Addictions
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Topic: Addictions
Posted By: mummy_becks
Subject: Addictions
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:02pm
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SO DH said I have 2 addictions (the computer and smokes) and I have to give them both up. Last Friday I had my last smoke (haven't had one since but my god I have so wanted to. Last night he told me that I have a problem with the computer and to stop going on it. So I told him which one is it to give up the smokes or the computer. He said the computer and I can start smoking again. I do but I don't as I have done so well over the past week. How do I cut down on the computer time after work??? ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:19pm
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i would tell him the computer doesn't have the potential to give you lung cancer! or cost heaps of money. you've done really well to get this far Becks - don't give up!!!
as for cutting computer time - what about a timer - you can download one - set it for an hour and after that - times up and it goes off. |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:19pm
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I tend to go online when Issy goes to bed (as opposed to when I get home from work).
And why would he tell you to smoke instead of use the computer?? Thats just crazy! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:22pm
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He's probably wanting to spend more time together as a family. I know my DP sometimes thinks I spend too much time on the comp lol. Now I usually wait til everyone is in bed. ------------- 
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Posted By: Bubbaloo
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:27pm
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Wow can't believe he would rather you smoke than be on the comp. I would do what the others have said and just go on the comp when the kids have gone to bed.
By the way congrats on lasting the first week you have done so well please don't give up. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Was danni-chick Mum to James My Angel 28/07/08 |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:29pm
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You've done really well Becks, don't let him encourage you back to smoking since you've been wanting to stop for ages. You could assign computer free days and as others have said set aside specific times, an hour after the kids head to bed for instance. -------------  
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:39pm
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I usually do go on it when the boys are in bed. What I don't get is that he is gone in 6 days back to work (as in I won't see him as he will be in the field and then down to Linton). At the moment I spend about 1-1 1/2 on the computer a day (not including work time) so I don't think that is that much (and I do it when he goes for a run). ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 8:49pm
I'd say bite me. Willie told the Mothercraft nurse that the computer is my other 'baby', I told him to mind his own business  .
How about cutting down the time you're on it? I've done that recently, kind of without even trying coz my computer died then it's been Xmas etc. but I find myself not even wanting to have it on during the day whereas before I had it on 24-7 and was always saying "oh I just need to check something" as an excuse to get online. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:04pm
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What does he expect you to do when you aren't on the computer?
You've done great with giving up the smokes, I'd stick with it. The timer thing is a great idea too. We ended up with two computers in our house, cause DH had to wait for me to finish. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:11pm
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Don't start smoking again, tell him to piss off! Thats just crazy, smoking is a more expensive habit than the computer.
I only go on the computer now when the kids are in bed. I have a curfew of 10pm sometimes earlier. I don't "need" it as much as I used too. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: gannet
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:25pm
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Posted By: Danaj
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:28pm
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Doesn't really make sense to me becks. An hour and a half is not long at all especially if he is out for a run.
I'm still struggling with the smoking cravings too. I'm going to find it so hard not to start again after bubs is born and DH is back at work. I'll be your no smoking buddy if you want? I know i've been off them for longer but I'm still having major cravings several times a day and even the mood swings. Must be something to do with being pg as I don't think they usually last this long. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/weight-loss/wyI1oWn/"> 
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 09 January 2009 at 9:40pm
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Don't start smoking again - you've done so well.
But if you know how to crack the computer addiction, please let me know  ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 7:50am
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Yes dont start smoking again you are doing well.
You need computer time |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 9:19am
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I agree with everyone .
What crazy talk hes talking, another reason on the very long list of why I give men a patient "your'e a SPECIAL person :" smile whenever they talk to me .... ------------- 
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 10:08am
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go with the non smoking much more healthier! and what would you do without us!!!
my DH thinks he should join ohbaby and facebook then he could log on upstairs and we could chat! lol ohh hes coming better get off so he doesnt think thats what I do all day! ------------- http://lilypie.com">    [/url]
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Posted By: Danaj
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 10:33am
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Make him sleep in the garage. Then he wont see how long you spend on the pooter lol. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/weight-loss/wyI1oWn/">
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Posted By: nictoddie
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 12:09pm
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I agree with the others don't start smoking again! and yup bite me too lol, I actually don't think that is long to be online, my comp is on most of the day like Emma's was, but since having Sam I don't go on as much babies are very time consuming lol! ------------- 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 12:10pm
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Hahaha. Those are my two addictions and my DH has been onto me about them both also.
He sits there and reads his book while im on the computer. So i dont see what the difference is? At least I respond to him in a timely manner when he asks me a question. He has to finish his sentence, put his finger on the word, then peer over his book. And hes usually not very happy that ive interupted him. I say keep up with the not smoking. ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 12:42pm
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Congrats on 7 days smokefree!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4
 
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That is an awesome achievement!!
I am no help on the computer addiction, although I try to limit to when D is napping and when they are in bed. Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 10 January 2009 at 4:04pm
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There is no way he should a) expect you to give up smoking and the computer at the same time and b) to give up the computer over smoking!!!!!
Smoking is a habit that will kill you and is expensive, being on the PC for 1.5 hrs a day won't. Plus if he's not home when you're on it, what's the problem? I feel as long as the kids are fed and looked after, they have clean clothes on, and the dishes are clean - why can't you have some "you" time once a day, or every second day.
My only addiction is the PC, and Dh has issues with it sometimes, but men have their addictions like Playstation, Xbox, watching sports etc, so why can't we have our "thing" too? It's my contact with the outside world when I'm stuck at home most of the day.
You've done sooo well to be smokefree for this long, don't give up now!!! ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 11 January 2009 at 4:42pm
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I haven't been on in AGES, as it is my addiction as well (and coke zero, too) and as our marriage is in the crapper, I have made an effort to stay off the computer to spend more time with him,as he said it is the one thing he hates the most, the amount of time I spend on the net. It has helped that he has been home since xmas eve and I have already made plans for my childfree time inthe morning and it osen't include getting in here!
What I have enjoyed the most about not turning the pc on at all is the amount of reading I have done! I read about 5 books this last week. Even last night when R was at the pub (sat night is usually my HUGE night online, lol) I didn't even think about turning it on. In fact it is only on now as I had to check my emails for something so as I have no excuse tomorrow morning! So maybe make an effort for say one PC free night a week? Hugs chick, and well done on the smoking stopping thing. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: TraceyA
Date Posted: 11 January 2009 at 5:36pm
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It is actually impossible for you to assert self-control over two things at once. If you try, you will end up failing both things (I'll see if I can dredge up that research for you).
Please stick with the non-smoking! The total lifespan you will save is so much longer then if you were on the computer less
And as the others have said, if your on it for fun when he goes for a run, aka - he's not even home!, then he needs to pull his head in. If it's taking time out of your couple or family time then he might have a bit of a point. I'd just let this one ride out for a while (especially if he's going to be away). ------------- TTC #2 |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 11 January 2009 at 5:46pm
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I have to admint I had a smoke today. I was helping my friend move house and she just gave one to me (out of habit, and I just took it out of habit), after I had it I was like WTF and didn't ahve any more after that. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |