Do any working mums-to-be feel like this?
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Topic: Do any working mums-to-be feel like this?
Posted By: Paws
Subject: Do any working mums-to-be feel like this?
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:04am
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I'm finding that with 16 weeks to go, my motivation at work is totally exhausted. I have no interest. Zip. Zero. Nada. Nothing.
It's kind of frustrating because I have to work so we can buy the stuff we need to reduce debt yadda yadda yadda but honestly all I'm interested in is going home, putting my feet up, chilling and waiting for our little princess to arrive. It seems to be worse now that we know the gender and can think of our bubs by the name we plan to give her. Is it just me or do other working mums-to-be feel the same way (or did other mums feel the same?) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:12am
Yup I DEFINATELY feel the same!!! I just don't care anymore  But like you said, bills still have to be paid etc and I plan to come back to work when bubs is around 10 months or so, so I really can't get on the bad side of my boss!!------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:22am
| Yes I feel the same way too, and I find it hard to care about the work related problems that people are having and want me to resolve. I know it's my job but I'm not about to stress myself over something stupid. |
Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:24am
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Yes i know that feeling!! I would love to be at home and get to sleep in etc.
I have 12 weeks left of work and am seriously counting the days. I think that for me being at work is better than being at home because at least i am doing something whereas if i was at home i would be a potato  
If only we could get paid for doing nothing or just for being pregnant   ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:27am
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yes! all you want to do is sit quietly and wait for bubs to arrive.... and it gets worse the further along you are. ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe -  my big 4 year old 
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: camerons mummie
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:34am
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Yea i felt the same. I hated leaving my son in the morning to go to work just cause i knew i would never get that time back with him when number 2 comes. But now ia m not working. so i can spend time with him and get some rest ------------- http://www.justmommies.com/pregnancy_calendar.php"> 
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Posted By: shelleybean
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:41am
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Gosh I'm the same and I have about 4.5 months of work left - hehehehehehe. But time will soon fly..... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:46am
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Come to think of it ...I felt that way too...but I worked up untill I was 39 weeks....Like you I wanted to earn as much as possible so that I can buy my little girl all the cutie cutie (expensive) stuff!!!
Just think ...work...money...cutie cutie stuff for baby...and the time will fly! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:50am
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I'm finishing up one month before and the last 3 weeks I'm using annual leave to make them all 4 day weeks.
It still seems like ages though! Hopefully it will fly by though... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:52am
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I am soooo the same - just hating work now, lost all interest in things that I used to think were inportant - even worse I have now started doubting I even want to come back to my job, whic I have worked really hard to get over the past 5 years - I have to work cos we have responsibilities to meet (mortage, cars, etc etc blah blah) but I am thinking I want to change to something that is more slow pace and more work at home - looking into it now but it will mean a financial sacrifice ofcourse - not only has my love of my job changed, my priorities have been completely tipped upside down...
I have 16 weeks of work left and i CANT WAIT to get out of this place and get ready for baby! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 10:53am
| i havent worked for sooooooooooo LONG! but im sure i'd be feeling the same. i left work real early in my first pregnancy because of health reasons and other things.... in some ways it would of been nice to of had a bit more money to buy "special" things, but we were fine on our one income (it was pretty pathetic income too!) and i am grateful for the time i had off relaxing and enjoying myself before jade arrived. and i didnt stop work all together, i worked part time whenever i felt like it. it was GREAT! again though i had health reasons to leave and i needed to rest for mine and jades own good. |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 11:00am
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Mrs Frantic....I'm the same...I'm doubting I want to come back to work and quite frankly considering the cost of child care we're doubting if it is worth it...
