Need some advice
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Topic: Need some advice
Posted By: Oxy
Subject: Need some advice
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 4:06pm
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Hi everyone
Does anyone else have the same problem as me im not working at the moment as i would rather stay home then work but my partner now has to support me now that im no long doing my computer course he doesnt get a lot of money and i know it would be better if i was working but i dont want to get a job now and then have me leave because i got pregnant and i also dont want be to go on the benefit anymore can i get some kind of job working from home to help pay the bills ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow">  TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 4:14pm
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I think the majority of us would rather be at home or doing other things than working! However in saying that I would go insane with boredom!!! I started a new job in Sept and told my boss that my partner and I were looking at trying to conceive this year, he was really cool about it. However in saying that I am lucky and that if I need to work from home for a while I can as I can access works computer network from home - alot of it is computer based and I work in Sales any way so I am not tied to the office.
I don't know how you feel about the home based care thing ie PORSE! It may be something to look into as when you have bubba you can look after your own while looking after others. I'm not sure what is involved but might be worth a look. Also as you mentioned about computers (unsure what area) why don't you look at providing secretarial skills (assuming you have those kinds of skills). Perhaps make some phone calls to smaller type businesses to see whether you could provide a service rather than them having to employ somebody. There's probably a number of options, the skies the limit really depending on what you want to do. Long post sorry. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 6:03pm
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I was aprehensive in starting a new job due to TTC, but im really glad i did, as its taken a lot longer than i thought it would. I havent told my boss yet, I was worried i would be held over for promotions and have had a couple of promotions since i started back in July.
I would like to give her a heads up cos she is an awesome boss but i dont really want her to needless worry about me taking leave before she needs to. I would kill to be home more and if i really pushed the issue i could probably do a few hours from home, but i really enjoy going into the office and socialising. If i want a half day she is really good and if any urgent work comes thru she emails it through to me (im a coordinator for homecare which means i do alot more work in the evenings and weekends too) Sorry that i cant help with what businesses are out there that you can do from home, i just hit the jackpot with mine and couldnt have got a better job to work in when i am PG. Alls i can say is dont put your life on hold for "when" you get preg cos like me it might take a bit longer, but hopefully it wont cos i dont wish the Waiting game on anyone!!! |
Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 6:23pm
I have to agree with Chickielou, you can't put your life on hold. You have to keep things as normal as poss until you actually become preg. Hopefully it won't take ages but you never know. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 6:29pm
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I agree with not putting your life on hold - you will have at least 8mths of working even if you did get preg as soon as you got a job.
It's also quite good to be working up until you have a bub as you then you qualify for paid parental leave. Your employer also needs to hold your job open for 12mths so you have got the option of going back to work after having bubs, which is great, and a lot of employers are happy to negotiate part-time hours for Mums. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AuntieSarah
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 6:55pm
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Agree with the others - don't put your life on hold! I got pregnant a couple of weeks after starting my new job and they were really good about it and it was all fine Obviously you want it to happen quickly but you never know how long it's going to take to conceive. And even if you get pregnant straight away you'll still probably work there for 8 months or so - it's not like you're starting and then leaving a month later. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: monkey33
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 9:05pm
I agree
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asicsgal wrote:Posted By: Emily281
Date Posted: 27 January 2009 at 9:14pm
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I have to agree with the others ... don't put your life on hold - it can take up to 12 months for a 'normal' couple to get pg and the average is around 6 months. So you could be working for anywhere from 8-20 months at a new job before baby arrives.
Also, I don't know your situation but it does seem a bit unfair on your DH. Finally, if money is tight now, it will be that much tighter when you do have a baby. So working now will allow you to save some money and as long as you have been in your job 6 months you will be eligbile for paid maternity leave. And if you have been there 12 months they have to hold your job open for you for 12 months so you can take up to 12 months off after having a baby and if you decide you don't want to go back you don't have to - although you should probably tell your boss sooner rather than later once you make that decision. And yes there are jobs you can do from home - just depends what you are into and what sort of work you want to do. ------------- TTC#1: Jan 07 Aug 08: Lap found and excised Stage 3 Endo Nov 08: 2nd lap clear - given OK to TTC after next AF |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 29 January 2009 at 8:29pm
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Yip agree with the others, I would love to be able to stay home and sew for my future babies (haha silly) than go to work but tell you something, I would have sewn a house load of clothes by now if I had of stayed home since I started trying. You just don't know how long it is gonna take.
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 29 January 2009 at 8:40pm
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Do you have office skills? I'm an office temp at the moment got laid off last year, and haven't been able to find anything permanent.
The job I've got at the moment suits me fine, I"m covering for someone who has gone on maternity, and their is a second lady who is due in June so I'll be covering for her too. It suits me fine as I will become a full time student once I'm on maternity leave, and this way I've got $$ coming in for the next 12-18 months while we TTC. Why did you do your course, if you're not going to use it? ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 30 January 2009 at 6:56am
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Hi Mrsg1
The office skills i have are excel, word, powerpoint, publisher etc You said why i dont use them i do at home sometimes i only did the course to get winz off my case and to get some computer skills for myself I dont really want to work in an office i dont know what i want to do for a job ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow"> TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 30 January 2009 at 7:21am
| Winz are "on your case" for your own good! Take their advice and the advice of the ladies on here. If you can work, then work.There are people out there who would love to be in your position but can't work. If you are worried you won't enjoy it, do temping. Good luck! |
Posted By: Oxy
Date Posted: 30 January 2009 at 7:45am
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I dont deal with winz anymore temping could be an option. I do know where you are coming from. The other problem i have is trying to find a job close to home which isnt easy. I dont have a car and buses cost to much money and i would like to work part time ------------- http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/250ed1" rel="nofollow"> TTC#1 Jan 2009 |
Posted By: Treen
Date Posted: 30 January 2009 at 10:50am
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I left my full time job 18 months ago in order to find something less demanding that I could do while being a mum. I now work as a freelance writer which means I'm at home a lot. Another thing I'm looking into is starting up something online. A lot of people make a living out of selling stuff on trademe and creating their own websites for small businesses etc. Perhaps there's something in that you might be interested in?
Starting a small business can cost a lot of money up front, but I do believe WINZ offers grants and can put you in touch with business mentors. There are a lot of people out there who are really keen on helping others hone in that entrepreneurial spirit all kiwis have. Find what you're passionate about and make a living out of it. |