labour and my doctor asked me in the middle of contractions and i said just throw it out. Afterwards by the time i realsied what id said i spent a week going to diff hosp depts trying to trak it down but they had thrown it out ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 6:53pm
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Also with the bleeding, I found the VERY heavy bleeding had settled by about day 3-4, and then it was just like a normal period. The first few days I had to wear two pads,but it had settled by the time I left the hospital on day 4. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 7:19pm
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yeah i was the same as emma. the bleeding felt out of control in the first few hours afterwards and then for the next couple of days like a really really heavy period. by the time i got home it was like a regular period and just dragged on for about 6 weeks in total. r.e. the baby blues, take your own tissues to the hospital/birth centre! when i had my crying fit on day 3 they brought me these awful sandpaper ones and my nose was red raw by the time i got myself together! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and:
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 03 May 2006 at 8:38pm
| i don't think i ever got baby blues. i seemed to be the same most of the time. |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 7:14pm
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with me the baby blues were me crying with hapiness every time i remembered giving birth. The t-shirt ben was wearing wen he first held Jack used to make me cry wenever i looked at it, it still hasnt been washed. Also u forget the pain so quickly and u wish u cud go back and do it again cos its just so amazing. Those first few weeks are hell but one day u wake up and its OK ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 7:31pm
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I only got the baby blues thing once, about 4 days after JJ born, and he not feeding, so he had a nasogastric tube put in, Rod had gone home, and I sat on my bed, looking into his crib, seeing this helpless, tiny little thing with a great bloody tube up his nose... AND for about 4 months, eveery sunday from about 11.45 am till about 2pm, I owuld be re living the birth/afterwards thing in floods of tears of happiness....Am expecting to do that again on June 5.. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 8:38pm
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This is some mighty fine advice, ladies - hope you keep it coming (the books don't tell you most of this stuff!). I'm making a list of things to buy for the birth, thanks to your little gems in here - cheers! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 8:54pm
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lolol i started a list like this yonks ago te he he - and funnily enough pretty much all the same stuff has come up. I agree with the tummy thing - it's really weird like a marshmellow feeling - but it does go away as everything shrinks back - to a point.
For the birth - it sounds crazy - but i had no idea how big bubs head would be - midwife asked me to look down at 1 point just as paris was starting to crown and i remember thinking boy, that head is sooooo tiny - made me wonder why on earth it wasn't out yet if it was so tiny!!!lolololol.. so of course, made me push harder thinking she would pop out any minute - until the biggest part of the head hit and got that whole "ring of fire" thing at first the hot flannels were horrible, but 10 minutes later it was bliss!!! once she was out ifelt soooo embarassed at thinking her head was small te he he - glad i kept that one to myself. However I think the most important is that all the mummies-to-be know that while some have that instantanious love and bonding, for others it takes a fair while - you don't know what to feel, what to think, what to do... it's all so strange and you feel so horrible for not feeling how you think you SHOULD be feeling. TAke it all in your stride, and bit by bit it will all come together till one day you'll look back and realise that hey, you have a big bond with your bubs and you didn't even realise it! oooh and reading back, about the comment toni-akl made about the blood - someone already answered about the bleeding being your uterus lining which is correct - but it's also from the site where your placenta was - cos it takes a bit for your uterus to shrink back down and if you imagine that the muscle fibres of the uterus are like loose weaving, with blood vessels interwoven into them - it takes a while for the muscle to contract and squeeze off enough to squish those blood vessels - and you are kinda left with a big patch inside you (as id you had picked a scab i spose) that has to heal. The extra blood circulating during pregnancy is usually made up through volume - and is usually more fluid(plasma) that anything else... and that, is why after birth, you pee and pee and pee - cos your body no longer needs all that extra fluid - so it gets rid of it!! so not only do you bleed and leak alot - you also need to pee a fair amount too! sorry to be the barer of more bad news.  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 9:01pm
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yep that happen to me with bonding with james when i frist held him i didnt feel the way i thought u were spose to i hated myself for it but as jannie has said one day i woke up and now u counlnd pull him away from his loving mummy ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 9:01pm
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on the bonding thing, can I just say and some might disagree with me but while I understand skin to skin contact is important, dont stress if for some reason it doesnt happen. I think so much pressure is put into the first few minutes and bonding with your baby but if it cant happen it doesnt mean it wont. I only got to see Kobe for a minute before he was taken away but dont think I could have a stronger bond with him if I did have skin to skin contact. I remember going up to see him in NICU a few hours later and one of the nurses hit his head on the incubater (just really softly) as she was putting him back in and I went off my nut and wanted to hit her. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 9:17pm
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I definately don't disagree - i think bonding eventually happens not matter what cos babies have an inbuilt system which MAKES their mums form a bond with them. (brainy little things)
I don know for me though - with Paris i had a lot of trouble bonding with her, and i had PND, but then i also had her whisked away fairly quickly and given to mike cos i was bleeding - so all that fright combined with him holding her for the first hour or so mainly - may have contributed to that in some way. Birth events can play a large part, and it took me a long time to realise what impact that fewminutes of panic had on me - i used to wonder WHY i would get all cold and scared and panicky feeling whenever i used to read anyones birth stories. With Ayja, i insisted on skin to skin contact for the first hour at least - because i had had b-feeding probs with paris first time so wanted to do everything in my power this time to get it off to a good start. and while i then had a very fierce bond with her from the start, it was mike that suffered - and it took him a long time to get to be close to her. so skin to skin has it's pros and cons - it can be helpful but it's good to get a balance i think to help daddy bond too - Maybe, if possible, both daddy and mummy can lie on the bed together and daddy take his top off too, and baby can lie with them both - covered up of course - so both parents can get an equal opportunity to form that first bond. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 06 May 2006 at 2:29pm
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Yeah straight after Jack was born i felt nothing i held him and then he was given to ben and i didn't really want him back I got all stiched up and Jack has his first wee feed and i just wanted a shower. Later that night after ben had gone home I just sat there looking at Jack, it was only then that i started to bond with him. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 06 May 2006 at 2:31pm
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Another thing u will think u are so skinny just after u have bubs and u will think ur baby is the best looking baby. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 06 May 2006 at 9:38pm
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lolol yeah - till you look back on pics later on and go "oh my god, what the hell was that face?" of "oooooh look at the half bald eagle mullet!!" ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 2:26pm
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Things I learnt the second time around that I'll remember for this time:-
1) You can get a voltaren suppository after you've given birth that helps manage the after pains for a little while 2) Ask for a frozen maternity pad from the staff as soon as the baby and placenta are out - helps relieve bruising 3) Forget about maternity pads for the first day - a newborn baby nappy soaks up a lot more and prevents leaks - just fold over the tabs so that it is the same shape as an ultra big pad 4) Lactulose tastes a little bit better in half a glass of milk - and drink lots and lots of water 5) A few drops of tea trea oil in a spray bottle full of water can be conveniently sprayed in places that are bruised, grazed and hurt while you are in the bathroom and the diluted tea tree oil helps the healing 6) After pains with the second and subsequent kiddies hurt!!! I'm sure I'll learn lots more after this one too. Thanks for those who posted this topic! It's been good to remember and learn some more. ------------- |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 2:33pm
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wow! a newborn nappy really? I wonder how many people do this? ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 2:35pm
Ohh now im looking forward to feeling skinny hehe |
rachaelcampagnolo wrote:Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 2:42pm
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ha ha yes it must be the same as drunk-skinny - that special kind of skinny you feel when you have had a bottle of wine to youself and you look like a panda bear on heals but the refelction is telling you: YOU LOOK GREAT! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 2:55pm
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Re the baby blues - make sure you tell someone if it keeps going! Looking back now, I think I may have had a bit of mild PND, because I cried almost every day for a few weeks, but always put on a brave face. I can see now why it would have happened to - because my MIL almost died a few days before hannah was born and she was in Welly hosp in ICU for ages and I knew Daniel was torn between being with us and her, and when I came home it wasnt how its meant to be when you come home with your new baby - such a downer having that hanging over you. I would say stuff about what Hannah had done that day and he'd reply with something about his mum. I never really said anything because I didnt want him to feel bad. I also had really negative feelings about the birth and thought I hadnt done very well. All still makes me feel a bit upset now just thinking back... So anyway, make sure you talk to someone, because it could get worse ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 5:22pm
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oh yeah forgot about the suppositries (sp?) they are really good, I had voltarine and maybe just a panadol type thing and had no pain, my friend got neither and couldnt even sit down. Also apparently arnica is good, helps you heal faster I tried it but not sure if it was that or just me that helped. ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/">
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 10:06am
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re the newborn nappy thing - my midwife told me about it - and it worked so well!
The other one she said to do was if it hurt to pee for a few days afterwards to pee in the shower with the water spraying on the area. Thankfully I didn't have to, but taking citravescent (sp) seems a better alternative. Lol - looking forward to the thinking I'm skinny and squishing the floppy post baby belly into a pair of my old jeans again... ------------- |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 2:26pm
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I wish I had also known......first time around...for the first few weeks after!!!
Not to worry about cooking dinner every night for us. Not to worry about washing as it can wait til partner is home on the weekend and do it all then. To make sure I slept when baby was sleeping during the day. To go to bed when baby went to bed at night! To relax and forget about being Superwoman..enjoy baby and get as much sleep as possible! -------------
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 3:11pm
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yeah I used to sleep when baby did to and it was great. He would wake at 6am for a bottle be back in bed by about 7 at the latest then i would put some washing on adn quickly vacum then jump back into bed till he woke at 10am. wont be able to do it this time round though.
My SIL has already said rather than buying a present for this baby she will cook a heap of meals that we can freeze which I thought was a great idea. |