At this stage I would only have to come back if we want to buy a house...but as bad as this may sound...it's not a priorty for us...I'd rather sacrifice buying a house now and wait until say the kids are at school, than go back to work after 14 weeks! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 11:06am
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Yep, I've got health probs preventing me from working more than one half-day a week this year, and I really loved that little job, but now, I'm so OVER it!! There's a chance the job might end a school term before I'd planned to leave it, and the only thing I'd miss is the wee pay-packet. I just want those extra few pinga's for baby things, and that's the only reason I agreed to stay on another term from what I'd originally said. And I wouldn't return to the same work when I do eventually return to work (part-time, many years from now, realistically). I've practiced social work for years now, and now that I'm pregnant, I'm just not willing to put myself in some of the dodgy situations I've been in before. I'll be looking at other work! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 11:15am
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I can tell you that IT WAS HARD to come back to work after 15 weeks and I cried the day before.....but once I started it was not too bad. Mind you I went home three times on my break to feed her for the first 13 weeks and now I only go at my lunch time.
I guess it is easier for me as my Aunt comes to my place to look after Zaara....but I can totally understand what you guys are feeling. I just could not afford to stay home...with a mortage and other bills to pay......oh well!!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 11:21am
I was saying the exact same thing to my hubby this morning! I'm soooooooo tired this week (getting over a nasty cold) and I'm finding it really hard to do anything at work. I LOVE my job, always have and worked really hard to get here, but right now I couldn't give a rats if any of the projects I'm supposed to have completed by the end of June are done or not  .
My maternity leave start date is very flexible but unfortunately our morgage isn't or else I would be at home right now waiting for our lil' kicker to arrive ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 12:49pm
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I agree with you PAWS, the cost of childcare is huge! The centre closest to my work would cost $250 per week for the baby when I go back to work - $1000 per month is a lot of money to take off your paycheck - unfortunately it is still better for me to go to work and pay the childcare financially than not to, and even more unfortunately I earn the most in our house, and MOST unfortunately we have a large mortgage already and I HAVE to work, but maybe I can change my job to be more flexible and more at home - hoepfully I can...
AT the moment wihtout any alternatives I will have to go back to work after 12 weeks of leave (meaning baby could be as young as 8 weeks -*UGH* it breaks my heart!) but I am scheming constantly to find somethign else!!! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 5:21pm
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One word: YES ! ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 6:28pm
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yes yes and yes!!
I have just reduced my hours as well but still cant be bothered. Just want to be at home and with other Mums who are at home having a cup of tea!! I dont want to ever go back to work but with the House and stuff may have too. I am trying to work it out at the moment. I am hoping to only do 15 hours or so after having 3-6 months off. Possibly even looking at being a Care giver and making some money that was. Then I can stay at home!!! MONEY MONEY MONEY! -------------  
 
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 6:36pm
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Ooops that came out wrong!!
With other "waiting" expectant Mums having a cup of tea!!! -------------
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 04 May 2006 at 6:56pm
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Yep, and I love my job, and I work from home. So I really have no excuse to be so unmotivated and lazy.
Maya's daycare centre was $180 a week full time Mrs Frantic, so if you shop around you might find somewhere cheaper. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
 (02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Leish
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 6:27am
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Paws - totally understand where you are coming from on the buying a house front. We were thinking about doing the buying a house thing recently but when we thought about the prospect of me HAVING to go back to work after having baby (when I get pregnant of course) to afford a mortgage - we decided that it would be better for us to hold off playing the mortgage game till after we finish having a bubs and I am ready to go back to work. I don't think I would take lots of time off work but we don't want to be pressured to feel that I HAVE to go back. We haven't really made the whole home ownership thing a very high priority for us and have never felt the need to buy - strange as that may sound to some other people - but Paws - it's sooooo nice to hear of someone that seems to feel the same. Most people just give us lectures about wasting money etc etc etc etc but I think that if you aren't ready to do it, you just shouldn't
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 May 2006 at 3:03pm
dean wants me to go back to work when #2 is about 12mths but i just don't want to go back at all!! 
i am soooo lazy and unmotivated to work, i just want to spend all my time with my kids.
mrs frantic, i was working part-time and jack was in daycare from 9.30-3.30pm, it was $110/wk. it hardly seemed worth it to me, but the extra $$ were nice, then after 5wks of working i told them i was pregnant and we mutally decided it was best they find someone else for the job. i was glad as i'd come home from work exhausted and too tired to do any of the 'at home work'. hehehe, so in a very round-about-way.....YES ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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