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Topic: feeling disappointed
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: feeling disappointed
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 3:12pm
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It has been decided between the midwife and myself to put Rhiannon on one feed of formula a night as her weight gain is only around 50 - 75gms a week, we think that although i am getting enough milk through that it just isnt good quality even though i am doing everything right.
So i am feeling a little disappointed but i know within myself that its the best thing to do, and hopefully she will start to grow. Rhiannon is 4 wks this week and is only 275gms over her birth weight, it was expected for her to be at 6lbs by now. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 3:29pm
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sorry to hear that kazzle! at least you get to keep feeding her yourself too. you're doing your best for her and you should give yourself big credit for that.
fingers crossed she starts stacking on the weight for you.  ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 3:32pm
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dont be too hard on yourself. at least there was weight gain, and had she grown in length?. some babies just dont put on heaps of weight. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 3:37pm
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I know it's hard to start supplimenting with formula, especially when you're doing everything right! Chin up, you are doing what's best for your girl, and that's what really counts.
Kazzle We're here for you! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 4:43pm
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thanx guys, its so good to know that there are ppl around that understand and are non judgemental.
So any info on infant formula will be a great help. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 5:02pm
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Hey Kazzle you are doing a fantastic job. The only thing i would say is have you spoken to a lactation consulatant? The only reason im asking is that in a post a few days ago you were very reluctant to go onto formula. Im not saying that your midwife isnt anygood its just that sometimes they dont have all correct info to help us mums make an informed decison. There are lots of natural things you can take such and fennal and there is a breastfeeding tea you can drink which helps improve your milk if breast feeding is the way you want to stay.
Re formula I would go to your gp and get some samples and see if she will take any of them. Good luck with which ever way you go. Your doing whats best for you and Rhiannon. Dont feel pressured about weight too. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: robyn
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 5:26pm
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Sorry to hear that, more for the fact you are disappointed rather than having to formula feed becuase I dont see anything wrong with it but understand you must be feeling a bit down about it. Kobe was formula feed from just about day one and he is a BIG strong boy with no problems at all if that helps. We just nurture starter formula because the staff in the NICU said it was a lot gentler on wee ones tummies I think its whey based rather than dairy or something like that. Try some samples and see what suits baby though. Good luck, it sounds like you are doing a great job ------------- KOBE born 19 March 2004 http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 5:47pm
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its kinda a catch 22 for me you see 15mths ago i had my stomach stapled, and to date have lost just under 70kgs. without having that op there is no way i would have gotten pregnant (which has been a blessing) but the down side is that now i can not eat a lot, which is what we think is the cause for not having good quality milk.
I have just been talking/crying to my mum and she pointed out to me that in the past 15mths i have had a gastric bypass, gotten pregnant and had a c section so its probably not surprising that my body is just not coping with the demand baby is putting on it for milk. I am already taking lactose AOK which is a liquid to help promote milk flow, i am making myself eat every couple of hours, i am only drinking water, but i think its just one of those things. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 7:12pm
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Big hugs, Kazzle. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 8:14pm
big big hugs kazzle everyone is right u r doing a wicked job with bubs dont be to hard on yourself somtimes it just dos,nt work the way we want it to even when doing everything right turst me i no  ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 08 May 2006 at 8:23pm
Kazzle you're doing so well with breastfeeding and it's not like you're going to completely change to FF, don't beat yourself up about it 
Do ring the La Leche league even just to talk to someone, they're in the phone book. Explain your situation and see if they have any advice, they're good to talk to. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 1:02am
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Hey Kazzel I know how you feel. I didnt have the best milk production when I had the boys which stressed me out big time and i tried everything. one of the neonat nurses suggested having a guiness (which I hate so had a larger instead lol) as beer can help. I tried the nursing tea. I tried expressing every 2 hrs and I also went on persription(sp?) medication as well as spending hours with the lactating consultant. I ate properly and drunk heaps of water and in the end none of it helped.
In the end some woman can produce the milk easily and some of us can't and for those of us that can't we seem to take on a huge amount of guilt for having to supplement with formula. Im all for b/f but from experience i feel we are so pro b/f that those of us that have probs or chose not to can get abit of a hard time. Just remember you are doing whats best for your girl oh and Im with robyn - I used Nuture as well for Keegan ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 7:38am
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well we tried formula last night, (nuture), we have just brought some sachets to try so we dont spend heaps on a tin of something she wont eat.
anyway she guts down about 80mls then threw up (it was so funny as my husband was feeding her and he got covered )
She then had about another 10mls and just lay there, ive not seen her do this, she was content to just lie there and stare at me, i put her to bed at 10.45pm and she woke up at 5.45am, and feed from both sides and is now lying in her car seat, wide awake but very content, I do have to admit though i was jealous of my husband feeding her last night as thats been my thing for 4 wks, and im pleased she was full last night but it has made me sad to think that maybe she was going to be hungry. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 8:05am
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Oh such a wonderful feeling of relief aye. Thats great news. Ill keep my fingers crossed that she keeps enjoying her nighttime bottle. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 8:29am
| Hey Kazzle. I was the same as you. taine went to formula feeding during my uni course and suddenly he was different content baby. He was before, but always wanted the boob. Went to nanas and slept for hours and hours after a bottle. Although I've always been pro- whatever is good for baby, I felt guilty for not "trying harder". my milk was probably not as good as it could have been, due to running around after Jake all day. Anyway, after talking to mum, who told me not to be so stupid, and that having a happy contented FULLL baby was more important than me breastfeeding, I feel better now. |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 8:53am
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kazzle i doubt she was going hungry - you would have known about it if she was. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 09 May 2006 at 12:09pm
| my friend struggled with her hubby feeding baby for a while to but in the end she just enjoyed the freedom it gave her. my DH loved being able to share the feeding and it helped him bond with Kobe even more. One of the good things about formula is you know how much they are getting which makes for a contented full little baby. Good on you for giving it a go. |